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OH Nooz! The Hood Feminists Threaten to Get Me if I Don't Stop Talking About #solidarityisforwhitewomen

Well my Halloween was made even scarier this year because a hood feminist ( his words not mine) has declared that if I don’t stop talking about #solidarityisforwhitewomen something bad is gonna happen to me. 


Here is the tweet he sent to my personal account. He added the “.” in front of my Twitter username intentionally so his Twitter followers would see his threat to me. 



So let me see if I have this right. "Hood feminists" have a Black male in their ranks that is running around the internet demanding that Black women be silent... or else. And he’s doing this in their name.


Now I conferred with the What About Our Daughters Ministry of Defense, also known as the WAOD Facebook Fan Page. Several suggestions were bandied about. Some involving vaseline and pulling off earrings. I have formulated a formal response to the hood feminist’s ultimatum that I “stay in [my] lane” and stop blogging about #solidarityifforwhitewomen:


Are y’all ready?


My formal response is....KNEE GROW PLEASE!


If you don’t stay out of grown folks business and go sit down at the children’s table. Ain’t no body scared of y'all or your hashtags. #havefiveseats #illdowhatiplease #iwishyouwould I will write about whatever I please and if you don’t like it, don’t read it. I would rather live a short life filled with random acts of boldness than a long life of perpetual cowardice. 

You ought to be embarrassed to be using a #hoodfeminism hashtag while telling another Black woman to be silent - what exactly is hood feminism fighting for? Silent Black Women? This is what happens when people get more obsessed with the brand name  of a “movement” with little regard to its mission - which is why hashtag activism can occasionally be problematic.


I COULD fight with “hood feminists” about a hashtag I really don’t care all that much about one way or the other. I find the behavior in response to that Feministing post highly irritating, but it itsn’t something I’m willing to fight about. Why fight someone who is hell bent on self immolation. 


And let’s be clear,  based on their behavior on Twitter, WAOD would win a battle with “hood feminists” decisively. I’d add with one hand tied behind my back, but that would be DOING. THE. MOST. 


After all, we’ve  fought (and won) skirmishes with multi-billion dollar companies, sex predators and their publicists, almost every major Black publication, the Internet Ike Turners, the Civil Rights Industrial Complex,  and the Black Elite Establishment. So we could easily add some emotionally unstable Twitteratti throwing up “hood feminism” gang signs to the list. But I really do have much better things to do with my time and the attention of my blog audience. 

Also, I don’t hold Mikki Kendall, the creator of the #solidarityisforwhitewomen responsible for the Tweets of her acolytes. I get highly irritated when people expect me to be accountable for the crazy antics of my blog readers :)


You have captured the most valuable asset in the digital age- people’s attention.

That attention has value- whether you choose to acknowledge it or not.

You appear to want to control in some way the destiny of your creation - which indicates a desire to execute some of the privileges of ownership.

Despite the desire to execute the privileges of ownership, you have no desire to carry the associated burdens and responsibilities of ownership. Mikki Kendall, the #solidarityisforwhitewomen creator wrote the following to The Root:

I started the [#solidarityisforwhitewomen] to call out the problem of mainstream feminism sidelining the concerns and safety of marginalized women. It's an old problem. The tag was great for the marginalized. But now it seems it's being commodified to suit the same people who were complicit in the problems it references. Now they're talking branding and setting up meetings and events. And even if those things don't directly pay, they do help people get paid. The Root

 So the solution is to sit by and let them commodify your creation while taking absolutely no steps to A) prevent them from comodifying your creation and B) comidify it yourself? #GurlStop!

*sigh* Your Twitter followers make a public #$*&^ of your hashtag by outright lying about material facts related to the #solidarityisforwhitewomen panel organized by the National Organization for Women (NOW).

  • yes you were invited (albeit in an incredibly TACKY manner on Twitter - NOW should have done a better job in that regard.) - it is not true that you were not invited.
  • yes, NOW acknowledged that the hashtag was your creation- it is not true that they did not give you credit. 
  • No, Feministing.com was not an organizer of the panel - it is not true that Feministing.com was an organizer. 
  • Yes, Feministing.com hosted a discussion about the hashtag on a video chat- there’s no law preventing them from doing so. 
  • No, you never indicated to anyone that you did not want the hashtag discussed online without your prior approval - whether the law requires it or not. - if you wanted a courtesy contact from them, then that should have been made clear. It is not customary online to get pre-clearance to discuss a “hot topic.”
  • You didn’t make clear that you don’t actually want to be in solidarity with White feminists, you just want to use the hashtag to discuss why you aren’t. You don’t want resolution or reunification, you want to critique the breach. You’ve got people talking about your creation without knowing what it means, and that’s not entirely THEIR fault. If you want to define what it means- then DEFINE IT or someone else will define it for you. 


So to readers who are observing all of this, I leave you with following words of wisdom...

If you create something powerful, it doesn’t become less powerful because you didn’t intend it to be powerful or you didn’t want it to be powerful or you didn’t want to use the power of what you created. If what you create has monetary value, that value does not disappear because you decide you don’t want to profit from your creation. And take it from one who knows, if you aren’t the one using the power that you created, someone else is. If you’re not the one profiting from your own creation- someone else will. 

The creator of #solidarityisforwhitewomen is not going to take my suggestion because she appears to be particularly averse to following the advice and counsel of others, but I’m going to make the suggestion anyway because it might be helpful to others- if you are going to continue to be irritated by what other people do with the #solidarityisforwhitewomen hashtag, then  ask friends, family or organizations which share your values to be guardians of your creation. 


