I have to wonder if someone who works for Tom Joyner hates him. Tom Joyner recently wrote an article about sexual assaults on college campuses and it is full of advice to girls about how not to get raped... plus a lot of advice that is probably going to send a few of his listeners to jail for sexual assault:
"Your sons need to read this story and realize that right now they probably can say for sure they’d never sexually assault a woman, but in the wrong environment with the wrong crowd, with the wrong drugs and alcohol, they’re capable of anything. One night of “partying” can bring consequences that will last a lifetime.
Your daughters should read the article too and be warned not to take any drugs or drink alcohol, especially at parties and clubs. They should always attend functions with trusted friends and never be afraid to report a physical assault of any kind. Tom Joyner"
SO let's see if little Johnny is a rapist, he can blame it on the alcohol, but if little Suzy is raped... she can blame it on herself for not using the buddy system. It couldn't be that little Johnny is a morally bankrupt predator.
There's more wisdom from Tom Joyner:
But when drugs and alcohol are part of the equation, it’s even more complicated because the victim and the person perpetrating the act are probably both doing something they never would ordinarily do -Tom Joyner
Oh wow, the rape victim and the rapist bear equal blame for the rapist raping.
Oh there's more:
It’s more complicated than telling your son “no means no,” because some drugs will cause girls to consent. - Tom Joyner
*head explodes* Oh so an intoxicated or drugged person can't sign contracts and can't get married, but they have the capacity to "consent" to being raped.
In other words, men are not responsible for their own penises and at no time are men and boys responsible for raping girls. Apparently Mr. Joyner thinks it's either the alcohol's fault for making men rape or the girl's fault for taking drugs and tricking men into raping her or failing to walk around in public without an escort? No seriously, at least 5 people had to proof this post before it landed on Black America web. Surely SOMEONE was paying attention to the recent Rick Ross controversy and yet, they still published this?
As you know we've been criticizing Tom Joyner for bankrolling the lifestyle of Genarlow Wilson, a man who along with a few of his friends videotaped themselves having sexual intercourse with an unconscious 17 year old girl before they dumped her body on a random bathroom floor. Mr Wilson then went to an adjoining hotel room and passed around a 15 year old girl as a "party favor."
This article explains a great deal about Mr. Joyner's actions over the past 6 years.
And of course we did notice that the corporation that is paying to publish this rape culture propaganda is Proctor & Gamble. Proctor & Gamble Everyday to be specific. Thanks P&G!
P.S. To girls who are reading this post, the person responsible for rape is ALWAYS the rapist. Don't let anyone else make you think that you are responsible for the choices and decisions of a rapist. And yes, rape is a choice- it's not something that a rapist accidently stumbles into unintentionally.
PPS To boys who are reading, I would be offended by Tom Joyner basically saying that if you drink and do drugs you become violent predatory sex offenders.
A mind is a turr-bul thing to waste. Walter M. Kimbrough, the president of Dillard University is salty because Dr. Dre is donating 72 million dollars to the University of Southern California. Dr. Kimbrough who appears to be none too bright wants to know why a Black man who has demonstrated no discernable commitment to the progress of Black people didn't suddenly develop that quality when he started handing out large gifts:
A hip-hop icon is now the new black higher-ed philanthropy king. We've never seen a donation to rival this from any black celebrity — musician, athlete or actor — and that fact must be celebrated. (WHY??)
But as the president of a black college, it pains me as well. I can't help but wish that Dre's wealth, generated as it was by his largely black hip-hop fans, was coming back to support that community.
USC is a great institution, no question. But it has a $3.5-billion endowment, the 21st largest in the nation and much more than every black college — combined. Less than 20% of USC's student body qualifies for federal Pell Grants, given to students from low-income families, compared with two-thirds of those enrolled at black colleges. USC has also seen a steady decrease in black student enrollment, which is now below 5%. LA Times
You're right Dr. Kimbrough- USC doesn't need the money. Dr. Dre needs USC.
