Robin Thicke Trashes Black Women in Lame Attempt to Make ESSENCE Cover: When MESSENCE-heads Come Home to ROOST!
Wednesday, January 18, 2012 at 7:00AM The Blogmother In some ways you have to feel sorry for Mr. Paula Patton. He was hoodwinked, bamboozled, led astray by the male-identified women working at your favorite publication and mine, ESSENCE magazine.
Long time readers know that MESSENCE magazine is a Black men's magazine masquarading as a Black women's magazine. Their primary concern is making sure Black women know that we're flawed while promoting the idea that Black men walk on water. Their editorial dictate ever since Susan Taylor left has been "Black women are going to die old and alone to be eaten alive by nine cats because y'all are too picky and eeevil!"
Every month, they feature Black bachelors that are just waiting to marry we Black sheDevils if only we would repent from out wicked wicked waaaaaays! If only we would lower ourselves to go trolling for men in strip clubs, and prisons and the county clinic (afterall, what a few STIs between friends?) No, I'm not making any of these ridiculous suggestions up.
So here comes Mr. Paula Patton, basking in the glow of his wife's sucess in landing a role in Mission Impossible and he get's to popping off at the mouth about why Black women are single. ESSENCE corners him and makes him make a blood oath in support of Black MEN by implicating that the reason Black women are single is because we're a bunch of selfish, mulish shrews.
After signifying that he just LUUUUUUUVS Black women, he let's ESSENCE force him to take a blood oath that our singleness is NOT the fault of Black men.
ESSENCE: The media often tells Black women that they’re better off dating White guys. What’s your response to that?
THICKE: I think that’s ridiculous. There are so many good Black men out there that are hardworking, decent, and handsome, you know? To start that rumor is as bad as starting any other negative rumor. There are great Black men out there. There are only a few good White men -- trust me. (Laughs) Good luck finding a good White man who understands your journey. I only have three White friends. I’ve got 20 Black male friends, who are all good men who take good care of their wives, and good care of their children. I know amazing Black men. Maybe the women have to take better care of their men. Maybe you’re being too stubborn. Maybe you’re not saying you’re sorry. You have to take good care of him, too. You have to give love to get love.
To which I responded over at the What About Our Daughters Facebook Fan page with the following:
Dear Robin Thicke (aka Mr. Paula Patton),
In a recent interview with MESSENCE magazine, you reportedly implied that Black men walked on water and while Black women needed to make some changes in order to catch-a-man before we die old-and-alone-to-be-eaten-alive-by-nine-cats. In particular, you said
"Maybe the women have to take better care of their men. Maybe you’re being too stubborn. Maybe you’re not saying you’re sorry. You have to take good care of him, too. You have to give love to get love. "
My question is this.... WHAT THE HEY-EL do Black women need to apologize to Black men for?
And aren't Black women taking care of their men already? Haven't we ALWAYS?
You're novel, but you ain't all that great a singer. Stick to sangin' in falsetto doing impressions of more talented singers.
Shaddup,
The Blogmother
What About Our Daughters?
If you're a young Black girl growing up in America, you will be bombarded at a very young age with a sick message that you're not enough. Many of these messages will come from other Black people. Unfortunately they will come from other Black women like those at ESSENCE. These parasitic Black folk will tell you that you need to obtain someone eles's hair, contact lenses, ridiculously expensive purses and shoes and most important a man.... any Black man in order to be worthy! And if you don't have those things, then something must be wrong with YOU!
These people are liars. There's a whole LOT of reasons why Black women are single. I'll only mention three here.
Reason number 1- Black women keep waiting around for Black men in their social circle to catch up with them. If everybody around you is "SANGLE" and you don't want to be "SANGLE" you might want to bounce.
Reason Number 2- Black women keep worrying about what other Black people are going to think about their marriage and dating choices. Again, Black men don't have this problem. They don't take a freaking survey when they bring a girl home to Mama. They don't care what the people at church or the office or on the street say. They don't give a RIP! While you're sitting there worried about what I think about what makes YOU happy, I'm living my life.
Reason Number 3- We don't have to be married! I've got $20,000 that says that if you took a survey of our great grandmothers and asked them based on today's social conditions, would they settle for ANY BLACK MAN they could find, the answer would be HEY-EL NO!
I don't want you to think that you're doomed to die old and alone to be eaten alive by 9 cats. That's a lie. Despite the assertions in ESSENCE magazine, Black women date and get married every.single.day! It's normal for you to desire companionship- but I cry foul on craving companionship to the point that you subject yourself to constant insult and degradation at the hands of ESSENCE, Robin Thicke and the Black Elite Establishment.
You don't have to choose between dignity, self respect, and love and companionship. YOU. CAN. HAVE. IT. ALL! But NOT if you listen to the women who run ESSENCE magazine or idiots like Robin Thicke.
If you're not on the WAOD Facebook Fan Page, you're missing out! Robin Thicke got scattered, smothered, covered and chunked!
Paging Jon B! Paging Jon B!
