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Nov102008

Julia Hudson 's MySpace Madness: Misunderstood, Mentally Ill, or Run-of-the-Mill Stupid?

Monday, November 10, 2008 at 7:00AM

Is Julia Hudson the most misunderstood grieving mother in America? There but for the grace of God go any of us. Few people on earth can know what it feels like to lose their mother and their child in a single instance -let alone go through the additional loss of a sibling. There isn't any model for the "appropriate" range of emotions a person is supposed to feel, but there is an acceptable range for what they should display publicly. Sorry, its true. Irrespective of how someone grieves, society's dictates are not applied on a case by case basis. There is a range of acceptable public displays, and when you fall outside of that range, its generally a bad look. Case in point, Julia Hudson's MySpace Misadventures. Human beings are entitled to grieve in their own time, HOWEVER when you offer up an invitation to the world to witness and comment on various aspects of that grief through the Madness of Myspace, then you assume the risk that we might take you up on said offer. A week and a half ago, I urged Julia Hudson to make her public MySpace page private. She took my advice, but not before assembling a sizable number of Myspace Friends who continue to be able to view her MySpace postings. Prior to going "private" on Myspace, bloggers were fascinated by the fact that Julia Hudson was continuing to accept Myspace friends even has her son Julian was missing. Her postings were foul and riddled with coarse, sometimes sexually explicit language and the page contained photographs of her "husband" William Balfour who was a "person of interest" in the execution of Julia's family. On last week however, news broke that Julia had made some "updates" to her MySpace page with photos that appear to be before or after the memorial service held for her family. Julia takes time to introduce us to her "new boo." She stands in the background of a photo of Fantasia Barrino asking "who's the bigger star Tasia or me". But perhaps the most disturbing to those of you who felt the need to email me is a group photograph that says now that Julia's brother Jason Hudson is gone, Julia is now "the prettiest one." Apparently Jason used to joke that he was the "prettiest" of the three Hudson siblings. You can see all the photos at TMZ, Sandra Rose, and The YBF. I am going to assume that Julia's Myspace page has not been hacked and that she is the person responsible for its current appearance OTHERWISE we should have heard a vocal and adamant denial of these recently posted pictures. In other words, Julia was providing additional evidence to cement the conclusions many people have begun to leap to, but won't say out loud. Perhaps Julia Hudson the most misunderstood grieving mother in America? Maybe she is just suffering from a serious bout of some unknown mental disorder or is Julia Hudson merely stupid for posting these pictures online? I'm not judging. I'm just asking the question. Now I happen to be related to an individual, who much to my complete and total DISMAY, likes to take photographs right before funerals and the family dinners at the conclusion of the burial. Not because they are macabre, but because in many families, funerals are the closest thing you will ever get to a family reunion. In many cases, those funeral photographs are all we will ever have. So while creepy and borderline inappropriate, there is a method to the madness. Julia Hudson's latest MySpace escapade is something altogether different. I don't know about the rest of you, but one week after I lost three relatives in a brutal murder, including my own child, I would still be in bed knocked out on "nerve pills" or hooked up to an IV of high fructose corn syrup. Julia Hudson is not me. Perhaps she has been gifted with a unique brand of resilience that has allowed her to quickly bounce back through the power of MySpace and her Miraculous MySpace friends. Perhaps she is in a state of shock and posting these pictures is her way of coping. Or perhaps Julia has, been, and will always be an impulsive person with impaired judgment and her Madcap Myspace Misadventures are just the latest manifestation of that poor judgment. I ignored the criticism that Julia's hair was too perfectly coiffed during the press conference where she pleaded for the return of her son, maybe she got her hair done before the murders or maybe a family friend forced her to do her hair and take care of herself. Ignored my initial reaction that that same press conference where she seemed either nonchalant, matter of fact or detached, and chalked it up to the fact that Julia was likely heavily medicated, because surely losing your mother and brother would