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Tuesday
May192009

Why You Should BURN the June 2009 Issue of ESSENCE Magzine Part 1

I don't actually read ESSENCE magazine other than the one "investigative" story they have at the back of each issue on page 567. This month they did an excellent piece on domestic violence Called Our Secret Pain. It was written by Robin D. Stone. It included first hand accounts from Black women from every educational, geographic, and generational background about how they escaped abusive relationships. One of the women was a social worker. The other was 14 when she caught the eye of an 18 year old lunatic who later shot her int he foot and dragged her and their baby all over town.

Peppered through out a couple of the stories were anecdotes about the increasing cycle of violence notably, the way the abuser begins the cycle with verbal abuse and isolation. Insults, debasing words etc.  it was a good article and normally I would have thrown the whole magazine in a pile in the corner. I must have needed a mind break so I thumbed through the rest of the magazine.  Its the first time I've read something  on pages 1-120  in a minute. Why? because the first 100 pages are full of advice I would never take.

Now the cover promises to reveal hot spots to meet men. On page 76 in the "dating guide" section Charrea Jackson and Neima Jordan wrote an article called "10 Places to Meet Black Men: There's Nothing Wrong With Hunting For Happiness" Here are their suggestions:

1. Home Improvement Class

2. Community Service

3. A Little League baseball Game . Readers are instructed to "check out the coach or the single dads between innings"

4. The Gym

5. Go to a Strip Club

6. Join a political campaign

****screech**** let's head back to #5 did they suggest that Black women go to strip clubs to meet men? No, they couldn't have said that. Uh uh not ESSENCE. Not the folks who lead the "Take Back the Music" campaign. Not Susan Taylor's "In the Spirit"  ESSENCE. Nah that must be a typo. They didn't just list the SKRIP club as a place to meet Black men.

Not only do they list the SKRIP club as a place to meet Black men, but they try to chide those of us who find the suggestion ri dayum diculous.
"Just hear us out: Some city strip clubs have evolved into sexy social scenes. "I've encountered plenty of attractive, straight, and single men at strip clubs." Says Zenitra Perry, 26 a sales executive in New York City. With seminude women walking around everyone's guard is down. Go ahead and send a drink to the Idris Elba look-alike at the bar" Charreah Jackson  and Niema Jordan, Essence magazine June 2009, page 76

I mean this with all seriousness Charreah and Niema... Have y'all been huffing glue? I'm serious. Did you have a skiing accident a few months ago and suffer blunt force trauma to the cerebral cortex, because a deprivation of oxygen to the brain could be the only explanation for why and sane Black woman would direct another Black woman torun around buying drinks for Black men in the skrip club. How many men have y'all picked up in the strip club and how did that work out for y'all?

First of all, strip clubs don't EVOLVE! The whole concept of skrip clubs is DE-Evolution. Its a place where human beings, women, are treated like animals. No brain, no heart, no emotions, just objects dancing around.

Second of all, aren't you inviting Black women to PIMP out other Black women. "With semi-nude women walking around, everyone's guard is down." -Its not that woman's job to get my guard down so that I will have the courage to send some man a drank. If you can't have a conversation without another Black woman having to skrip to "relax" your "prey", then you have bigger issues than "man hunting".

Third, if you meet this man in a strip club, explain to me how exactly you are going to have any boundaries in this relationship? You met him at a strip club! You prepared to go to the strip club for Valentine's Day? What about your anniversary? Birthday? Why not? That's where you met him. Imagine the wedding reception when you talk about the first date "I met my wife while I was getting a lap dance at Sugas" Oh How freaking romantic."Daddy, how did you meet mommy?"

Fourth, I would suspect, and Black men PLEASE correct me if I am wrong, that a Black men still engage in compartmentalization where they place women in relationship categories. I'm going to take a leap of faith that they aren't going to place the woman sending them drinks at the strip club in the "long term relationship" compartment.

Fifth, they didn't got to the strip club to see YOU! At least not the sane ones.

WHy doesn't ESSENCE just stop playing around. If the only standard for a great place to meet a Black man is a place where men gather, then why not just suggest that your readers hang right outside the entrance to the county lockup on Friday nights. Instead of buying men drinks, why not bring some bail money with you. I can guarantee he'll call you back or you can just show up for his court date.

