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Plurality of US Bobseld Team Made up of Black Women:Yay Lauryn Williams! -- Lolo Jones Trades Underside of Bus for Bobsled

Have no intention of watching the Winter Olympics, but was somewhat surprised to see the large representation of Black women on the US Bobsled team:



From Team USA:

The six women’s bobsled push athletes named to the national team include the following athletes, listed in no particular order: 2010 Olympian Emily Azevedo (Chico, Calif.), two-time World Championship medalist Katie Eberling (Palos Hills, Ill.), two-time national push champion Aja Evans (Chicago, Ill.), World Indoor Champion and American record holder 100-meter hurdler Lolo Jones (Des Moines, Iowa), Army World Class Athlete Program Soldier-athlete Kristi Koplin (Cedar City, Utah), and 100-meter 2004 Olympic silver medalist and 4x100-meter relay 2012 Olympic gold medalist Lauryn Williams (Miami, Fla.).


And of course Lolo Jones is getting some early coverage, but she's good sports melodrama, so I vote we keep her.


But really Lolo, it is great to see you a part of a happy team.


New York Readers: "Belle" is Premiering in New York February 6th at the Athena Film Festival- Someone go see it for me :(

Why does New York get to have all of the fun? We've already told you about the movie Belle, about the life of a Black woman raised in the British aristocrisy. What a refreshing change of roles for Black women in historical films. Plus, I love British period films especially if they feature a young Colin Firth ( who is swiftly being replaced by Tom Hiddleston). 

Anywhoo, those of you in New York are going to have a chance to see Belle before all the rest of us next Thursday, February 6, 2014 at 6:30 PM at the Athena Film Festival which is being held at Banard. Tickets are $10 for students and $15 for the rest of us. 

Here are the deets:

Date: Thursday, February 6, 6:30PM

Location: Diana Center Event Oval, LL100

Director Amma Asante will join the audience for a post screening discussion.

I need some New York readers to go and then send me an email telling me about it. I will have to wait until May.

Someone at Fox Audience Strategy needs to contact me :) I can totally see a WAOD movie screening featuring scones and clotted creme and gloves- long white gloves. HA!


If Beyonce Was a Proponent of "Gender Equality," Jay Z Would Have Performed in a G-String at the GRAMMYS

We'll continue to be an island of sanity in a world dominated by Beyonce stans demanding that we view her latest hijinks in awe. Continue to NOT bow down my sistren. Beyonce performed at the GRAMMYS some parents are unhappy. 

I think when you saw her straddling the chair at the start of the performance, that was your sign that this musical number was NOT going to be an episode of Dora the Explorer.  The outfit was about what you'd see on an NFL sideline and the dance moves although provocative, didn't leave me as shocked as some of the descriptions would lead you to believe. She actually didn't dance as much as she lounged around on a spinning chair. 

The appropriatness of any parent allowing their child to watch the GRAMMYS aside,  I think the performance is a great teaching tool about gender equality- something Mrs. Knowles Carter claims to promote. 

I intentionally skipped the discussion about the essay that Beyonce's publicist submitting in her name to be included in The Shriver Report: A Woman's Nation Pushes back from the Brink. The essay was entitled Gender Equality is a Myth. A) I doubted Beyonce actually penned the essay and B) she isn't a proponent of gender equity. Here's a quote from her ESSAY[my comments are bolded]:

So why are we viewed as less than equal? [Because your husband gets to wear a suit while you run around in your under garments] These old attitudes are drilled into us from the very beginning. [Like on the GRAMMY Awards] We have to teach our boys the rules of equality and respect, so that as they grow up, gender equality becomes a natural way of life. [By signing up to be objects while our husbands get to retain their full humanity] And we have to teach our girls that they can reach as high as humanly possible. [As long as they do it in fishnets] Beyonce Knowles-Carter

I agree. Which is why I am incredibly shocked [NOT]that Beyonce did not practice what she preached during her opening act at the 2014 GRAMMY Awards.  She danced around in lingerie while her husband (unrepentant drug dealer and domestic violence proponent) Jay Z was fully dressed in formal wear. 

If we really wanted to TEACH boys and girls something, Jay Z would have performed in a g-string, jock strap, boxers or briefs. He would have been flouncing around parading his manly bits in front of the world while Beyonce looked on bored. That my friends would be progress!

Beyonce Knowles is not raging against the machine. She IS the machine. She's not breaking down barriers for women, she's reinforcing them with concrete and barbed wire.

Beyonce fans can't make up their minds. She does things to get people talking and when they talk, the stans say "its just music." When critics reply that "all of Beyonce's chatter about feminism and equality is just music and a marketing ploy," the stans rage NO! Her music is symbolic of a larger struggle for women. When her critics point out that her actions hinder the larger struggle for women, her stans say "But what about Miley Cyrus? Double standard!" 

The latest attempt to silence Beyonce critics and those merely pointing out her hypocrisy is to latch on to a newspaper headline referring to Beyonce as a "whore" to try to paint anyone who objected to the GRAMMY performance as a promoter of sexism, misogyny and racism. No one should have called her a whore. 

For the record, they called Miley Cyrus a "whore" and a skank. 

None of which has anything to do with the fact that Beyonce promotes and profits from reinforcning a system of sexism and misogyny, no matter how many essays she's writes. 

Don't bow down!


Kevin Hart Has a Message For All of You Black Women Lining Up to Go See "About Last Night" and "Ride Along"

Let's see it's January. Kevin Hart has a new project to promote. Right on schedule he has something NASTY to say about Black women.