And yes, somewhere right now, there is someone plugging away at a book all about #solidarityisforwhitewomen -  They are capturing the #hashtag impressions to present to a publisher demonstrating that this is a “hot topic” and they are going to get a book deal and become an authority on something SHE created.  Just because she can’t capture the lightening in a bottle doesn’t mean someone else won’t. If I were  her, I’d get off of Twitter and get to writing. 


I’ll conclude with reposting a comment from a WAOD reader who get’s the point I was attempting to make:


I think what you are saying, Blogmother, is that things like clever hashtags are only truly meaningful in the context of a broader strategic undertaking. That perhaps we're too caught up in the tactical, and don't focus nearly enough on the end game. That the store goes on unminded while we're off engaging in futile arguments with white women about things like the precise level of 'cultural appropriation' involved in some tawdry, utterly boring, white starlet’s performance act. The black woman responsible for this meme seems to have some talent for generating ideas that resonate with a certain demographic of black people who use the internet. But, for reasons that are not quite clear, has difficulty leveraging these ideas into something that will: a) strategically (there’s that word again) advance her own career, and/or, b) cushion her bank account (at least in this instance, I cannot speak to the above allegations) I love a trenchant takedown by a black woman as much as anyone. It provides a measure of psychic comfort to know that as a black woman I’m not imagining racism and sexism. And it also helps us to determine the dimensions of the problems we must confront. BUT, what I have come to realize, and what you’ve been preaching all of these years, is that the takedown is not enough—we have to find a way beyond this. We have to find a way to channel our anger, indignation, and exasperation into something that is, quite literally, self-serving. I know that much of our inability to do this is rooted in our collective lack of proximity to power—most of us have only an outsider’s view, and are thus lacking a firm grasp on its internal machinations. But maybe that just means that we have to do some reverse-engineering. Black women need infrastructure. And even though I’m not even sure that I know what that means, I’ve sure as hell been trying to grapple with it this past year. I’m can’t say that I’m close to a solution, but I can say that my thinking is now oriented towards doing. I’m asking myself what I can do/create/bring to fruition that will both serve my own interests, and constitute some sort of infrastructure that is capable of furthering the interests of other black women. I’m thinking in terms of tangibles.WAOD Reader Shlbshl

The Blogmother has taught you well!

Reader Comments (9)

I'm really sorry,but it seems like according to ''Twitter Brotha'' ,Black men will only ''throw bows'' when it comes to threatening other Black women. I don't see them going in on White women in Blackface,I ain't seen them when Quvenzhane was called the c-word.

This goes to an earlier post of yours regarding allyship. It seems to be,in White and Black feminist spheres of the web, OK for males to behave in such a manner if he's defending other women,but that kind of defeats the purpose of being pro-Feminist/Womanist by attemiting to shout down or threaten other women,right?

This is why I don't even consider dudes Feminists--too much of their privilege/socialization is ingrained in their psyche to cause them to behave in counterproductive and destructive manners that affect the people they claim to want to support. It's not any of Twitter Brotha's business what Black women say to eachother. He should butt out. As much as I disagree with other Feminists and Womanists,I would rather not have men act like mouthy little boyfriends in my honor. It's not his place as an "ally".

Black Male "allies" need to "stay in their lane" and stop trying to police Black women and their words within their own movements.

November 1, 2013 | Unregistered CommenterMissIce

This is so stupid.I would be thankful for the free information you are giving out here.People pay for this knowledge that you're kicking right now.Shoo I'm thankful Gem! Thank you very much.I'm bookmarking these last two posts you did just in case I ever come up with a half decent idea/hashtag/tag line.I also would like to know what's up with the defeatist attitude of the hood feminists?I have seen so many excuses as to why she didn't purchase that hashtag name and website that it's actually sad.I understand white privilege and people being able to take things from you because of it, but why would you not make any attempts to protect preserve your intellectual property for your own use is beyond me.

November 1, 2013 | Unregistered CommenterTruth P.

I totally agree MissIce. I wonder, if he was in the audience that day the blogger from CFC was harassed would he have done anything to help?Things that make you go hmmmm

November 1, 2013 | Unregistered CommenterTruth P.

Thanks @Truth P. the only reason to reply to this kind of stupidity is to help enlighten my audience.

November 1, 2013 | Registered CommenterThe Blogmother

I was shocked to see Neal Carter, a so-called "progressive Democrat" from Maryland and fellow Young Dem member, featured on this blog that I follow. I will make sure the next time you part your mouth to ask Black women in PG County for help with a future campaign again, this page will be referenced. You can delete the tweet, but it still resides here. #NoSupportIn2016 #IPreferToDonateMyMoneyToPeopleWhoDon'tThreatenBlackWomenOnTwitter.

@ A Concerned PG County Resident - Wiat. This guy is a politician? Is he actually elected to a position or did he run?

November 4, 2013 | Registered CommenterThe Blogmother

No, he is not a politician. But he runs a consulting business which includes fundraising for campaigns and other initiatives. Some women of color in the PG area have been inclined to give him money only because he is Black and/or has a disability. I screenshot the Twitter response with background and forwarded to 4 very active list servs. If his name is mentioned around me again, facts will be shared.

People must understand when you put your thoughts on the internet, they do not ever go away. And I listen when people show me or tell me who they are.

@A Concerned PG COunty Resident. WOW!

November 6, 2013 | Registered CommenterThe Blogmother

@ A Concerned PG County Resident

Neal Carter's behavior doesn't shock me. He likely has the following view of Black women:

"You're Black woman.

Thus, you MUST support a Democrat like myself even though I'm an arrogant, misogynistic troll."

Politicians and their consultants like Carter forget that they are called public SERVANTS for a reason. Carter has no business telling Black women what to think or say. Frankly, under our form of government, it's Black women who get to so boss the likes of him around.

Just my two cents.

November 9, 2013 | Unregistered CommenterFred

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