Later in the week, I hope to make the case for why ESSENCE should have replaced Jennifer Hudson on the cover of the June issue with the "Anonymous" Author of "Gambling With Herpes" on page 82.
"Sometimes my girlfriend would want sex when I was having an outbreak. I couldn't arouse any suspicion by saying no so I would have sex with my boxers on to conceal where the blisters were located." Anonymous, Page 82 June 2009 Issue of ESSENCE

ESSENCE would be doing Black women a great service by plastering this parasite's photo on the cover so that every Black woman in America would know to avoid this selfish $)(&@(&$  like the plague... LITERALLY!

My final post in this series will cover The Body Shop on page 110, its definitive proof that they have lost their natural minds.

I would think Black men should be marching on ESSENCE headquarters right now because as gullible and stupid as they portray women in the June issue, they make y'all look a WHOLE LOT WORSE... to sane women anyway."Where Black Women Come First..NOT"

Reader Comments (93)

Okay, this is what they call in mental health, an overt act. Obviously these people need to be locked up for the safety of themselves and others.

May 19, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterRoslyn Holcomb

I feel like I started this by asking what you didn't like about it on Twitter. LOL. But I think it is important that we critically examine black media and what they are feeding us instead of just passively inhaling it. The article about "self"-improvement really made me just whoa. Nothing about what males should do to improve in the bedroom. Only women. Ugh.

May 19, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterMiz JJ

Some women do go to strip clubs with their boyfriend/husband, but meeting them there- no ma'am. Were these women looking for a relationship or a hook up? A lot of women these days don't know the difference.
There are upscale strip clubs but I doubt that there are many BM there, don't most BM go to the hood clubs where the black girls are performing. I am just saying if a BM is in one of those exspensive strip clubs looking at blonds, than maybe he is not into BW like that?
And whats up with going to the baseball game looking for single fathers, not all women want men with children.
I don't expect much from Essence, isn't it just like Glamour? I don't read that one either.

May 19, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterNaima

I just haven't taken Essence seriously since I became an adult with some commons sense. They will have an article about saving money, and home foreclosure and have $1,200 boots advertised on the next page.

May 19, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterNaima

Oh boy. I don't really read the magazine either: their Desperately Seeking Any Black Male With a Pulse emphasis is aggravating. I'd have respect for them if they dropped the black male emphasis, and focused on finding a worthy, decent and quality man (of any race) who will love bw as they are.

However, I did skim-read the DM article. I'm not surprised that bw don't get the hint even when a guy starts sneaking in insults from the get-go. I don't buy it that he's abusive after a honeymoon or a couple of months later. It's always there from the beginning. I understand how it can be missed, because bw really want to give the guy a chance, the attraction is strong, and they don't want to be viewed as being hyper-sensitive, "mean" or picky.

Even personal cracks and jokes are an expression of hostility. It will always start with verbal insults, because he's testing what he can get away with. Once he's gotten the green light that the comments are effective, he'll move on to "love taps."

As for waiting outside of county lockup, years ago Essence had a round table with a couple of geniuses and one of them did mention giving bm from jail a chance. Don't think they haven't gone there, and Susan Taylor was the chief at that time.

Words have power, but I think we, as bw, have been specifically socially conditioned and trained to treat put-downs, mean jokes, denigrating, hostile and nasty comments and treatment as non-serious. The propaganda has been blasting at us for the last 20+ years in black entertainment and is now mainstream.

May 19, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterBetty Chambers

Essence is after the a younger demographic now hence the 'sexy, edgy' advice. But that demographic that their advertisers want is still somewhat well off and conservative. Apparently 'strip club' was their compromise. It reaffirms gender norms while seemingly new and innovative. Think Beyonce saying that she's empowered and progressive, while crawling on all fours 'catering to her man.'

May 19, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterKjen

Thank God I do not allow Essence in my home, but I read the magazine while studying in the public library. I saw the list, too and almost lost my mind. My daughter's Seventeen magazine had a better story about domestic violence that Essence and gives better dating advice. Dang, are black women this desparate? Why any woman want to talk to a man who is busy throwing dollars at a woman shaking her behind in his face?
Essence is a die hard 'any kind of black man will do' publication. I shake my head and laugh out loud at the what the black men are thinking section.