make you a wreck and on the verge of a nervous breakdown. So I am not criticizing Julia for grieving in her own unique way by posting photographs on her Myspace page with "her new man" while dressed in funeral garb.I will chalk the caption says that now that her brother is dead, she is the prettiest one, maybe that's an inside joke.... THAT SHE CHOSE TO SHARE WITH THE WORLD. No.No. I am not criticizing her for that. There is an acceptable PUBLIC range of human emotions following a tragedy like this and hugging up with your new boo while your HUSBAND is in jail is not a good look. "Joking" that the murder of your dead brother made room for you to now be the prettiest one is not a good look.Appearing to revel in the attention that the slaughter of your family has brought you, by snapping pictures with celebrities and asking "Who's the star. Me or Tasia?" is not a good look. In addition, to Julia Hudson lived in a home where all the other occupants were killed, that alone ought to raise some eyebrows. A person of average intelligence can assume that if the person or PERSONS who managed to do this were able to obtain Jason Hudson's gun and his car keys and get Julian King into the car in broad daylight without drawing attention, then they likely had semi intimate knowledge of what went on in that household. Let's see. That's William Balfour, a former occupant and hmmm let me see who else? Oh yes, Julia Hudson. Being incapable of differentiating between fame and INFAMY is not a good luck. Julia, people aren't interested in you or your life because of who you are. They are interested in you because of who your sister is and what happened to HER family. So to the family and friends that haven't put a stop to the MySpace Madness because it is inappropriate and FOUL, put a stop to it because it may very well place Julia's liberty in jeopardy or WORSE be used by the defense team of those that are eventually charged with this murder to point the finger at Julia. Myspace could equal reasonable doubt. So far the Myspace madness is screaming potential MOTIVE! MOTIVE! MOTIVE! Maybe Julia's "new boo" will read this blog post and step up and sit her down and have a conversation with Julia about the wisdom of publicly distributing photographs the could be used to incriminate her in a triple homicide, lead to the acquittal of those responsible or convict her in the court of public opinion. Perhaps some wise person will hog tie Julia to the floor and delete the whole Myspace account all together. Its too late to keep the photos from being used in the court of public opinion against her, but it may prevent future lapses of run of the mill common sense. I wouldn't be surprised if MySpace hasn't already received an order or have one headed their way right now. Notice to all of the apologists and enablers, I haven't written ONE WORD about the choices and decisions ALL of the adults in Julian King's life made which may have lead to his brutal death. This isn't an indictment of Julia's parenting skills, or lack there of, I'll save that for LATER. Right now, we need to know who MASTERMINDED the plot and the PERSONS who PLANNED and carried it out. Julia Hudson Balfour's MySpace page is an unwelcome distraction. This isn't about Julia's parenting skills or the struggles of single Black mothers. This is about common sense. Period. If not the common sense of a grieving mother then the common sense of those who purport to love and care for her. Only God knows what is going on inside the heart of Julia Hudson right now, but this post isn't about what's going on in her heart, its about the image she is electing to show to the world. Right now that image, in light of the release of these most recent photos and captions, is BAD. Julia, I noticed that your pictures were filled with family and hopefully some friends. Real life human friends, not virtual friends on Myspace. Julila, its time to end the Myspace Madness. NOTE TO THE COMMENTS SECTION This blog does not refer to or publish comments referring to Black women as B*tches and Hoes. Nor do we publish profanity. So irrespective of your feelings about Julia Husdon, you need to find some other ways in which to express your displeasure. Some of you have had truly insightful comments that have have been purged because of this lapse. WE ARE NOT CRIME STOPPERS In addition, this is a blog, not CRIME STOPPERS. If you have information that you believe might lead to the person or PERSONS responsible for the murders of Julian King, Jason Hudson, or Darnell Donerson, then you need to contact the Chicago Police Department and stop posting long rambling comments on blogs like this one. If you are too afraid to email or call then write your thoughts on a blank sheet of paper and mail your thoughts to this address: Chicago Police Department