Cross-Posted by Faith at Acts of Faith In Love & Life blog
I've been watching the T.O. Show on VH-1. If you've followed some recent sports headlines you may be familiar with Terrell Owens and his foibles. I was bored and flipping channels when I stumbled upon this latest reality show. I find it interesting on many levels aside from some of the blatant advertising. His complicated family relationships may lend an air of familiarity for some. The assumption of glitz and glamour has appeal to others. Some like to peek into the life of a famous athlete. We should remember that they are not perfect and should not be thought of as more important than others. Regardless there are lessons I think can be learned from this show and it only takes 1 (if you're prepared to pay attention) or 2 (for the deniers) times to watch his behavior to actually get it.watch?v=aFZGEnRehMA
- Be careful about who you give your support and time to.
- We need to stop celebrating the individual pursuits of blacks as if it's something that automatically uplifts everyone.
- You should find out if these black male (actors, athletes, music artists, politicians, etc) are willing and able to uplift women like you.
Notice how his "friend" points out that his dating trends are limited to white and "exotic" women. He doesn't date women who look like her. This is where I react and not because I think black men belong to black women but because of the apathy and disregard that has become the norm. It's so one-sided where we are rejected for no reason at all other than the poor attitude of these men. His underlying disdain is so obvious. He doesn't value black women as romantic equals.
There isn't anything we can do about it - or should try to do about it actually but WAKE UP. If the role was reversed and it was black women exercising their rights to date and bed all the non-black or "exotic" men they wanted black men (and some black women who don't want us to have choices) would be howling. Like this poster at The Black Snob who has no verifiable account to trace back to them but is complaining about Black Women Empowerment bloggers who "constantly talk about black men" and "push mating with white men". Ha! The lack of reciprocity and blatant hypocrisy is what infuriates me.
I loved her reply to him though how any man she's with would notice her quality as a mate and not hold wearing a scarf against her. Even Anthony Bourdain knows what a doo-rag is used for. Are you paying attention ladies?