May 19, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterMiss Issues

I'm not surprised by this afterall Time, Inc. owns Essence. I'm sure the folks at Time, Inc. don't give a hoot about Black women, they're just in it for the ad dollars. So whatever they think will sell without actually empowering Black women is what will be in Essence.

And the Black people that work at Essence; I put them in the same catagory as the Black people that work at BET.

May 19, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterMonie

I cringed when I read that point about meeting men at the strip club a few days ago, too! Then again at twenty-six years old girlfriend is in the Peter Pan syndrome.

I've notice Essence has lost their wholesomeness along time ago. I always questioned the single bachelors they featured looking for love and their sincerity for black women. I believe 85% of those jokers could give a rats butt about bw.

May 19, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterLD

As far as burning the issue goes make sure you rip out the article on the Soul Singer MAXWELL first then you can burn the rest. I did see that bullshit on where to meet black men. I was appalled.

May 19, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterMaipai101

I crack up that they keep having these 'Available Black Men' issues with Tyler Perry on the cover. They had Shemar Moore in it as well. There are photos of Shemar Moore running naked on a gay beach. If that doesn't keep him from being featured in an 'available black men' issue, I can't imagine why they haven't done a 'The Brothas on Lock-down' issue as well. They are beyond pathetic. They got on my nerves even when Susan Taylor was there, now they don't even have a veneer of social conscience or respectability.

May 19, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterRoslyn Holcomb

Essence has been a joke since the nineties. Every article on "man catchin'" has been lame, uninformed, "hootchie oriented" and useless.

They are also usually self-contradictory as well. For once, they forgot to list houses of worship as a place to meet men.

Monie is EXACTLY right about the types of blacks working for Essence.

May 19, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterJalanda

Tima and time I read of or experience the degrading methods of Black women by people or media that should be on our side. The strip club advice is foolish...as are several of the other suggestions in that article.

It's a shame that this magazine and others (Ebony/JET/Black Women) continue to degrade us and simplify our importance. I don't know what the answer is. At the very least I can keep my hard earned money and not purchase these magazines.

May 19, 2009 | Unregistered Commentercinco

I usually bring a book to the salon when I'm getting my hair done, but sometimes I do flip through the pages of the magazine. It's just a bunch of foolishness now. Essence used to be my magazine but that was like twenty years ago.

I also used to like their television show.

May 19, 2009 | Unregistered Commenterwanda

There was a time when ESSENCE was a quality magazine. I was glad that it was a cut above the other magazines like Cosmopolitan, because you rarely saw articles in there like 'How to satisfy your man' and 'What he is thinking as you back that thing up'

Now, it is no different than the rest. it is a piece of trash magazine and I haven't read it since the late 90s.

May 19, 2009 | Unregistered Commenterkatrina

I really, really didn't think it could get worse. Have they started accepting penpal emails from 54389-x Folsom yet?

Essence has always encouraged black women to degrade themselves by encouraging desperation. The DV article is utterly undercut by #5*.

At least they left The Chetch out. That's not where you meet men. It's how they get laid.

*Grown folks in a CONSENSUAL reciprocal relationship can do whatever.

May 19, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterLaJane Galt

Does either one of these women have a man?? If so, did she meet them at a strip club.

I did not read the article. I only read the interview with Jennifer Hudson. She was the only reason I purchased this particular issue.

I hate pornography whether it is in the club, on video or in magazine. It is debasing to the soul and degrading to women.

Sidebar: Wasn't there an article about how to make a man say your name during sex?

May 19, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterAttorneymom

http://blackgirllonghair.blogspot.com/2009/04/do-us-right-essence-and-any-other.html

they also had a recent article advising black women with natural hair to shampoo 3x and not use conditioner

SABOTAGE!

May 19, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterLaDonna

"Sidebar: Wasn’t there an article about how to make a man say your name during sex?"

OH yes, that's going to be the finale in the series about this psychological warfare being waged on Black women. FOOLISHNESS!

May 19, 2009 | Unregistered Commentergem2001

I do not read Essence. I just don't....

May 19, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterKitty

On the same subject of the attempted mainstreaming of dysfunctional and devolving behavior, I just read on Huffington Post that Lifetime Network has greenlighted Sherri Shepherd's sitcom. I sincerely hope this is not the same sitcom she had been pitching to Lifetime based partly on her life story where she plays a single mother who takes her husband back after he has an affair in which he fathers a child and she lets the husband, his other woman and the child move in with her. I understand that part of this storyline is factual for Sherri's life, but that is insufficient justification for attempting to mainstream this mess. This type of scenario is more likely to bring on domestic violence and child abuse than happiness. I am disappointed in both Sherri and Lifetime for wanting to expose their audience to this mess.