P.S. Robin, they ain't EVAH! EVAH! EVAH gon' put you on the cover of ESSENCE magazine. They'll put Kim Kardashian on the over before you make the cover.
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Happy New Year Gina :)
Same to you Halima!
Robin: "Oh Paula. You are so special. You're not like the others. I love you."
Paula: *batting eyelashes* "Oh Robin. *giggles* You're so silly and so sweeet. I love you too."
Let me first say, Halima you are on point with this article. I noticed a change in Messence about a year ago. The fact that they put Reggie Bush on the valentines day 2010 cover baffles me still. With that said I am glad that you brought this topic up. When I read the interview with Robin Thicke my eyes bugged out of my head. Black women are not to blame for the fact that black men stray from the race. People can Obama / black love guilt us all they want . I remember being told that some black guys think that we are not "adventurous". We are not freaky enough in bed or we do not like certain types of music. Puhlease! I have attended New york comic con and rock concerts and seen black guys pass over girls like me to talk to women of other races.
The problem does not lie with black women despite what essence and ebony want to us believe. The problem is lies within these so called men.
And these people who want to see you only with a Black man will surprise you. My best friend told me that she would give me the side eye if I brought a White man around her. I promptly called her something unpleasant and stated wtf did she care? She was supposed to be all about me being happy.
Thats how you know they would rather here of how youre not doing well, alone, and even suggested I should date some Black guy loser, while they are happily married and living with a purple unicorn. Just listen to what is being said, nevermind by whom. The source may shock you.
Reason #2. Do Black women worry about what other people think? No seriously, I don't know a Black woman alive who gives a rat's rear end about what other people think. But that's just my two cents. However, it's wrong to say that maybe the WOMEN have to change. What he should have said was maybe BOTH parties have to change in order for a relationship to happen.
It's gotten so crazy that now everyone, Robin Thicke?, thinks they can give us advice. Who's next Justin Bieber?
Thank you for this Gina!
Gina, welcome back!.
Let me get all southern and black on this one: I don't know who or what made Robin Thicke fix his mouth to say something so plumb ignant and stupid. So what he know 20 'good' black men. I know double and about half them ain't worth the afterbirth that came after them. Also, how many of these so called 'good' black men are married to black women. I bet a number of them are married to women of other races who treat them like they're the queen of England. Just like Mr. Thicke, they treat their women of other races like they are a novelty or something special.
Mr. Thicke is the type of white man who thinks he has earned his 'black card' because he sings black music, has black friends, and has a black wife. Well, he can keep his black card and can have mine if he wants it. I'm done with this foolishness of treating black women like over 200 years of racism and sexism is our fault.
Coming from an admitted drug user, I can't take anything he says seriously. He's friends with Lil' Wayne, so you know he's got to share some of the same views as he does. I like his music and I like looking at him, but he needs to put down whatever he's smoking before he does an interview. He's no social commentator or relationship expert by any stretch of the imagination.
The first 1/4 of his response should've been all that was said.
@ Gina, you had me in stitches by the end of this post! Essence knows full well that conscientious black women are not looking for advice from Robin Thicke (of all people)! This gives me a new found understanding, of what they really think of the audience they're trying to appeal to.
Actually what it shows is white men are no different than black men. They all have some pretty interesting ideas on how women, especially black women, should behave. I am no more surprised than if one of the predatory black males we have written about said it. Afterall it is white men who run the media that continues to make money off of images of us being loud shrews. White men made decided that Tyler Perry could air his trash on TV and made his movies mainstream.
So while I don't think black women have to limit themselves to dating and marrying black men, I also don't think we should fool ourselves into thinking that just because a man is white or any other color you stand a better chance of finding a worthwhile mate. You have to just judge the person. There are excellent black men and doggish white men (John Edwards, Newt Gingrich and that fool that was married to Saundra Bulock-sorry bad with spelling).
It actually shocks and angers me more when a black man says this stuff about us. His mother is black, his sisters are black and whatever daughter he has with a woman of any color WILL BE BLACK. He should know better. Thike is just parroting what his black friends have said around him.
@Bee,
PLEASE get out of my head and quit reading my thoughts!!! Once again, you NAILED it!
Bee you are so right-on. These are our brothers, sons, fathers and they are failing to protect or defend us, their daughters, sisters and mothers. It's become an epidemic and it's very frightening. We, as Black women, can no longer hold the race together. We love our black brothers but they choose women who look nothing like us on purpose. They demonize us along with the rest of society. It's a terrible shame!
ROBIN THICK IS A COWARD.
It was telling when he stated that he has 20 black male friends. I can only imagine what they tell him. Damaged men. And the idiot actually believes it. I wonder what he would have said had the question been about the stats of BM. What a coward.
I don't think it's them Tisha, I think it's you girls. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qWTXhHABj_A
What the heck is with the BG's?! Obviously you women are too damn picky, so if some black dude wants italian, french, or some other race, so be it. Keep on searchin for that Mr. Right cause he'll never show. And have a nice day!