2) The MSNBC was merely suggesting interracial dating as an option for higher-achieving women. Taking that leap into dating another race or ethnicity is not as easy for some.

3) You have to give credit to black women for their efforts in educational and corporate achievement, especially in the last 10 years. Some of this may have been out of necessity due to not having the the patience to wait on their male partner. I applaud them.

Anyone interested in IR dating, you can sign up for free at http://www.interracial-attraction.com

To give you some background, I am a 30-something white male married to a Haitian woman.

We have talked about it and she is actually his step daughter, he is no longer even married to her mother but, still he rents his home out to her and her husband.

She considers him her father, far more so than her biological father. But, anyway we have discussed it and neither one of us can blame her for making the choice she made, just based on her options and her having her own mind.

Now, I myself do not believe the disparity in BM and BW not getting married is primarily due to the lack of interest of BM toward BW. I think there are countless factors and I as a BM put some of that ownership on BM. We have to step up in so many ways, all of us will not be highly educated but, a lot more of us could be worthy and more suitable for marriage.

The point is, IR marriages betwene WM and BM will always happen but, when ever I see it now a days I don’t have any ill will toward the couple by any measure. I as a Black man just think of it as another opportunity lost by us.

What they choose to do with this information is their business.

But, when and if things don’t go “according to plan” at a later date, they can’t claim they didn’t know.

Because the research is being conducted now and the findings are not pretty for BW who limit themselves.

Knowledge is power. But BW can only be empowered if they’re aware of the latest research.

FEWER HIGHLY EDUCATED BLACK WOMEN GETTING MARRIED, HAVING KIDS.

http://www.thaindian.com/newsportal/lifestyle/fewer-highly-educated-black-women-getting-married-having-kids_100229724.html

“The study has shown that black women born after 1950 were twice as likely as white women to never have married by age 45, and twice as likely to be divorced, widowed or separated.

The gap in the proportion of black and white highly educated women living with a spouse has grown over the decades, increasing from 9 percent in the 1970s to 21 percent in 2000-2007.

“Highly educated black women have increasingly fewer options when it comes to potential mates. (Not true. This is only the case when they restrict themselves solely to BM) They are less likely than black men to marry outside their race, and, compared to whites and black men, they are least likely to marry a college-educated spouse,” Brueckner said.”

I know I do and can’t speak for anyone but myself.

There are countless BW who have regrets today because they were trying to please others outside of themselves. Trying to live up to the image that others had for them.

In 2009 almost 2010 there is no reason for any young black women to grow old alone and childless (if she wishes to be married and have children) out of some misguided belief that they must limit themselves to populations that statistically proven they have no intention on limiting themselves to them.

One black identified biracial man (Benjamin Todd Jealouse, son of a white man and black woman who is the president and CEO of the NAACP) who is married to a beautiful sister and who is father to a darling little black daughter, has some heartfelt words of wisdom concerning wanting the best for his little Princess.

“The love I hold for my precocious daughter defies words. I already know that when my baby starts dating, no man will be good enough for her. I’m not one of those dads who will hold her to some racially imposed requirement. I want her to choose whoever makes her happy, complements her soul, and respects her dignity as a woman. If that person happens not to be black, so be it.

But I do want her to have a choice of African-American men. The disproportionate number of black men swept into the prison system threatens that hope. ”

I tend to not believe that the high number of BM in prison has anything to do with the extremely low percentage of BM proposing marriage to BW these days.

But I DO give him credit for being open minded and secure enough to accept whoever his daughter chooses to bring home one day minus the racially imposed requirement.

Commentary: For the sake of my daughter

http://www.cnn.com/2009/LIVING/06/22/what.matters.jealous.naacp.daughter/

They are very active in social groups now, “Young Achievers” and other organizations with more than a few positive black young men in it.

They both have interest and plan to attend HBCU’s my youngest Spellman college my oldest Howard Univ. or the college there mother, aunts and grand mother graduated from FAMU.

But, in all of that if they still do not end up married, my biggest concern is that they are happy and healthy and productive.

All that being said, no one in there right mind can and shall lay out for me, what it takes for “me” to be a good father to my own daughters. Or be able to sit back and judge how much I “truly love” them. Trust me, they are fully aware what a good father is, and I fit that build with them. That is one of the wounderfull thing about being a parent, we get to love, raise, and as best we can guide our on children.

I choose to attempt to raise my children to cheerist and be mindfull in a positive way of there race, me and there mother are on the same page with that.

One thing I can do is be a good, example in what to look for in a good black man. One thing my wife can do is be a good example of a woman who came from a meager background and excelled in her life and profession.

The power is with in themselves, they will not think or act, or respond as victims.

Divorce rates being what they are in the black community is one thing, those shared experiences and back grounds, have taken us a long way and got us through it all as a people.

No appologies from me for loving my blackness, not all that interested in working inside, the sun is not all that hot I will stay in the field.

My unrequested .02, I would say start very early cementing friendships with other black family men like yourself, chances are better that they will have passed good family values down to their sons. As only about 20-30% of those guys exist, it seems rare to me…but since you seem to be one of those rare birds you would be closer to the bulls eye.

Peace

P.S. East Indian and Asian families do it all the time. I know sometimes it is unwanted but those few intact AA that still exist will have to something to survive.