May 19, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterSandra

@Sandra

Yeah, that's what Sherri's show is going to be about. I'm not disappointed in Sherri, not after she was in that film "Whose your caddy?”. This is the kind of stuff I expect from her. I'm more surprised at Lifetime. Do they think women want to see that crap?

Anyway it seems that Sherri Shepherd and Monique are keeping the stupid/ dysfunctional Black woman stereotype alive and well. Note they are both in the film 'Precious', based on the book PUSH which is being promoted by Tyler (the Black woman hater) Perry and Oprah (never miss an opportunity to show Black people as downtrodden) Winfrey.

May 19, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterMonie

Well AlrightyThen!!

essence has never been one of my fav's--i've meet s. taylor years ago when she was running it--and didn't care for her at all. stopped buying/reading them back in the 80's.

Are these writers smoking meth and crack?

typer perry on the cover and shamar?? who didn't know they are gay?
yes they may be eligable--but not looking for females!

"stand outside county lockup"=lololo
gina that is a mouthfull right there--and i know some woman is gonna say-what's wrong with that?

and the herpes article!! WHA!! i agree--put is mug on the cover and educate some women who just don't get it!
Nasty! just Nasty!

AND is this sherri the one on the view? i dont' know her last name.
GUURRLLLLL that is not funny to me! let him move back in with his other woman, and her child by him!!??
Wha in the name of common sense!!?
and again it is proved, that common sense is not common!!

did she really do this is her life? sad , very sad, but then again she said she never thought about the earth being round--somethinglike that she said on live tv!

the strip club....sigh...
i'm not looking for a man--but i would never tell any of my straight single female friends to go to Any of the places they suggested!
So women are suppose to just disregard all their integrity and self-respect , self-love to get some fool that hangs out at strip clubs because he may be single? Who would want those men except the women they go home to?

and not all-but A LOT of community service events are for criminals! better check into Who is doing the community service and why before handing out phone #'s.

and i'm not in the loop--but women going to strip clubs with their bf's and husbands is not cool at all!
what is the point to this!? i mean, how does a man con his partner into doing this and for what purpose? His!

Lord Have Mercy !
Such mental bondage--slavery in 2009!

the single men with children -when you see them - they may not have physical custody of them and may be using their visitation times to be part of the childs life at his sporting events.
not sure how many men there are that don't have children that are mature enough to date. many (not all) start making them in high school.

there are a lot of decent avaliable men that have children. I guess i see nothing wrong with that.

And i've heard men say they don't want a woman that already has children--that's not right.
that they would not even consider a woman who has children ...
there are going to be a lot of single, lonely people around if people keep these kinds of lists.

May 19, 2009 | Unregistered Commenterwisdomteachesme

I canceled my subscription to Essence magazine over 2 years ago, after having been a 7 year subscriber. I just got tired of reading the same damn articles over and over again, and seeing the same faces.

But this foolishness will guarantee that I no longer even pick up the magazine and contemplate buying it in the stores ever again.

May 19, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterMarvalus

Go to a strip club and send a man a drink. You know, if I didn't know of women desperate enough to try this, it would be hilarious as it almost reads like satire.

Perhaps Essence is in collusion with a group of strip joint owners. Because I know if I were a man patronizing a strip club and some woman were to send me a drink, I'm thinking two words: Easy P___Y. I imagine that most men see women in strip clubs, whether on stage or not, as semen receptacles, not potential spouses.

May 19, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterMiki

Ms. McCauley,

You're hilarious. I'm glad you could distract me with laughter in order to keep me from crying about the pathetic state of Essence Magazine. Angela Burt-Murray should be ashamed of herself.

May 19, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterKaren

reminds me of an old Saturday Night Live skit...

".....lowered expectations......"

May 19, 2009 | Unregistered Commentermiriam

dayum dayum dayum...
Essence are you BET?
Is the Essence staff smoking peyote?
I can't believe it but I will not read Essence ever again..just feeding black women foolishness over and over and calling it black journalism..
Thanks Gina for posting this!

May 19, 2009 | Unregistered Commenterwannatwinkie

I'll add my 0.2 cents as a black dude:

I've never been to a strip club and I have no intentions of ever going to one. Why this magazine directs women to a strip club is beyond me. That said, people are free to go socialize wherever they want to. However, if the dude you meet in the strip club turns out to be a bad deal, please don't black all black guys for that. It just doesn't work that way folks.

May 19, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterKelvin

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May 19, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterITSALLSAD

1. There's nothing wrong with making a man say your name during sex.

2. While i don't know if I'd meet a man at the strip club

I do

a. Go to strip clubs and
b. Have gone to a strip club on a date
c. Have and will go the strip club with my boyfriend

Gosh...I also watch porn.

Have you ever been to a strip club Gina...or to anyone else who are having hissy fits about the whole suggestion...

If you haven't then you know that strip clubs are like hotels...you have your 1 star joint and your 5 star joints and while I don't recommend anyone sending a man a drink in any setting...depending on the club you're at you probably could meet somebody and yes it could be a long term relationship.

Unlike most here I know from expereince not just guess-a-mating.

If strip clubs aren't your thing that's fine. I am definitely NOT suggesting they have to be, but many are like clubs or nice restaurant/lounge type settings so you can go have a good time and yes meet some men.

It may not be a politically correct thing to say, but i wouldn't call it bad advice either.

May 19, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterJJ

@jj I haven't been to Riker's Island either, but I still wouldn't put that on my list of suggested places to send over a drink to meet men. Gurl Stop!

May 19, 2009 | Unregistered Commentergem2001

lol@ the Rikers island comment.

Like I said it doesn't have to be your thing...

May 19, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterJJ

I was recently in a "high end" skrip club with potential clients who wanted to end the evening there. Needless to say I was the only women in the group of about eight men but I tagged along not wanting to miss any bit of info.

I don't find skrip clubs appealing. That includes the so called "best adult entertainment venue" on the East Coast that i ventured into. The leather banquettes, Kobe steaks and aged whiskey didn't give it a feel of glamour ...just made it more expensive.

And the girls looked, BORED, bored and bored.

How could someone believe that it would be a good place to meet men...in a venue where the job of the women there is to manipulate men into spending as much money as possible?

Yet I do like burlesque and some erotica. I do like the idea of looking at beautiful bodies. I don't find the concept of watching zoned out zombies gyrate around me. I would not want someone writhing around on my lap if I knew that had to ingest copious amounts of alcohol and drugs to stomach it.

The women are there dancing because they need the money. The men have the money so they have control over the bodies of these women.

But I do like Dita Von Teese and Brown Girls Burlesque.

And I do understand SOME women are comfortable with their "adult entertainment" jobs. I think those women are few in number....very few.

May 19, 2009 | Unregistered Commenterknockoutchick

And I don't suggest sending a man a drink in ANY setting...

May 19, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterJJ

I've been to strip clubs more than a few times. I did my undergraduate thesis on women in the sex trade. I also had plenty of clients who were strippers when I was a social worker. Most recently I went to one when I was doing research on my most recent book. Bottom line is, I wouldn't want to touch, let alone date anyone who hangs out in strip clubs, just ewww.

May 19, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterRoslyn Holcomb

When ISN'T it appropriate to burn Essence? I don't think anyone but bamma chicks and 18 year olds read that rag.

May 19, 2009 | Unregistered Commenterchris chambers

Although it's desired for adults to be there and make adult decisions, this is not always the case.
A visit to the club on any regular basis shows some sign of 'hidden' problems...
I guess a women that frequents this scene with her s/o perhaps thinks she can 'keep' him by doing this or the other waste of time theory, 'she can change him.
No matter what, it's crazy to try to pick up a date in this environment and crazier to think that a lasting, monagamous, respectful relationship will result.

May 19, 2009 | Unregistered Commentercinco

Wow. I thought their suggestion to go see that Mos Def I'm a criminal comedy movie was bad. That was last month's issue with Michelle & her Momma on the cover. My subscription just lapsed. They really do hate Black women don't they?

May 19, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterFaith

I went to college with Angela Burt (maiden name) at Hampton. She was a pollyanna then and catered to black males anyway. She is married to a black male too. She won't stick her neck out for anything especially black women.

