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Guest Posting Opportunity: 7 Habits of Highly Effective Black Women

The first seven posts of 2013 will be on the subject of Steven R. Covey's The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People . I'm accepting guests posts because I haven't finished reading the book :)

Pick a habit, write about it and how it relates to your experience as a Black woman and then send me a copy of your essay via the messaging button on the WAOD Facebook Fan Page or the WAOD contact form.

Include the name you want it posted under and if you want a link back to your website, provide that as well. I'll pick at least  7 and they'll post on Mondays beginning January 7th. It does not need to be a soliloquy. 250 words is just fine. 1000 words is probably too much.

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In the beginning of my military career, as I was an enlisted personnel, advancement in the ranks was not difficult. Promotions were made on a timely basis, and only one's foolish actions would hamper it' happening. After earning my degree, and going through Officer Candidate School, I entered into a new world. Promotions were often given politically, socially or by the desirability of the position. I became frustrated by being turned down for Major on 4 straight occasions, and the advancement going to officers who were less qualified. It nearly led me to leaving the service at the end of the upcoming term of enlistment. After having several discussions with my husband, and countless ones with myself, I realized what had to be done.

My problem was that I merely had a firm grasp on the knowledge needed to pass the written tests, and give direct answers to the oral exam. What I needed was to be ready to not only answer the "stump" questions that had been tripping me, but to give answers that interwove all aspects of the job description that applied to that question. My duties were in Traffic Management (logistics for personnel and their dependants, property, materials, etc.). When I would be asked a question that pertained to, say, arranging personal property for shipment and management, my answer would be a direct response to that question. I found that by giving an answer that not only pertained to that specific action, but also showed a link to the previous question, or even better, to an as of yet unanswered question, I was graded higher. The way I prepared myself, was to think of all possible connections or connotations to whatever exact federal or military regulation I was studying at that moment. My study books were a mess, there were so many notes in the margins and sides of the pages. It worked. The next exam I was promoted, and told my score was the highest. One of the examiners told me, off the record, that the other members were going to give the highest marks to another officer, of a different ethnicity, with 3 years less seniority than I had. It was my failure to be rattled, and the way I answered questions before they were asked that made the difference. He said "they felt stupid sitting there with 15 minutes to go, and no more questions to ask. If they did not give you the promotion, they were going to have to explain why not".

What I am offering from that long winded story is this: whether it applies to our work, our families, our relationships or even daily events, if we make it a habit to prepare ourselves mentally for the unexpected, then the unexpected never comes. Our quick response, and mastery of the moment, is not magical. It only appears so. That lends an air of genius that makes us, and our minds, indispensable to those that rely upon it. Life throws us a curve, and we hit a grand slam. Not because we are omnipotent battters, but because we knew what pitch was coming.

January 12, 2013 | Unregistered CommenterDiana

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