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No, We're not Talking About Creflo Dollar Today- Spare the Kids & Other News You Can Possibly Use

Don't worry, I think I've got at least a half dozen more Creflo Dollar posts left in me. Actually, not about Mr. Dollar, but the response to Mr. Dollar's alleged actions on the night he lost control of his rage and became violent towards his 15-year-old daughter. I asked readers over on the WAOD Fan page to drop some links about other stories affecting Black women and girls and this is what they came up with. 

This first find is one I made on my own. It is a website called Spare the Kids: Helping Parents Who Hit and the Children Who are Hit, Rise above This Slave Heritage and Learn How to Change. The website is pretty self explanatory. I liked the cartoons on the site and even though I am childFREE, I learned a great deal from the cartoon strips. If spare the rod, spoil the child is the extent of the parenting skillset, then you suck as a parent and should probably consider acquiring additional skills. 

Tonya shared this article from Jezebel complaining about the lack of Blakc mother's in movies. There's Just No Place for Black Moms in Hollywood.  There is a simple solution for this, make our own movies.


Tracy B Shared a story about increased cancer rates for Black moms who don't breastfeed, High Cancer Risk in Black Moms Who Don't Breastfeed. But another reader was quick to point out major flaws in the studies. We're pretty much anti-study at this point because it's open season on Black women in the medical research community. We don't trust y'all anymore. 

Have a great hump day!

Reader Comments (9)

Blogmother wrote:

Tonya shared this article from Jezebel complaining about the lack of Blakc mother's in movies. There's Just No Place for Black Moms in Hollywood. There is a simple solution for this, make our own movies.

Funny you should bring this up. A friend sent me an articel about how Black creators are increasingly using the Internet not Hollywood to distribute their shows:


As noted above, this shift is due to said creators being fed up with Hollywood's intolerance toward racial diversity on TV. (Ironically, this is the same Hollywood which claims to not be racist because they overwhelmingly support Barack Obama.)

This trend could not come at a worse time for Hollywood, especially cable, which is losing customers due a sour economy:


Considering cable's often lousy portrayals of Blacks, I'm not weeping over their hard times.

So, you are correct that we must create original fare if Black mothers are to be portrayed positively.

June 20, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterFred

My parents spanked me as a child when I really screwed up. They never crossed the line into abuse though, and I turned out fine. Me and my wife don't believe that a spanking is necessary 100% of the time, but every now and then a little pop on the leg or butt does the trick for our daughter. As she gets older, we may not have to resort to that at all.

As for breastfeeding, that's what she did for our daughter from day 1. Our daughter was a micropreemie, so it was imperative that she got nothing but breast milk, especially when she was in the hospital. We think that will help her tremendously in the long run.

June 20, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterDJ Sniper

Spanking depends on the culture.

If you're from a culture where everyone gets spanked...it's not a big deal, everyone is spanked - but you don't spank kids after age 11 - all outcomes are bad after that age.

If you come from a culture where people don't get spanked - then getting spanked really screws you up b/c the perception is you must be REALLY bad to get spanked - kid internalizes that and have much worse outcomes.

June 21, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterJJ

Here's the thing, Mr. Dollar knows now that he better not let anyone in his family come to harm in his present. I'm glad the narcissist got what was coming to him. I bet in the next 5 years we will hear from his wife about all the secret beatings. She probably just waiting to her daughters become adults before she actually divorces him writes a book and spill at the tea. I can't wait. I hate a bully.

June 21, 2012 | Unregistered Commentercns

Post Traumatic Slave Syndrome, a book by Dr. Joy DeGruy Leary published in 2005 or 2006, discusses corporal punishment. Haven't read the book in ages but definitely remember at least 1 chapter about corporal punishment passed down from slavery until now.

June 21, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterSpinster

Although, I do agree that black women having the highest rate of every disease known to man is a bunch of whoweee; breast feeding does help lower the risk of developing breast cancer for all women.

