Spare Me Your "Outrage" About BET's Kiddie Pole-Dancification of Their "Awards" Show

Draw a line in the sand now, or next year, Debra Lee is going to allow topless toddlers wearing diapers onstage talkin' bout they the "Pampers Posse" throwing up gang signs and pouring out Similac from their baby bottles onstage singing "This is for my homies." WAOD on the use of child performers at the 2009 BET Awards
Oh look. Is that OUTRAGE I see being expressed because Debra Lee broadcast pre-adolescent girls taking the stage of the BET awards to gyrate and gesticulate to Little Wayne's performance of an  unedited version of his song "Every Girl"? Check out the Lyrics.
According to upset parents, the youngsters gyrated onstage as Wayne rapped his tune “I Want To F*ck Every Girl in the World” — or whatever the name of the track is. As most of you know, the group’s lead singer is Zonnique, 12, daughter of Tameka “Tiny” Cottle. The other three members are Reginae Carter, 9, Wayne’s daughter with Antonia Carter who stars on Tiny & Toya (which premieres on BET tonight at 10pm); Bahjah Rodriguez, who turns 12 in August, and her sister Lourdes Rodriguez, who turns 11 in September. Sandra Rose
Now according to Sandra, the teeny bopper booty shaking was impromptu, but that doesn't explain why the curtains didn't crash or why Debra Lee  OR THE GIRL'S PARENTS didn't storm the stage and grab somebody by the scruff of their ponytails.  I know MY parental unit would only have had to rise from their seats and I would have been headed off stage of my own volition.
I just heard from a source close to Tiny’s camp who informed me that the appearance of Tiny’s preteen group OMG onstage with rappers Lil Wayne and Drake at the BET Awards was neither planned nor rehearsed. My source said the group’s appearance onstage was a last minute decision by Wayne and no one else. Sandra Rose
Sorry, but that little tidbit right there sounds like some rear end covering in retrospect.  Especially now that BET is airbrushing out the little girls on the BET Awards replay ( yes I said those ig'nant fools at the network, instead of cutting out the performance completely blurred out the girls in the rebroadcast frame by frame as if they are some marijuana leaves on a baseball cap on MTV circa 1999) I don't believe folks are truly outraged. You're not truly distressed. Because if you were, you would be calling the child labor officials in California to call for an investigation into whether having purportedly 12,9, 10, and 11 year-olds performing in this manner violated any labor regulations. I'm not saying they did, but its hard to believe that Cali doesn't regulate child performances since its the ENTERTAINMENT CAPITAL OF THE WORLD! Were the young women paid? If so, did BET follow the appropriate regulations. Right after you get off of the phone talking with the Department of Labor, you might want to ask  the child welfare folks  in California and Georgia ( where some of them live)if its in the best interest of a purportedly 9 year old girl to be placed in such an adult situation on NATIONAL TELEVISION. I mean folks didn't have a problem calling child welfare officials on Octomom. They didn't have any problem calling the child labor people on Jon & Kate's Eight.
Many people don’t realize that the child actors on their favorite television show are protected by state child labor laws. While state requirements vary, many have restrictions on the number of hours a child actor can work in a day or week, require special permits, or even require a teacher to be present on the set. At this point, it’s unclear what alleged violations may (or may not) have occurred on the set of Jon & Kate Plus 8. Regardless, this seems to be yet another hurdle in the controversial show’s path this season. Source
Spare me your blog posts declaring that Debra Lee should be ashamed. DEBRA LEE HAS NO SHAME! I've said this once, I'll say it 1000 times. The people who run BET don't actually like the people who WATCH or perform on BET. So Debra Lee likely has no problem with 9, 10, 11, and 12 year old girls from "urban" families getting on stage to dance while vile disgusting lyrics about women and girls are spewed around them. Its not HER precious child up there. Why should Debra Lee care? I didn't see the show nor have I seen the video- I've only read descriptions and your outrage in response. If y'all can't take decisive action against this travesty, then you're not serious. Stop complaining online and start complaining to someone who can prevent this outrage in the future. You may even get authorities to get BET to agree never to allow any children under the age of 16 to perform on stage EVER. For those whining that calling the LAW on Debbie Lee is a bit much, my response is that if this was any other network, Debra Lee and Stephen Hill would have already have issued a heart-felt public apology, but then that's impossible for those two demons because they have no hearts. If they won't be lead by common sense and a conscience, then let them be controlled by the jack-booted foot of the guv'ment. And for that matter why are 9 year olds even allowed into a facility where there are R-rated performances? Draw a line in the sand now, or next year, Debra Lee is going to allow topless toddlers wearing diapers onstage talkin' bout they the "Pampers Posse" throwing up gang signs and pouring out Similac from their baby bottles onstage talkinbout' "This is for my homies". You . JUST. WATCH! Just to get you started on your quest for additional information, you might want to inquire here first. Contact: Bureau of Field Enforcement Division of Labor Standards and Enforcement 320 West Fourth St. Suite 450 Los Angeles, CA 90013 213-620-6330 Now when I inquired at the headquarters of the California Department of Industrial Relations, the person on the phone indicated that you have to have an entertainment work permit in order to do a performance. Now maybe BET had such permits, I don't know, but someone may want to take time to inquire if the teeny bopper troup had permits before they "performed. " Let us know what you discover in the comments section. PPS. and NO, blurring them out in rebroadcast only makes it worse as I still haven't heard an apology from the demonic duo. And who paid for this MESS in the first place?