He can't Black women out of his little mouth:

On the rumors about his girlfriend and ex-wife: “I read so much stuff that Black women say, especially about my relationship. ‘Oh, he left his Black wife to go be with some exotic chick.’ First of all, my girl is Black. She’s Jamaican. But they say it as if they know what me and my ex-wife’s problems were. When we first got together, our relationship was amazing. We got married young and our s*** got rocky. In my divorce, I stood up and said to my ex-wife, ‘Hey, I messed up. This had nothing to do with you. I didn’t understand what marriage was. I cheated. I was wrong. We couldn’t fix it, it got worse. I stepped away because I didn’t want it to get any worse. You’re the mother of my kids, I don’t want to hate you. And the only way that’s gonna happen, is if I’m the bigger man and I leave.’ I think that was a very mature thing to do.” The YBF

Never have I seen an actor repeatedly go out of his way to insult a very large portion of his fan base - but he isn't the one we should be looking at sideways. The people who appear to be off of their rocker are Black women who are basically fueling his career. He is a Black movie star. Meaning- he is the star of Black movies with Black audiences. USA Today would call them race themed movies. HA! He can't open a movie aimed at a mainstream audience. We know this from the poor showing of Grudge Match.

And how does he repay your blind loyalty, by insulting you over and over again. Y'all gon' learn.



How 20 Somethings can "Get Out"- No, You Probably Shouldn't Let Your Stepfather Harvest Your Eggs

Welcome to the conclusion of 20 Something's Week. We'll have to do a 60 Somethings Week as well because that would probably be a hoot  - turning the blog over to readers in their 60s.  We kicked off this week in response to 20 Somethings trying to figure out how to be empowered. On Wednesday I talked about building your own support network.  Today I'm going to talk about how to get disentangled from dysfunctional and destructive environments. This came up in last week's comments thread.

I know things are confusing in this part of the blogoshpere, afterall, you've had people present themselves as your very own personal Empowerment Messiah, yet after reading their blogs for years, you're pretty much in the same place and if you question these Empowerment Messiahs about why their sketchy adivice isn't working- they scream "Get out of Blackistan!"  Or they call you a “race woman” or a “Mammy” or a saboteur.

Life is not a piece of Ikea furniture. You can't  dump all of your disjointed pieces on the ground and expect someone to hand you a set of directions to figure out how to put it together. You ultimately are in charge of your own life.  Being a grownup means making difficult decisions.

Over at Dear Prudence, a college student writes in asking for advice because her mother and step-father are pressuring her to let them harvest her eggs so they can have a child.  She lives with them and is financially dependent on them. She is also receiving pressure from other family members who are telling her that if she doesn't give up her eggs, she is destroying her mother's marriage because her mother won't be able to have a child with her current husband. Its a pretty good example of familial dysfunction.

Now my grandmother is calling me a "home-wrecker," saying that my mother and stepfather will get divorced if they're incapable of having a child. My family refuses to go to a donor outside the family because it wouldn't be "their" child, and they say my genes are 50 percent from my mother. They also won’t consider adoption because they say "those kids are disgusting and messed up." They plan on having my eggs harvested and raising my child as their own. I am a university student who lives at home, though lately I have been crashing on friends' couches in order to avoid going home because the situation has gone from hard to ridiculous. My family has been controlling and emotionally and verbally abusive all my life, and until recently I didn't realize that normal families aren't like this. I have no way to escape because I can't afford to move out—I have a job that doesn't pay that well, and I'm also a full-time student. What can I do? Dear Prudence

Unlike some empowerment bloggers who scream at the top of their lungs to LEAVE dysfunctional and destructive environments, Prudence actually gives very detailed advice about how this girl can get out of this situation. I would go so far as to say that this is some of the most specific advice that I've seen Prudence provide recently and I think it is applicable to our current discussion about people who tell you that your life sucks in general, you're in danger, you need to get out, but omit any details on how to do that.

1.Sometimes other people’s problems are other people’s problems. A great skill is to master letting other people’s problems remain THEIR problems. You don’t need to “fix” anything. Sometimes you just need to watch...from a distance.

2. Take an honest and brutal assessment of your resources. All of them. You've been brainwashed into thinking that NOTHING good can come from an environment of people who look like you. However, you probably have access to far more resources than you've realized. Even if someone can't help you directly, they may be able to direct you to someone who is able to help.

3. Ask for PROFESSIONAL help. If you're a college student, there are DOZENS of middle aged woman and men who have budgets allocated to help you become a well-rounded productive citizen. Your goal should be to seek those people out and make them earn their salary. The money's sitting there, staff meetings are held about what to do with that money. If it isn't used, sometimes they lose it OR it goes into the pot for bonuses.

4.Once you seek out help, when a disinterested third party offers you advice, be willing to consider trying it. You might think it will work, but you never know. Something I started doing last year was taking people's advice on low risk issues based merely on the fact that they'd been sucessful. I didn't analyze it or run scenarios, i just did what they told me to do and trusted them. Almost 99% of the time they were right. My racing coach is the best example. I just made the decision to believe that after a decade of coaching she knew what she was doing. I remember the first time she told me to keep running through a walk break over a freeway overpass and I thought my chest was going to explode. I ignored my "you're gonna die!"

5.Expect and prepare for sacrifice.

6. When it comes to your own self defense, don’t substitute someone else’s judgement for your own. Not even your mother.  People don’t like conflict or change. They would rather you suffer in silence to make them feel more comfortable.

Again, your life isn't a box of Jiffy Cornbread mix, following someone else's instructions will never meet your specific needs, but they are a good jumping off point.

Enjoy your 20s. Take LOT's of non-lethal risks and a few potentially legal risks ( swimming with stingrays, skydiving, driving cross country surviving on Mountain Dew, running with the bulls.).  You're not supposed to have it all figured out. That's part of the fun. And if you make it out, you and your friends are goign to have an amazing time in your 30s laughing at all the things you overcame in your 20s

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