For those of you who are a bit younger, Dr. Dre ushered in the era of gangstsa' rap. Yes, there once was a time when every rap lyric was not about Booty, Bullets and Bling. He cranked out incredibly violent lyrics promoting violence against both Black men and Black women and had a White person written the same lyrics, we would have had no problem identifying what he was doing as racist hate speech. But he didn't just rap about violence against women, he LIVED it. Those of you born in the 90s probably don't remember Dr. Dre's beating of Dee Barnes :
After her 1990 interview with Ice Cube in which the rapper discusses his leaving N.W.A. at the height of their feud,[2] the group, feeling they had been negatively portrayed, sought retaliation. On January 27, 1991 Dr. Dre would encounter Barnes at a record release party in Hollywood. According to Rolling Stone reporter Alan Light:
He picked her up and "began slamming her leg and the right side of her body repeatedly against a wall near the stairway" as his bodyguard held off the crowd. After Dre tried to throw her down the stairs and failed, he began kicking her in the ribs and hands. She escaped and ran into the women's rest room. Dre followed her and "grabbed her from behind by the hair and proceeded to punch her in the back of the head.
N.W.A.'s MC Ren later said "bitch deserved it", and Eazy-E "yeah, bitch had it coming, and I'm 'bout to rib you." As Dr. Dre explained the incident, "People talk all this shit, but you know, somebody fuck with me, I'm gonna fuck with them. I just did it, you know. Ain't nothing you can do now by talking about it. Besides, it ain't no big thing-- I just threw her through a door." Barnes sued in February 1991, telling reporter Alan Light: "They've grown up with the mentality that it's okay to hit women, especially black women. Now there's a lot of kids listening and thinking it's okay to hit women who get out of line."[3] In February, Barnes would file assault charges and bring a $22.75 million lawsuit against Dr. Dre, who pleaded no contest to the assault. He was fined $2500, placed on two years' probation, and ordered to perform 240 hours of community service and produce an anti-violence public service announcement.[4] The lawsuit was settled out of court.[5]Wikipedia
Dr. Kimbrough is old enough to know about the beating of Dee Barnes...
What is interesting is that Dillard is a school that was founded on Christian principles. And you have to ask how Christ would have responded to a man who brutalized a 5'1 woman--- because he could and then bragged about it.
If we were referencing the life of Christ as an example of what the president of a Christian university should be doing at this moment, I will point you to an episode in the Bible (depending on which one you read of course) where Jesus comes across a group of men who are about to execute a woman on the street by beating her to death with stones.
Jesus intervened and rebuked the violent misogynists. He did not pull out a collection plate and ask for a donation.
The important question is not Why Dr. Dre gave USC 72 Million. The question is why on earth would the faculty, staff and students of USC accept 72 million dollars from a man who beats and then repeatedly brags about beating women? Why would you accept 72 million dollars from a man who has for 20 years engaged in violent hate speech directed at both Black women and Black men? Because I'm pretty sure that the Klu Klux Klan could offer USC 720 million dollars and USC would not accept the gift.
Apparently blood money from racist misogynist bigots is only acceptable when the person attacking Black people is Black and his primary target is Black women.
Dr. Kimbrough, I don't have a PhD but I know all money ain't good money. And I don't know what in Andre'slife would ever indicate he had any commitment or concern for Black people. C Delores Tucker tried to tell y'all. You bet on the wrong horse... and lost.
P.S. Dr. Kimbrough, instead of writing letters to the editor, perhaps you need to be writing about why Dillards's graduation rate is 27.5% when the cost per student to attend your university if $45,166? Da Hell?
Kids, I would highly suggest you skip Dillard and enroll in your local community college. It's cheaper and you'll probably graduate with a highly marketable skill.
UPDATE: WELCOME new readers sent here by Genarlow Wilson's unhinged delusional supporters ( they are a none too bright bunch.) I welcome your inquiries regarding the real FACTS in the Genarlow Wilson case. You knowing more about his case is a great thing! I'm providing this post from 2010 that I think encapsulates why no fair minded person would celebrate Mr. Wilson and deny compassion to his TWO victims. Please read: Your Genarlow Wilson RefresherCourse: You're Not Entitled to Your Own Facts. Here's a description of what Mr. Wilson did to his forgotten victim, the 17 year old girl Genarlow Wilson's supporters need you to forget about. This is an acocunt from someone in the courtroom who view the video Mr. Wilson made of his activities that fateful night.
No matter how much (two glasses of Cognac) the 17-year-old may have had to drink, no matter how much she may have flirted with those boys, she did not consent to having sex with all of them, one right after the other. Yet it never occurred to the "smart" and "spiritual" Genarlow to say, "Stop it. We should not be doing this." No. Genarlow watched, waited and gladly took his turn. When they were through raping her, Genarlow helped his friends drag the comatose victim to the bathroom. They opened the door, pushed her in, watched as she fell to the floor and closed the door. I guess she wasn't much fun anymore.