June 21, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterLD

Ok, now I have just looked at the site " Spare the Kids". I did enjoy the comic strip with very common scenerios that I remember my mother going through with me. Especially the biting. lol (here's a secret, I'm still a biter **wink wink**) but the whole reasoning with your children is almost a loss for me. Both of my parents and most of my family members are in the field of Education. I feel pretty confident that their brand of discipline was on the money when it comes to the amounts of beating/whuppin's/spankings or whatever it can be called that I got for these reasons:

-At younger ages, depending on the serverity of danger that the child may be about to get themselves into, a physical deterant is necessary b/c the child may not be able to process the amount of harm that their action may cause to their person. There may be no time to politely sit down and talk about it!
i.e. running into the street without looking first. I tried this stunt with my mother at maybe about 3 or 4 years old before I was taught to cross the street properly. When she was able to rescue me from imminent death, she probably beat me into oblivion! lol. There was no time or a place where she could demonstrate the dangers of getting ran over by a car. At that age, she just wanted me to fear being run over and two, to teach me that she will end my life before she lets a car get first dibs! It did not teach me to be afraid of my mother or to be a violent person to solve problems. It simply made me remember the behavior modifying spanking that I had gotten previously and to NEVER cross the street without permission or knowing how to do so.

-Children who cannot speak yet or grasp certain types of concepts due to their age and maturity level may need quick and swift behavior modication. Basically, that should be the only use for a whooping. It should be used to immediately modify the behavior of a child who is not capable of talking about the inappropriate behavior that is taking place. It should not be done in a fit of anger and rage. I feel there is nothing wrong with a spanking occassionally to correct a child and when that child is able to use their own reasoning skills, perhaps the beating should stop. Parents should be able to gage when its time to switch behavior modification methods.

-Parents who give their children all these dang options/speeches about their behavior are going down a slippery slope. It can lead to children who think that with the right amount of "talking it out" that any and all situations with their parents and other authoritative figures can be negotiated. Children need concrete repercusions and consequences for bad behavior. When they reach the age that talking it out, restricting tv,phone, games, and Ipods will work to correct behavior, then so be it. But if a whooping is all that will work for a while, then so be it until they leave the house! I still know grown, well functioning, job holding adults who fear even the THREAT their parents "raising up" at them knowing full well it won't actually happen (hopefully). lol.

What's really funny is that we can always tell what bratty, disrepectful, mouthy butthead of a kid has never had a whooping in their entire life and those who have been beaten down for every single infraction big,small, or non-existent because they are just as ridiculous or damaged goods....

June 22, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterL. Parsons

@ L. Parsons: When you were 3 or 4 and you didn't understand how to properly cross the street, you ran across the street without looking and your mother gave you a whooping, which you support. I have a suggestion: How about people who are travelling across streets with toddlers HOLD THEIR TODDLERS' HANDS?? Huh? How about that? What in the heck happened to that strategy? And why did your mother beat you? "To teach me that she will end my life before she lets a car get first dibs!" So wait - your mother is telling (via a beating) that she would murder you? I know you are trying for some wry humor here, but that statement is anything but funny. It's downright disgusting.
"and when that child is able to use their own reasoning skills, perhaps the beating should stop."Perhaps? PERHAPS? Why just perhaps, if they can use their reasoning skills? L. Parsons, you have issues. Get some help. Those whoopings have taken their toll.

June 28, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterKayBee

@ KayBee

I understand and agree with what L.Parsons wrote (except the beating till murder, which could have been said as a joke). Anyway she is right, children are not adults who can discuss and understand all their inappropriate behaviour. A spanking or beating is only needed for extream cases and yes to instill fear. It is a defence mechamism that we all have, using it for the right reason or purpose is important.

A talking to or taking privilages away from a child between the ages 1- around 10 does not most of the time work, it is not concrete enough for them to understand 'do not do this or that.'
Studies and learning theories have shown that physical punishment does deter behaviour. Parents must be wise, use proper judgement and do not mistake abuse for punishment.

Physical/corporal punishment should not be the only method of punishment for parents but it should be one of the methods used when necessary.

Ohh, the idea that corporal punishment comes from a slavery past is not true, if that is so all other races who do use physical punishment were enslaved like blacks. Then that means Asians, Africans in Africa, Whites and Middle Eastern peoples were slaves like blacks were, but the thing is they were not enslaved or went through what blacks did. The argument should be about Abuse not physical/corporal punishment maybe then slavery can be blamed.

July 6, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterKChild

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