Comments on: But Before I Go! Some Thoughts on “Raising Him Alone”

By: Tell it

Tell it — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 17:32:11 +0000

Feminism did it. That’s what u all wanted. Liberation from the wicked oppressive patriarchy. Down with fatherhood and male leadership in the home. Reaping the whirlwind now. Keep griping.

By: ZeBra

ZeBra — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 18:45:10 +0000

The most dangerous communities for ALL Black women to live in are areas dominated by single mothers with unsocialized children.

Too many “Dunbar Villages.”

True to our collective insanity, we are now featuring panel discussions advocating family configurations shown to have been destructive on a mass-scale.

Thank you Gina, for the welcome sobriety on this issue.

By: gem2001

gem2001 — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 16:07:04 +0000

I think the organizers of the panel meant well. but by focusing on women/single female parents who are apart of the top 3% of society (educated, advanced degrees) they kinda set up the audience – real life and online).
EXCELLENT Point!!! Again, just like the whole Puff Daddy foolishness with 18 kids by 8 different women. People emulating the behavior and pathology of “successful” celebrities forget these people tend to have money.

What works for Puffy won’t work for a brother working 9 to 5.

By: The Urban Scientist

The Urban Scientist — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 15:46:05 +0000

hmm, what strikes me is that 2 of the 3 panelist have phDs ( and another famous single mom – kanye’s mom earned one, too). I think the organizers of the panel meant well. but by focusing on women/single female parents who are apart of the top 3% of society (educated, advanced degrees) they kinda set up the audience – real life and online).

Parenting/family planning is also a socioeconomic issue. These women were able to cushion the blow of poverty-related statistics because of their education, professional networks, etc.

By: Roslyn Holcomb

Roslyn Holcomb — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 13:08:55 +0000

Great, we’re encouraging single mothers to emulate the mother of a ‘conscious rapper’ who raps about oral sodomy. Oh yeah, this is brilliant.

http://celiesrevenge.blogspot.com/2009/07/poke-her-face-un-conscious-hip-hop-oral.html

By: lincolnperry

lincolnperry — Sun, 12 Jul 2009 18:18:41 +0000

The reason everybody else in the world is kicking our**es economically is because they understand the value of a household that consist of a mother and father, the problem is that many of these women cannot properly prepare their sons for a rites of passage!

Personally, I had strong black male relationships throughout my life…a strong black father, black male teachers, ministers, counselors, and the list goes on…I learned skills like how to tie a necktie, polish shoes to outdoor activities like camping, and hunting!

A lot of black boys raised in single parent homes don’t get these benefits, and in the worse scenarios…the prison-industrial complex becomes the rite of passage.

That Matriarchic Single Parent Bulls**t is another head fake that keeps us divided and White People in Power over us!

By: Al From Bay Shore

Al From Bay Shore — Sun, 12 Jul 2009 14:53:15 +0000

I have first hand and close up experience with the single parent PLAGUE that ravages the Black community. I just left that site and did my best to “light them up” with a wickedly incisive and sarcastic comment that was nearly insulting. I don’t care. The ills of the Black community can be directly linked to broken family structures. In many ways, this nearly tacit endorsement of what essentially is a broken home defeats the purpose of the existence of organizations like 100 Black Men and The Eagle Academy. All they have done was to perpetute the existence of the very problems that require their existence. They have, in effect, taken 20 steps forward only to take 21 backwards.

By: gem2001

gem2001 — Sun, 12 Jul 2009 01:06:36 +0000

Thank you Beverly! The reason why you have an 82% oww birthrate is because we have not OBJECTIVE standards. People just get to make up whatever value system they want, irrespective of who it hurts.

By: Bailie

Bailie — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 20:45:22 +0000

The problem is simple, men who are not committed to marriage are even less likely to be committed to their out-of-wedlock children.

Actually, when income levels are even, black men are no less committed to their out-of-wedlock children than white men are. The problem is that a man of any race’s chance of being a part of his children’s lives is reduced substantially when he is not married to the mother and black men are not married to the mother’s of their children at a rate that more than double’s that of white men.

By: Bailie

Bailie — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 20:40:17 +0000

Btw, only 10% of black single parents were widowed according to the 2000 Census

True. And 30% were divorced. So 60% of black single parents have never been married. 70% of black children are born out of wedlock and there are studies indicating that this number may be slowly reducing.