Genarlow Wilson's supporters ( primarily Black women journalists and rape-culture supporters) took a victory lap around the bodies of his bruised and battered victims this weekend when he finally managed to make time to go to class so he could graduate from Morehouse College. A feat he could not have accomplished if the Black Elite Establishment had not literally dragged him across the finish line.
One might think that someone who avoided a decade in prison, through no effort of his own- Had a four year college education handed to him- through no effort of his own. Managed to get a job working in LAW ENFORCEMENT despite being a convicted child rapist- through no effort of his own would be as happy as a clam. But no, in keeping with the entitlement mentality that lead Mr. Wilson to believe that he was entitled to have sexual intercourse with an unconscious 17 year-old girl and pass around a young girl as a party favor, Mr. Wilson is whining about all of the people who want to see him fail and don't want him to get a second chance?
Who are these people? Show me the receipts? What I want is for Black women like those who run Ebony magazine to stop lying and saying you're not a rapist, when you are.
What I want is for the Associated Press to stop lying saying your child rape conviction was overturned
Georgia changed its teen sex laws and the state Supreme Court overturned Wilson's conviction in 2007, calling it "cruel and unusual." Associated Press
It was not- the sentence was reversed, the conviction stands- There is a difference. The question you need to ask is why Mr Wilson's supporters continue to lie about his conviction being reversed.
Congrats to Genarlow Wilson, from being accused of rape & servng jail time. Exonerated & Now Graduating Morehouse college w/ honors!
No boo boo, he was not exonerated- he was and is a convicted child rapist- but don't let the fact get in the way of your throwing confetti on Twitter.
Here is some language from the Supreme Court of Georgia. Try to follow along to the end where they reverse his sentence, but not his conviction-Mr. Wilson was is and shall forever be a convicted felon.
In Weems,65 after concluding that the minimum sentence of twelve years in chains at hard labor constituted cruel and unusual punishment, the Court ruled that, because the minimum punishment was unconstitutional and because there was no other law under which Weems could be sentenced, Weems’s “judgment [had to] be reversed, with directions to dismiss the proceedings.”66Similarly, in the present case, Wilson stands convicted of aggravated child molestation, and, as in Weems, we have determined that, under the statute then in effect, the minimum punishment authorized by the legislature for that crime is unconstitutional. Because Weems was decided on direct appeal, and the present case stems from Wilson’s habeas petition, we cannot direct the trial court to set aside the judgment and to dismiss the proceedings against Wilson. Instead, the corresponding and appropriate habeas relief would be for the habeas court to set aside Wilson’s sentence and to discharge Wilson from custody.
So no as much as you need him to not be a convicted child rapist... he is. His sentence was set aside- his conviction remains.
Congrats @genarlow_wilson you took lemons and made sweet, southern Lemonade! Blessings
What odds? Having a college education dropped at his feet? Getting a book deal as a reward for raping two girls? Getting a job in law enforcement despite being a child rapist? Having a State senator and multimillionaire radio show host as his primary benefactors? What odds? Genarlow Wilson was going to graduate from Morehouse if Tom Joyner himself had to come take his final exams for him.
That's right: Genarlow Wilson is graduating from Morehouse today. If you remember his story, you know this is a major accomplishment!
Absolutely, God plans for ME to use Genarlow Wilson as an example of the Black community's immoral indifference to the suffering of Black girls who are the victims of violent crime.#LookAtGod!
— joan bell carroll (@BrowzMakeupBar) May 20, 2013
Yes, I'm sure he's quite inspiring to teen age boys who gang rape teenage girls- look at what it can get them-- FAME, ACCLAIM and a four year scholarship. #Satan
What I want Mr. Wilson is for your ignorant supporters to stop proclaiming that it's okay to rape unconscious girls.
I want them to stop saying children can "consent" to being raped.
But most of all, I want you to head to a dark hole of obscurity because you've done nothing to merit any notoriety other than being a vile predator.
Generally speaking Mr. Wilson:
Child rapists don't get free college educations.
Most college students don't get the University president as their academic advisor.
The average Black male college graduates who didn't rape children didn't get interviewed by all of the local news outlets.
Most child rapists don't have supporters who expect the President of the United States to give them a shout out in a commencement address.
I wonder if not acknowledging Genarlow Wilson during the Morehouse speech was a conscious decision?
Your victims have to watch you repeatedly take a victory lap as if you've done something special.
You lucked out in that you raped two Black girls and became a celebrity and a symbol of the oppression of the criminal justice system. So people have glossed over the fact that you are a sexual predator and an unapologetic one at that.
