Entries from June 1, 2010 - June 30, 2010

Wednesday
Jun302010

Jennifer Hudson Speaks About Her Family on Her Own Terms- Chris Brown Cries on Demand-BET Exec "You Can't Let a Black Man Fall."

Speaking of folks who are tripping over themselves this week to urge us to "forgive" batterers and domestic abuse, Jennifer Hudson has spoken out for the first time about the murders of her nephew, mother and bother - Julian King, Darnell Donerson and  Jason Hudson.  Jennifer Hudson spoke out on Monday's episode of VH1's Behind the Music.

"It's all a blur, it was surreal," she told "Behind the Music." "It was like I was outside of myself." The "American Idol" alum, 28, said the tragedy, which took place in October 2008, sent her into seclusion for weeks. "For almost two weeks straight . . . [I was] inside one room with just family and friends coming in and out," she told the VH1 show. "I prayed when I'd get up in the morning and prayed before I lay down at night." NY Daily News
The alleged killer is the husband of Jennifer's sister Julia. Many of you will recall my urging Julia to get the hey-el off of Myspace in the aftermath of her family's slaughter. Also, notice how Jennifer WENT AWAY and turned down acting roles to get her mind right. Notice how people are clamoring for a new Lauryn Hill album... notice how ABSENCE  instead of careening from one catastrophe to the next, whining on Twitter every other day and  demanding to be "forgiven" can work for people in the entertainment industry. As opposed to taking his friend Lloyd's "advice" to cry onstage.
“I told him, man, you gotta go up there, you gotta cry. You gotta really, um, show your heart to the world, and, um, they’ll understand. I think time heals all wounds.” Sandra Rose
No, Mr. Lloyd, there are some wounds that do not heal. Also notice BET Executive Stephen Hill saying what we all knew, that BET definitely has a double standard "You can't let a Black man fall." So um where was Rihanna's performance Stephen? Debra? Paging Debra Lee? This was a timely reminder as our comments are inundated by people who think that someone who beats, bites, scratches and kicks a pixie of a woman can be "redeemed" via musical selection.  Sure, Chris Brown could be a "changed man" or he could be  yet another violent person who leaves behind a string of broken lives in his wake. None of us know which he is, but I do know that running around treating him like a victim...of his own fists... tends to point to the latter and not the former. So in review, Jennifer Hudson is a victim. Chris Brown is NOT. Excuses to my non-Christian readers while I take care of some minor housekeeping matters related to an uptick in coloring book Christians coming up in my comments sections to use the Bible to cosset and coddle Chris Brown. Churchfolk who don't read the Bible , yet repeatedly reference it, are a minor pet peeve of mine. Y'all got one more time to come up in here incorrectly paraphrasing the Bible before I go all SUNDAY SCHOOL up in here for the entire month of July. I'm going to need biblical citations for your Biblical arguments that God supports those who use their superior physical strength to brutalize the weak.  I need the chapter AND the verse, none of this Noel Jones sound byte  mess y'all have been trying to use.  And NO, the Biblical coloring book does not count as  biblical reference material, I'mma need y'all to actually crack open the book with all the words as opposed to the pretty pictures. As I stated in the previous comments thread:
I don’t know what Bible you are reading. Yes God forgives, but he also destroyed entire cities, opened up a cravath and swallowed people whole. Oh yes, and on the cross Jesus was surrounded by a thief and a murderer, they were forgiven… they were also crucified. Stop getting your biblical principles from reading Christian coloring books. Sheesh am I the only one that spent over 30 years in Sunday school? Stop using the Bible to justify brutalizing the weak. If anything Jesus would be disgusted with all of you advocating on behalf of the strongest beating up the weakest… THAT AIN’T BIBLICAL and I triple DARE any of you to find me a verse where God, Jesus, Moses, Paul, Deborah, Jonah or the whale take the side of the strong over the weak. Jesus does NOT forgive you for all of your mess, if that was the case, there would be no HELL.
Was that snarky? Yes, but if you crack open the New Testament and look at the red lettered text, you will find that Jesus was anti-foolishness as well. Can you say Pharisees? ( Luke Chapter 11 for those flipping through their Bibles)? He did not hesitate to call people fools, hypocrites. He even routinely clowned his own disciples.... all you paraphrasing "Christians" would know that if you read the Bible as opposed to relying on quotes from Tyler Perry characters. Previous Posts Pardon Me a Moment While I leave the Room: “Julia Hudson Won’t Let the Devil Win” Julia Hudson ‘s MySpace Madness: Misunderstood, Mentally Ill, or Run-of-the-Mill Stupid?

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Wednesday
Jun302010

Your Publicist Does Not Suck - CNN Heroes-Win $25,000

As you know publicists are the BANE of my existence they are like gnats, you don't know why they are swarming you and you didn't invite them into your inbox, but they are always there. DOZENS of them a day and I spend a great deal of my time deleting their emails and creating filters to block them from my inbox. Occasionally however, one manages to break through and get their client on to the front page of this blog. So what exactly is the key to not getting your publicist spam sent to file 13? First address me by name. Not "Dear Bloggers" or Dear "What About Our Daughters" You went through the trouble of snagging my super top secret email address from somewhere, why not take the extra 5 seconds to personalize your spam. Second, don't send me crap that my blog has a fundamental philosophical disagreement. No, I'm not promoting hip hop. No I will not read you book unless it had to do with Black women and girls. No I do not care that your client is speaking at place X, Y, Z. No I am not goign to promote your new spray on pantyhose. If you want to promote a product to my readers... BUY AN AD! Third, make my life easy. I'm busy don't make me wade through 15 paragraphs of your glowing praise about your client. I don't care. I don't have the time. Give me exactly what you want me to post so I can just copy and paste. This is why I always open the mail from the CBS online publicist because she gives me blurbs AND the embed code. She doesn't direct me to another website. She does not attach a file that I have to download and then upload, she puts the code right there in the email. Copy and past. Which brings us to today's luck publicist that got plucked from the abyss of file 13. CNN's Flack want's y'alll to know that they are giving out TEN $25,000 Awards for their CNN Heroes Awards. Y'all need to enter somebody because its a rough economy, somebody could use $25,000 plus it is a great opportunity to promote Black women who are doing amazing work. Nominate your neighbors, your friends, co workers, grassroots activists, but take time today to nominate a Black woman for the CNN Heroes Awards. Here is the blurb from the publicist:

CNN invites Nominations for 2010 CNN Heroes Do you know an everyday person who is changing the world? Your nomination of a 2010 CNN Hero could help the person that inspires you achieve even greater recognition and success. The Top 10 CNN Heroes of 2010 each receive $25,000 and will be honored on our Thanksgiving night global telecast, "CNN Heroes: An All-Star Tribute." Help us share your Hero’s story with the world -- click the link below and submit your nomination today! July is the last month to nominate someone for consideration. How to nominate a CNN Hero: http://www.cnn.com/2010/LIVING/03/25/cnnheroes.how.to.nominate/index.htm
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