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What the Heck is "Economic Abuse"?-Allstate Foundation Blogger Initiative

Okay normally I would have chucked this email in the ole' annoying publicist email trash can of doom, but I am always surprised when publicists A) bother to address me by name (you'd be surprised how many do not in their mass emails and b) actually send me an email promoting something that my audience is interested in. Today, June 30th, the Allstate Foundation is attempting to raise awareness of "Economic Abuse." We're all familiar with economic abuse already, we just didn't give it a name. Its basically where an abuser controls you through finances. As a child I remember quite clearly that my Mama had "HER" own credit union account :) She even took us to credit union meetings. The parental unit also had the joint banking account, but I think without intending to, she basically taught us to have a bank account that was OURs even when we got married. From the Allstate Foundation:

Economic abuse is a tactic commonly used by abusers to control their victims’ finances and prevent them from leaving a dangerous relationship. However, the survey also revealed nearly eight out of 10 Americans link economic abuse to Wall Street woes or irresponsible spending. “Many people associate domestic violence with physical cuts and bruises, but bruises on your credit score and being cut off from access to money, create lasting scars that make it hard, if not impossible, for abuse victims to recover,” said Jennifer Kuhn, manager of the Economics Against Abuse Program at The Allstate Foundation. “For victims of domestic violence, economic abuse is much more personal - and dangerous.” To better educate Americans about this often overlooked aspect of domestic violence, The Allstate Foundation provides the following signs to recognize economic abuse: • Taking money, credit card or property from a partner without their permission • Racking up debt without a partner’s knowledge • Purposely ruining a partner’s credit score • Forbidding a partner from earning money or attending school • Being forced by a partner to hand over paychecks • Cancelling insurance or credit cards without the partner’s knowledge • Harassing a partner at work to negatively impact a job “A downturn in the economy impacts us all, but it disproportionately impacts the most vulnerable members of society, including domestic violence survivors,” said Rene Renick, director of program and operations at The National Network to End Domestic Violence (NNEDV). “Now more than ever it’s important that domestic violence survivors build economic skills to overcome financial instability, a major barrier to escape and stay out of an abusive situation.” The Allstate Foundation, in partnership with NNEDV, recently developed a Financial Empowerment Curriculum to help victims achieve financial independence. The Financial Empowerment Curriculum includes financial tools and information designed to enable survivors of domestic abuse to fully understand their financial circumstances, as well as engage in shortterm and long-term planning (e.g., budgeting tools, step-by-step planners, tips, etc.) to accomplish their personal goals. “Our goal is to raise awareness about how economic empowerment can lead to a safe and financially secure future,” said Kuhn. “With resources like the Financial Empowerment Curriculum, we’re providing tools to domestic violence survivors and others who may need financial guidance in these tough economic times.” The user-friendly curriculum is available in a variety of formats, including hard copy, Spanishlanguage, DVD and downloadable versions at Also available are elearning modules to help people of all incomes and earning power work toward long-term economic empowerment. Other national survey findings include: • More than three-quarters of Americans (76 percent) believe the poor economy has made it more difficult for victims of domestic violence, and two-thirds (66 percent) believe it has caused an increase in domestic violence. • 44 percent say the most difficult barrier to leaving an abusive relationship is financial security. • Almost 60 percent of Americans don’t see a connection between harassing a partner at work and economic abuse, even if it may cost the victim their job and ultimately limiting income. About the National Poll The Allstate Foundation “Crisis: Economics and Domestic Violence” poll was a nationwide telephone survey of 708 Americans conducted in May 2009 by Murphy Marketing Research. The survey sample was generated by random digit dialing and represents a margin of error of +/- 3.7 percentage points. The survey sample was designed to closely mirror the breakdown of the current U.S. population with 10 percent African-American and 10 percent Hispanic respondents. For the full survey results, please visit
You should consider reading the entire study.

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