It was not a "situation" you gang raped a 17 year old girl.
I love the way all of the reporters keep referring to gang raping a teenage Black girl as "bad decisions." Jay walking is a bad decision. Mr Wilson's actions were evil and predatory.
So what if you got Ebony.com to pull it's Genarlow Wilson article. Obama is addressing his class. #Morehouse#win
I couldn't agree more- the collusion and delusion of the Black community to prop up this sexual predator would make a very compelling movie which is why this blog is producing one :)
Heck, I'mma run out of room in this screenplay of alleged Black women journalists who continue to wash rapist Genarlow Wilson's DIRTY LAUNDRY. Genarlow Wilson finally managed to graduate from Morehouse College. President Obama is giving the commencement address. If his name shows up in the speech....we'll cross that bridge when we get to it. No sense borrowing trouble.
Anywhoo, Black women journalists as you know ar ethe primary producers of Pro-rapist propaganda on behalf of Genarlow Wilson. If you will recall, it was about this time last year when the four Black women who run Ebony magazine ran an outright lie of an article which said Genarlow Wilson was not a rapist.... except he is a rapist. He was conviceted of rape and that conviction was NEVER reversed. He didn't get out of jail on a direct appeal of his conviction. Well WAOD Readers ended that utter stupidity not by reasoning with Ebony.com's editorial team, but by asking advertisers to intervene on behalf of Black women and girls.
So to be clear, .... a 14 year old girl cannot CONSENT to being Mr. Wilson and his five buddie's sex toy. She doesn't have legal consent. She probably can't CONSENT to getting her ears pierced. Or CONSENT to taking out a $100,000 student loan or CONSENT to join the US Army. She can't CONSENT and Javita Moore knows this.
And Javita Moore completely erased the existence of Genarlow Wilson's 17-year old victim, who the courts refer to as LM. Let's review what Mr. Wilson did to LM since Javita Moore couldn't be bothered to remind you because it would mess up her Disney-esque fabrication of the Genarlow Wilson story.
Genarlow Wilson, the man, couldn't stand up to their narrative, so they created Genarlow Wilson, the myth, and removed LM from history as if what Genarlow Wilson and his teammates did to her didn't happen and didn't matter. The press threw her in the trash much like Genarlow Wilson and his teammates threw her on the floor when they got through with her.
LM, went to a party with her fellow athletes and when she fell unconscious, possibly after they drugged her, Genarlow Wilson and his buddies raped her, repeatedly and video taped it. That's not what I say, that's what the Georgia Court of Appeals describes in Wilson vs. State of Georgia.
A group of teenagers rented adjacent rooms at a motel and held a raucous, unsupervised New Year's Eve party. Among the participants were 17-year-old Genarlow Wilson, 17-year-old L.M., and 15-year-old T.C. The next morning, L.M. reported to her mother that she had been raped. Police were notified, and the motel rooms were searched. During the search, a videocamera and videocassette tape were found. The tape showed Wilson having sexual intercourse with an apparently semiconscious L.M. and T.C. performing oral sex on Wilson. Wilson v. State.
But here's the kicker, Genarlow Wilson's defense team tried to use the fact that LM was unconscious to exclude the tape of Mr. Wilson raping her. If she was unconscious, they argued, she could not authenticate the tape. They probably made this argument in an evidentiary hearing outside the hearing of the jury.
Here, L.M. was a witness who appeared at trial and might have provided personal authentication of the videotape by testifying that it accurately portrayed what took place at the time of the occurrence of the events in question.She could not, however, provide such testimony because she had lost consciousness as a result of drug and alcohol use. Although L.M. did regain consciousness during some of the events and did recall Wilson attempting to have sexual intercourse with her and trying to force her to give him oral sex, she did not have any independent recollection of the events depicted on the videotape. L.M. was, therefore, an unavailable witness under OCGA § 24-4-48, as she testified “to a lack of memory of the subject matter of the authentication.” Wilson V. State.
And THIS is why we are producing the Genarlow Wilson Movie--- because of women like Javita Moore who want to engage in revisionist history on behalf of a man who PREYS on Black girls.
If you haven't contributed towards the fund to purchase a copy of the full trial transcript for inclusion in the Genarlow Wilson movie, the GoFundMe widget is in the sidebar and as always you can use the PayPal button, just indicate you want it to go towards the Genarlow Wilson movie project.