May 19, 2009 | Unregistered Commentersistrunkqueen

@sistrunkqueen what does being married to a Black man have to do with this discussion?

May 19, 2009 | Unregistered Commentergem2001

what does being married to a Black man have to do with this discussion?
Just a fact

May 20, 2009 | Unregistered Commentersistrunkqueen

I am surprise you could get through all the adverts to get to any articles firstly. I always find Essence articles dissapointing, blaze a really interesting person on the front cover then the article is small and uninteresting. I think this magazine needs a jump start.

May 20, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterEbony

I have watched the steady decline of Essence. It used to be an empowering magazine, now it just seems to cater to what they imagine are BW's insecurities. Not all Black women are obsessed with finding a Black man. We all are not desperate to get a man and will do anything to get one. As for being an Essence subscriber, I look at the makeup and fashion tips. The parenting column is helpful, but other than that, there is nothing very meaningful I get out of it. It's articles like this that make me not take the magazine as seriously anymore. It was a gift subscription anyway...

May 20, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterFunkystarkitty50

Essence is late to the party. Whitegirls have been trying to get men by going to strip clubs for years now. (Doesn't work in that case either).

Essence is latching on to the meme that hip modern women express sexuality in male-oriented ways in male-oriented environments. So you have ladies going to stripclubs in groups (and giving the girls nothing, or very little) directly competing with the dancers for male gaze. On top of which, the presence of women who aren't 'working girls' or madams (the cocktail waitresses) inhibits the men from spending money on the girls. So everyone loses. The skrippas are unhappy and poorer, the civilian women are nervous and ultimately upset at not getting enough male attention, and the men are unhappy at the intrusion into their space by 'sex-positive' ladies.

It is a great myth among sex-positive folk that if only it were more socially acceptable for women to consume sexual services, sex-workers would be twice as rich. or something. what actually happens is that everyone loses even more than they would have in a more traditional system.

Nevermind the racism in hiring for stripping at the expensive/good-earnings clubs and how black women are specially and uniquely demeaned in stripping and other sex-work, which would be a think-tank project all by itself.

May 20, 2009 | Unregistered Commentermari

Possibly in the coming years we will have a population of educated women that is large enough to support an alternative to Essence. I think Essence is what it is and it has its audience.

The articles are about a minute long and everything is dumbed down for mass consumption.

I know Honey tried to be an alternative but it died, then there is Heart and Soul. The larger (white) audience has many choices.....from Redbook to Cosmopolitan.

Now there are growing numbers of black women who are "Cosmopolitan". I can say Essence doesn't speak to me.

Yet, Essence is still the only place I see beautiful dark skinned black models in slick layouts.

May 20, 2009 | Unregistered Commenterknockoutchick

"I’m going to take a leap of faith that they aren’t going to place the woman sending them drinks at the strip club in the “long term relationship” compartment."

Speaking as a man who visited several clubs the last time he was back home in Atlanta, I really had to smile at #4. I was sent a drink; and I must say marriage or a long-term relationship was not the first thoughts that came to mind.

I had already lost respect for Essence for those ads that try to get black women into an Army where women sexually harassed, assaulted, raped, even killed and the top brass basically looks the other way. But suggesting that women find a man at a strip club is sickening. I got a better idea: Find the right man in advocacy, the struggle of black people to reclaim their communities and family again.

May 20, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterMacDaddy

wannatwinkie wrote:

"dayum dayum dayum…
Essence are you BET?
Is the Essence staff smoking peyote?"

Essence's powers-that-be (PTBs) suffer from a major ethical problem called hypocrisy. In a nutshell, they'll shovel all the "Sex work is harmless" lines at Black women and girls, but wouldn't dare expose their OWN daughters to this brainwashing crap.

So, like Gina, we must call the Essence PTBs on their evil rather than ignore it because they're Black.

May 20, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterFred

This is one of the reasons why I stopped reading Essence years ago. The sad thing is, some black women will be gullible enough to follow this nonsense.

May 20, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterLorMarie

Peace and blessings WAOD,

I look forward to reading your second essay.

You know...I remember growing up, and being told to not EVER take advice or make MAJOR life decisions from magazines like Essence, Teen, etc.

The only black magazine I subscribe to is Black Enterprise, because I feel their information is useful and positive.

Peace and blessings

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