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Don't #FixMyLife: Did Oprah Need to Put Jay Williams and His 34 Kids by 17 Women on OWN to Teach us Forgiveness? 

So apparently some of y’all are questioning Iyanla Vanzant’s “motives.” Shame on you belov-eds! 

But let's call a thing a thing - I have never seen someone who claims to be a life coach so obsessed with what other people are saying about her. Iyanla, Beloved, you can count me among those questioning your motives.

Remember when Oprah launched the Oprah Winfrey Network with the promise that the network was going to be inspiring us all to live our best lives? It actually happened. Well after an initial launch of goodness and light, Oprah embraced the high-quality storytelling of Tyler Perry and buried the hatchet with Iyanla Vanzant and embraced a Black audience... for now. That’s not an unheard of strategy, FOX did it, the CW, formerly UPN did it. 

My Twitter timeline has exploded each week Jay Williams with 34 children by 17 or so different women has been on Iyanla’s Fix my Life. Realizing the rating boondoggle that this dysfunctional family presented, Iyanla has now stretched the melodrama surrounding this narcissistic misogynist and his brood to a five week series and don’t be surprised if Oprah gives Jay and his family their own spin off. 

In all the blog posts I have seen about Jay and dysfunctional situation ( because if they were functional, Iyanla wouldn’t be there) I have yet to see anyone question why Oprah Winfrey choose to give over her platform to broadcast this dysfunction.

To hear Iyanla tell it, Jay Williams and his dysfunction are a gift to all of US:

I now understand that the Jay Williams story is all about self-value, self-respect and self-worth gone awry because of the lack of effective and meaningful conversations and much-needed instruction at every level of society.  There are moments in time when we find ourselves in the midst of a sacred experience, a time of change, an opportunity for healing that can leave us breathless or totally confused. Iyanla Vanzant 

When non-Black people have several dozen children, they get uplifting family dramas on television like the Duggars. We get Juaamne, 34 who has six children by four women, Terrance who has four children by two different women, Nathaniel, 28 children by 17 different women. All were featured on the Jay Williams mini-series on OWN.

Did we really need so see this level of dysfunction in order to learn forgiveness?

Can Iyanla really fix this level of dysfunction within dysfunction on top of dysfunction?

Is it possible to talk about a highly dysfunctional Black man without Black women taking the blame?


No, no, and no.

The truth is that Jay Williams has 34 children by 17 women because he hates women. It really isn’t more complicated than that. Because only a man who hated women would impregnate three or more of them AT THE SAME TIME and then walk away from them and leave them to fend for themselves. 


Iyanla is going to drag this misogynist and his narcissim out for as long as possible:



  • If this story is actually what I believe it to be, a wake-up call from the universe, men will stop making excuses, women will stop being angry, and people will start talking and healing the things that really matter: relationships, families and our collective investment in the future of this world. People may not agree about why I do what I do the way I do it. They may continue to question my motives, intentions and the size of my paycheck. That will not make this story or the issues it has placed on the table of public conversation go away. One man, one story, has opened the floodgates of healing, growth and a new reality. We simply must do better. Iyanla Vanzant


Yeah, I can learn something from a man who abandoned 34 children and gave family planning less thought than what he was going to eat for breakfast, but I’d love to hear more from Black folks who are doing just fine. I can learn from them too. Oprah and Iyanla should just admit they gave over to ratchetness for ratings. 


For those of you wondering where the functional Black families are hanging out, I would suggest HGTV and the Food Network ( except the Neelys - turns out their PDAs during cooking were all lies!).You know what would be really awesome? A totally intact, highly functioning Black family on a road trip. Or a cooking competition between some highly functional Black families. We aren’t like Big Foot, Santa or the Tooth Fairy. We’re all over my Facebook timeline. 

So belov-eds let’s call a thing a thing - Everyone involved in this Jay Williams/ Iyanla Vanzant vortex of foolishness need intensive counseling - mental health, family planning, financial literacy and probably a half a dozen other specialties. 


It’s not “judging” all involved to say that a television show is the LAST place any of these people belong. 


Why Tyler Perry Keeps #Winning and What it Will Take to Vanquish Him

So Tyler Perry released his latest movie last weekend called the Last Temptation of Madea. Apparently it's a PG-13 erotic thriller. I won't spoil it for you, but the professional Black woman is evil and apparently she must be punished for leaving the "good Black man" who only wants to love her professional Black woman devilishness!

I have not seen the movie and will not see it until you pay me a fee of $25,000. I originally was only charging $250 to see it, but the write-ups and editorials have been so traumatic that I had to increase my hazard pay. 

As is now the custom, after every single tyler Perry movie, we have the first wave of negative reviews followed quickly by the social impications of the widespread dissemination of Mr. Perry's faux-theological propaganda. 

Some people are upset that Tyler (once again) uses HIV as a plot device to punish villains in movies. 

Some people are upset about how Tyler portrayed what some are describing as a rape in the movie ( haven't seen it- don't know)

And then there's this latest gambit with Madea teaming up with Miss Sophia from the Color Purple- Paging Alice Walker!

My advice is that we all collectively quit our bellyaching!


None of it matters!


Your outrage is irrelevant. 

Your disdain and derision are for naught.

Tyler Perry's winning and there is nothing you can do to stop him. He's going to be making movies as long as there is breath in his body and your children's children's children's children will be watching his work. In the same way that I stayed up for 6 hours to watch The Ten Commandments during Easter weekend. 

Nope, Tyler's winning as long as he's producing what he wants.

The only way to beat him at this point is to join him. Flood the market with movies based on contorted interpretations of the bible and prey on the soft squishy minds of people who go to church and never quite manage to read any of the Bible verses they don't like. Target the Black folks who resent other Black people who went to college and got degrees. Target the Black women who think that they are single because God hasn't "sent" them a man yet- KEEP WAITING! Target the folks who think they've been ignored and marginalized and give 'em what they want.  

No seriously. It's the only way to end this scourge across the land you so lament. And it's happened before. Roger Corman was cranking out kooky low budget scifi movies and then Steven Spielberg and George Lucas took the same concept and threw bucket loads of money and production value at the same concept:

In the ’70s, the era of the blockbuster emerged with filmmakers who took Corman’s formula to the next level by adding big money and more refined talent to the mix. “Steven Spielberg and George Lucas were obviously influenced by Corman when they made Jaws and Star Wars,” Stapleton says. “And James Cameron, who started his career working for Corman, has consistently proven that you can make epic films that are based 100 percent on the structure of Corman-style genre pictures.” Wired.

The thing is that if Tyler Perry is as horrible a writer as we all think he is, it shouldn't be THAT hard to co-opt him. Except while we're on the sidelines criticizing him, he's still producing content... which means he wins. 

So there is your Tyler Perry post. I have now cross this one off of my To Do list- until next month when he releases his next movie.