He and his male-identified Black women supporters may be winning the battle, but they will win the war of history. Future generations will know about this group of Black women who lined up behind this rapist to sell other Black women and girls down river.
Genarlow, you and your henchwomen can click your ruby red slippers a thousand times. President Obama, the Pope, the Ghost of Tupac and anoint your head with olive oil and a fig branch and a feather from a phoenix- it matters not- You are an unapologetic rapist. You can try to erase LM from your narrative all you want, but we all know the truth... You ought to try telling it sometimes, it might set you free.
I've been mulling over the idea of how sexual purity is used as a weapon to persecute women and girls for almost a year now. I've discussed this in some of my public speaking engagements because it is impossible to discuss these issues here on the blog or the Facebook page without the extremists on both ends of the spectrum tap dancing on my very. last. nerve.
The sexual puritans don't want to relinquish their rights to persecute girls who don't comply with their sexual mores and the pro-sex industry people want to treat the human body as if it is an inanimate object like wood or plastic. I think they both are wrong and elect to avoid engaging with them anymore because it usually ends with me banning them and them sending me a 15-paragraph single-spaced diatribe professing how they don't care that I kicked them out... because you spend 35 minutes writing a stream of consciousness manifesto to people you don't care about.
I've been blogging for 7 years, but some of the most vile and hate-filled comments I have ever deleted were directed at Ms. Carruth. I'm talking EVIL seeping through the screen. And all of these people claimed to be long-time WAOD readers-- much to my sadness. In any case, right then and there I realized I didn't want to be in anyway connected to that kind of hatred and it caused me to evaluate the way in which I viewed and treated "fallen" women and "fast" girls in the past.
Over the months, I saw stories about women and girls being executed in parts of the world after they'd been raped because their "virtue" was no longer intact. I've seen multiple stories about teenage girls who have committed suicide after their sexual assaults were videotaped and spread around school and their classmates basically stoned them to death.
This idea of the idiocy of basing the character and value of a girl on whether her hymen is intact returned last week when I read this quote by Elizabeth Smart in response to the recent discovery of three kidnapping survivors in Cleveland:
When Smart at a Johns Hopkins University panel last week, she explained one of the factors deterring her from escaping her attacker: She felt so worthless after being raped that she felt unfit to return to her society, which had communicated some hard and fast rules about premarital sexual contact.
“I remember in school one time, I had a teacher who was talking about abstinence,” Smart told the panel. “And she said, ‘Imagine you’re a stick of gum. When you engage in sex, that’s like getting chewed. And if you do that lots of times, you’re going to become an old piece of gum, and who is going to want you after that?’ Well, that’s terrible. No one should ever say that. But for me, I thought, ‘I’m that chewed-up piece of gum.’ Nobody re-chews a piece of gum. You throw it away. And that’s how easy it is to feel you no longer have worth. Your life no longer has value.” Slate
There has to be another way to teach girls AND BOYS to make responsible decisions about their sex lives without telling them that if girls break the rules, they are used and worthless.
I was at North Carolina A&T in February presenting The Black Woman's Guide to Coping With Kim Kardashian and here is the portion of my presentation where I ask the students why we feel the need to label other women as whores.
I asked the students some questions:
Why is it important that we label a woman a “whore”?
Any other reasons why we want to label women as whores?
Has anybody ever grown up with a girl that got labeled as a whore in the Black community?
Does she have the privilege of being able to escape the consequences of being labeled a whore like Kim Kardashian?
Does it serve Black women to label other Black women as whores?
I don't have all of the answers, but I know teaching girls that they are like chewing gum is NOT the answer. Neither is tormenting them or in some cases executing them.
I will not persuade the extremists on both ends of the spectrum. Not even interested in having a dialogue with them. Because of their zealotry, however, they will attempt to shoehorn their way into a conversation uninvited. There has to be a way to say your body is not a commodity or object to be sold while simultaneously saying that you are not your hymen or your sexual history.
Are you kind? Do you have compassion? Do you feed the hungry? Shelter the homeless? Heal the sick? Help little old ladies cross the street? Those are far better determinants of your character. I'll keep mulling this over, but I've been meaning to start talking about this on the blog. And now I have.
Friday, May 24, 2013 at 7:00AM 
I have to wonder if someone who works for Tom Joyner hates him. Tom Joyner recently wrote an article about sexual assaults on college campuses and it is full of advice to girls about how not to get raped... plus a lot of advice that is probably going to send a few of his listeners to jail for sexual assault: