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Reason #187204 Why No Black Woman Should Take Advice from Steve Harvey

This is the second of our two posts today. We here at WAOD didn't need this latest tidbit to form conclusions about Steve Harvey's inadequacy as a relationship "expert". All you had to know was A) Steve Harvey is a comedienne- I won't take his advice on how to cross a street and B) Steve Harvey has been married a bucket load of times- so I won't take his advice on how to makes significant decisions related to relationships--marriage or otherwise.

Now we have one of the former Mrs Harvies who is letting anyone who will listen know that Steve Harvey is not the "good Christian" he wants y'all to think he is.... PAGING Marvin Sapp! According to The YBF


  • Steve moved on to Marjorie in a disturbingly quick fashion, never gave an explanation or apology to Mary. 
  • Steve had an apartment in New York that he neevr let Mary see, but Marjorie joined him there. Steve didn't show up to divorce hearing so Mary never had closure. 
  • Steve took their son, Wynton, from her and turned Wynton against her.
  •  Mary was evicted and thrown out of their home and left with NO money. He took everything from her. Mary claims Steve lied under oath saying he built his empire alone in order for her not to get a dime from him. 
  • She can't put this behind her because Steve is now suing her. 
  • He says MARY is the reason he did not get a show on Oprah's new OWN network. 
  • Mary is coming out with all of this now because Steve is dragging her name through the mud in the media and constantly brings her name up in interviews. 
  • Steve's lawyer prepared a letter of apology that he wanted her to sign saying she was responsible for anything bad about him and their marriage that ended up in the media. She had to take the blame for it.


Of course much of this is tainted in jilted spouse-related scorn, but it just corroborates what any fool with critical thinking skills could have figured out. 

Plus I checked out the first book from the library, its filled with foolishness.... but apparently many women are fools since he keep raking in the cash on these book sales. 

So the next time y'all see Steve Harvey blubbering over some gospel song selection on one of these Black awards shows he likes to host, remember that this .... This woman is the mother of this man's son and he is clearly trying to destroy her.  

Good luck with that Mary!



Reader Comments (28)

I don't get the Steve Harvey phenomenon. I guess I missed that class on getting advice on relationships from a person who is on his THIRD marriage. I'm not the least surprised about his behavior with his previous wife. I also read that book and was insulted by it's patronizing tone. I was horrified that a friend of mine recommended it to me. I thought she had better sense than that. When I read stories like this I feel like Noah and the ark. I'm getting on the ark of self-determination and self-respect. My sisters who want to stay on land and drown in the brainwashing are welcome to it.

January 24, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterShekinah

@ Shekinah I understand what you are saying about that book (which, by the way, I heard he stole the title and basic concept of from a black woman.)
I was stunned and dismayed when some of my intelligent female friends, who I always had the utmost respect for, began raving about that book, recommending I buy a copy, and posting about it on their Facebook pages. I had to let them know a little about the author's history. Not sure if they got what I was saying. It was like they were so excited that a black man was writing a book about relationships that they did not bother to research his intentions or credentials.
I find Steve Harvey to be very slimy and he is a comedian. He is entitled to his opinion, but how does that make him a relationship expert? I also find the overall tone of his "advice" to be very sexist and patronizing.

January 24, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterNia

Never really cared for Mr. Harvey. I never understood how someone could be on Kings of Comedy cursing every other word, then host a gospel awards show. That's like having Jenna Jamision host the Kids Choice awards.

January 24, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterDROCK

Yep Gina, I picked that up in his first book too. I think he also cheated on his first wife with this woman. Regardless, he never addresses the men, only the women. In my eyes that makes him a sexist bully. Why do so many women believe that his advice will land them a decent man anyways.

Am I wrong to think that maybe Cosmo gives better advice on how to land a man than Steve Harvey and Messence.

January 24, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterLD

Some black women buy his books because they are "zombies" like Gina said. Freaking "zombies". LOL! How can we expect other people to take us seriously when we don't even see that the joke is on us. SMDH.

January 24, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterKim

Yeah... Steve Harvey is a hypocritical joker!!! People can say what they want about him truly caring about young men but I ain't buying it. The first young man he SHOULD be truly caring about is his son. How do you treat the mother of your son in this deplorable manner and expect for him to grow up having respect for women!

He is an overgrown manchild hustler and proves this over and over and over again!

January 24, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterBlackButterfly

I don't take up for zombies, the writing is on the wall. There is nothing more pathetic than a zombie over 35 (Steves book fanbase). When I saw his book signing TV I thought I would see a bunch of 20 somethings. These were grown women 35 plus.

So after you are grown and have kids you wanna read a book to learn the game, the men you were with didn't leave you with lessons? or are they obsessed with playing the victim.

January 24, 2011 | Unregistered Commenterblkchik

I would like to know what you guys think about the fact that since he was a womenizer, wouldn't he be the best person to give you advice on such men? Help younotice the traits of men who only want to play games?

FYI: I have yet to read the book. I'm just asking.

January 24, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterQueenSafira

@ QueenSafira

If Steve's game was strong he wouldn't have an ex blasting him on Youtube.

January 24, 2011 | Unregistered Commenterblkchik

That's what I've been saying all along DUDE IS A COMEDIAN.
I don't believe most people would seriously take advice from David Letterman on healthy relationships and marriage.
You have to be some kind of low to do that given his past.Some women knew about Steve when they bought that book SMH.

January 24, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterTruth P.

I just interviewed the author of "Why Do I Have to Act Like a Man?" whom Mary reached out to recently. All I can say is...wow. The fact that Mr. Harvey has so many women following behind him in lockstep is both baffling and sad.

January 24, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterChristelyn D. Karazin

Steve Harvey is a relative of my brother in law's. According to my BIL, this man treats his flesh-and-blood family extremely poorly and has an extremely exalted opinion of himself.

January 24, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterShecodes

The problem is the type of advice these comedians give, particularly targeted to women and young girls. Steve Harvey, Monique, Sherri Shepard, Chris Rock...these people have no type of formal education, no creditials to be a therapist.

January 24, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterLD

Hmmm! His current wife is to blame as well. Yes, blame him, but blame her as well. She was an opportunist. She will always be the other woman. She needs to be prepared when another set of legs with a higher priority than hers come walking through the door, she better be prepared for deja vu. God don't like ugly. I would seek relationship counseling from my gray cat, Tate before I would even considering taking advice from this man. He is a joke - a comedian, who is jumping on the band wagon of triggers to get black people to respond to ignorance. Steve Harvey is a trend. You want relationship counseling, see someone who can back up their advice with results, rather that conjecture or riding to make on fortune, because of his name. But, he knows that many folks are foolish, folks like drama and folks want a quick fix at something that takes commitment, time and hard work to keep it going strong. Steve is trying to build wealth, he has a clothing and accessories line, etc. Come on ladies wake the hell up!

January 24, 2011 | Unregistered Commentermydaughter'smother

I remember when Steve first came on the scene as a contestant on Showtime at the Apollo. He as REALLY funny and I like him alot. His comedy was different and refreshing and relatively clean. When he went on to become the host of Showtime at the Apollo for a little while, I liked him even more. But after he blew up and started to get bigger, something happened to him. I developed a strong distaste for him around the time of the first Kings of Comedy tour. I saw him perform and he came across as mean-spirited. Lots of comedians clown audience members as part of their act. Most of the time, the comeidans know where to draw the line and when to let up. Steve would take it a bit too far. It was just something about him that made me uncomfortable. I then observed the same type of behavior and got the same vibe when I saw him on televsion (other than the Steve Harvey Show) and heard him in interviews. It eventually got to the point where I couldn't even stand to hear him speak. The man's voice grates on my ears like nails on a chalkboard.

One of my good friends works in PR and had the displeasure of meeting Steve Harvey a few years ago when he hosted the Black Family Reunion. She told me the he is an absolute JERK. He refused to speak to any of the "underlings" directly. They had to speak to his assistant, and the assistant would tell Steve what they said. Steve would be sitting LESS THAN FIVE FEET AWAY FROM HER, but he would not address her directly. She had to tell his assistant, and the assitant would repeat to Steve VERBATIM what she had just said. Then he would answer the assistant, and the assistant would repeat VERBATIM to her what Steve had just said. I called my friend a liar because surely no one could be this ignorat. Unfortunately she was telling the truth.

So none of what Mary is saying surprises me. Steve is behaving in a vile manner. And why is he suing her because Oprah wouldn't give him a show? (Doesn't he know that Oprah does not give shows to black people except Gail... but I digress...) He has already taken EVERYTHING from Mary. She has nothing. What exactly does he think he's going to get from her with this lawsuit? Her underwear? This just confirms what I suspected years ago, the man is mean-spirited. But I have a feeling that Karma is getting ready to bite Steve in the butt and he is in for a fall of GIGANTIC proportions.

January 24, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterMommieDearest

@ Blkchik

I couldn't have said it better myself. Shouldn't your past failed relationships teach you a lesson? A lot of this stuff is common sense. Most relationship advice given to women is patronizing and offensive. It assumes that men are simple creatures who send clear messages and women are emotional idiots who constantly make the wrong moves. If you want a man like Steve Harvey, this is the book for you.

January 24, 2011 | Unregistered Commenteriman

Steve Harvey is as many have said a comedian and a womanizer..
Thank you Blogmother for keeping it real and uncovering the foolishness...

January 24, 2011 | Unregistered Commenterwannatwinkie

Please excuse the typos in my previous post.

I forgot to include that the last time I saw Steve Harvey live was in the mid-2000's at the MegaFest. The MegaFest is a large gospel convention that TD Jakes used to put on every summer in Atlanta. My mother invited me to go with her to the Christian Comedy show at Phillips Arena. Steve Harvey was the host. Now I was immeidately suspect, because I had already seen Kings of Comedy years before and I KNEW the kind of comedy that Steve Harvey performed. I could not for the life of me understand why anyone would want Steve to host a Christian comedy event. He was actually doing a decent job, but of course he had a "moment" and forgot his audience. During one of his routines between acts he was telling a story where he accidentally on purpose implied that he is well-endowed. The crowd was pretty queit, there was some nervous laughter here and there, but mainly crickets. Two young ladies who were sitting about 20 rows from the front of the stage got up and walked out. Of course Steve did not like that. He made some snarky remarks along the lines of "EFF you witches-with-a b then" and continued to try to recover from his previous faux pas. After the next act was done and he had to come back out, he pulled the "God is working on me" card, complete with covering his face with his hand, shaking his head and appearing to be holding back tears. Note that he did not apologize for his inappropriate joke or for trying to clown the women who left. But the crowd ate it up like fresh biscuits on Sunday morning. All I could do was sit there dumbfounded and shake my head at how gullible people are.

January 24, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterMommieDearest

If Steve did all this evil, he will have his day. God don't like ugly.

January 25, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterQueen

If Steve Harvey went around having the Regina Grier character whining and referring to him as "Big Daddy" every five minutes on his sitcom from the defunct WB, I am not surprised with how he is in the real world. Even in "Love Don't Cost A Thing" his character was more concerned with his son "being a man" (i.e. having sex) than anything. I don't think he's acting I think that's how he is for real. He just seems scuzzy to me.

I can't believe there are women clamoring for this book and for him regardless of all this drama coming out.

January 25, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterGolden Silence

"(Doesn't he know that Oprah does not give shows to black people except Gail... but I digress...)" - MommieDearest

So true! I honestly don't think Oprah likes Black people.

Steve Harvey is a joke and not a funny one. He is just doing what so many media outlets have done and exploiting the supposed sad state that we Black women are in. Unfortunately, like BET, Steve has a following. So like BET he's going to keep doing what he's doing.

January 25, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterVal

OK, this is just RICH!!!! How clueless can a bunch of women possibly be??? Steve Harvey is the keynote speaker for Women's Empowerment 2011 in North Carolina. *smh*


January 25, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterMommieDearest

So now the new wife is suing the ex. Steve can't maintain his own family situation and he writing books giving lessons.! Its a total mess, instead of writing books he needs advice, maybe he should call Dr Phil

January 25, 2011 | Unregistered Commenterblkchik

From Rhymeswithsnitch.com:

"Faithful Rhymes with Snitch readers already knew half the dirt Mary dished in her videos, including allegations Steve was stepping out on their marriage with his current wife Marjorie, how he led Mary to believe she couldn't hire her own attorney for their divorce proceedings, and how, after finding out how dirty he did Mary, Oprah dropped plans to set Steve up Dr. Phil style"

I cannot believe this! Ok maybe I can but dang. How can you have so much skeletons in your closet but then preach to people as if your a holy man? Plus his new wife aint no saint either. I wonder how this whole thing is going to play out.

January 25, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterQueenSafira


Oprah has plenty reasons not to like black people. Hell, I only like certain types of black people and that number hovers around 20 percent.

Steve Harvey is an idiot and the black people who accept him, Hill Harper, etc and other trifling black comedian actors as relationship experts are equally as stupid as I think Steve and Hill are.

January 26, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterBLKSeaGoat



Oprah has plenty reasons not to like black people. Hell, I only like certain types of black people and that number hovers around 20 percent".

LOL, Come to think of it I sometimes feel that way.

January 26, 2011 | Unregistered Commentershell

Whoa, judgmental much? What's with all the hate and female bashing? If a sister wants to read Steve and his books and that helps her get through her day then that is her business. I read his book for research for my own upcoming book and can't say that I'm a Steve Harvey fan. I thought the book was simplistic but that said I don't think it's necessary to rag on the ladies for seeking solace between his pages. Maybe they got something out of it that we didn't. We're all entitled to have differing opinions about our literary tastes. As for Steve the man and not the author, what happened to the power of redemption? Maybe he was a reprobate 5 years ago or maybe just yesterday but can't people transform and change for the better? Isn't that what being 'saved' is all about? I'm not defending him, his past or his writing but damn, y'all take down the animosity a notch or two. Agree to disagree and keep it moving. It's not that serious.

January 30, 2011 | Unregistered Commenterthe Super Sistah

@ The Super Sistah - BWHAHAHA Female bashing? First of all, you have some nerve coming up in here referring to women and girl's as "female." We aren't dogs, cats or lions- Then tell people to agree to disagree, but criticize people for disagreeing. You ARE a Steve Harvey fan, you are just too embarrassed to admit it. What about Mary? is she a "female " too? Are people entitled to criticize their opinion regarding how he treated her?

The Super Sistah is no sister at all, she's a MALE-IDENTIFIED woman who thinks women are disposable and men are Gods.

Steve Harvey's agent need to get off of this blog. LATE and LOUD!

January 30, 2011 | Registered CommenterThe Blogmother

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