Is Julia Hudson the most misunderstood grieving mother in America? There but for the grace of God go any of us.
Few people on earth can know what it feels like to lose their mother and their child in a single instance -let alone go through the additional loss of a sibling. There isn’t any model for the “appropriate” range of emotions a person is supposed to feel, but there is an acceptable range for what they should display publicly. Sorry, its true. Irrespective of how someone grieves, society’s dictates are not applied on a case by case basis. There is a range of acceptable public displays, and when you fall outside of that range, its generally a bad look. Case in point, Julia Hudson’s MySpace Misadventures.
Human beings are entitled to grieve in their own time, HOWEVER when you offer up an invitation to the world to witness and comment on various aspects of that grief through the Madness of Myspace, then you assume the risk that we might take you up on said offer.
A week and a half ago, I urged Julia Hudson to make her public MySpace page private. She took my advice, but not before assembling a sizable number of Myspace Friends who continue to be able to view her MySpace postings.
Prior to going “private” on Myspace, bloggers were fascinated by the fact that Julia Hudson was continuing to accept Myspace friends even has her son Julian was missing. Her postings were foul and riddled with coarse, sometimes sexually explicit language and the page contained photographs of her “husband” William Balfour who was a “person of interest” in the execution of Julia’s family.
On last week however, news broke that Julia had made some “updates” to her MySpace page with photos that appear to be before or after the memorial service held for her family. Julia takes time to introduce us to her “new boo.”
She stands in the background of a photo of Fantasia Barrino asking “who’s the bigger star Tasia or me”.
But perhaps the most disturbing to those of you who felt the need to email me is a group photograph that says now that Julia’s brother Jason Hudson is gone, Julia is now “the prettiest one.”
Apparently Jason used to joke that he was the “prettiest” of the three Hudson siblings. You can see all the photos at TMZ, Sandra Rose, and The YBF. I am going to assume that Julia’s Myspace page has not been hacked and that she is the person responsible for its current appearance OTHERWISE we should have heard a vocal and adamant denial of these recently posted pictures.
In other words, Julia was providing additional evidence to cement the conclusions many people have begun to leap to, but won’t say out loud. Perhaps Julia Hudson the most misunderstood grieving mother in America? Maybe she is just suffering from a serious bout of some unknown mental disorder or is Julia Hudson merely stupid for posting these pictures online? I’m not judging. I’m just asking the question.
Now I happen to be related to an individual, who much to my complete and total DISMAY, likes to take photographs right before funerals and the family dinners at the conclusion of the burial. Not because they are macabre, but because in many families, funerals are the closest thing you will ever get to a family reunion. In many cases, those funeral photographs are all we will ever have. So while creepy and borderline inappropriate, there is a method to the madness. Julia Hudson’s latest MySpace escapade is something altogether different.
I don’t know about the rest of you, but one week after I lost three relatives in a brutal murder, including my own child, I would still be in bed knocked out on “nerve pills” or hooked up to an IV of high fructose corn syrup.
Julia Hudson is not me. Perhaps she has been gifted with a unique brand of resilience that has allowed her to quickly bounce back through the power of MySpace and her Miraculous MySpace friends. Perhaps she is in a state of shock and posting these pictures is her way of coping. Or perhaps Julia has, been, and will always be an impulsive person with impaired judgment and her Madcap Myspace Misadventures are just the latest manifestation of that poor judgment.
I ignored the criticism that Julia’s hair was too perfectly coiffed during the press conference where she pleaded for the return of her son, maybe she got her hair done before the murders or maybe a family friend forced her to do her hair and take care of herself.
Ignored my initial reaction that that same press conference where she seemed either nonchalant, matter of fact or detached, and chalked it up to the fact that Julia was likely heavily medicated, because surely losing your mother and brother would make you a wreck and on the verge of a nervous breakdown.
So I am not criticizing Julia for grieving in her own unique way by posting photographs on her Myspace page with “her new man” while dressed in funeral garb.I will chalk the caption says that now that her brother is dead, she is the prettiest one, maybe that’s an inside joke…. THAT SHE CHOSE TO SHARE WITH THE WORLD. No.No. I am not criticizing her for that.
There is an acceptable PUBLIC range of human emotions following a tragedy like this and hugging up with your new boo while your HUSBAND is in jail is not a good look. “Joking” that the murder of your dead brother made room for you to now be the prettiest one is not a good look.Appearing to revel in the attention that the slaughter of your family has brought you, by snapping pictures with celebrities and asking “Who’s the star. Me or Tasia?” is not a good look.
In addition, to Julia Hudson lived in a home where all the other occupants were killed, that alone ought to raise some eyebrows. A person of average intelligence can assume that if the person or PERSONS who managed to do this were able to obtain Jason Hudson’s gun and his car keys and get Julian King into the car in broad daylight without drawing attention, then they likely had semi intimate knowledge of what went on in that household. Let’s see. That’s William Balfour, a former occupant and hmmm let me see who else? Oh yes, Julia Hudson.
Being incapable of differentiating between fame and INFAMY is not a good luck. Julia, people aren’t interested in you or your life because of who you are. They are interested in you because of who your sister is and what happened to HER family.
So to the family and friends that haven’t put a stop to the MySpace Madness because it is inappropriate and FOUL, put a stop to it because it may very well place Julia’s liberty in jeopardy or WORSE be used by the defense team of those that are eventually charged with this murder to point the finger at Julia. Myspace could equal reasonable doubt. So far the Myspace madness is screaming potential MOTIVE! MOTIVE! MOTIVE!
Maybe Julia’s “new boo” will read this blog post and step up and sit her down and have a conversation with Julia about the wisdom of publicly distributing photographs the could be used to incriminate her in a triple homicide, lead to the acquittal of those responsible or convict her in the court of public opinion.
Perhaps some wise person will hog tie Julia to the floor and delete the whole Myspace account all together. Its too late to keep the photos from being used in the court of public opinion against her, but it may prevent future lapses of run of the mill common sense. I wouldn’t be surprised if MySpace hasn’t already received an order or have one headed their way right now.
Notice to all of the apologists and enablers, I haven’t written ONE WORD about the choices and decisions ALL of the adults in Julian King’s life made which may have lead to his brutal death. This isn’t an indictment of Julia’s parenting skills, or lack there of, I’ll save that for LATER. Right now, we need to know who MASTERMINDED the plot and the PERSONS who PLANNED and carried it out. Julia Hudson Balfour’s MySpace page is an unwelcome distraction.
This isn’t about Julia’s parenting skills or the struggles of single Black mothers. This is about common sense. Period. If not the common sense of a grieving mother then the common sense of those who purport to love and care for her.
Only God knows what is going on inside the heart of Julia Hudson right now, but this post isn’t about what’s going on in her heart, its about the image she is electing to show to the world. Right now that image, in light of the release of these most recent photos and captions, is BAD. Julia, I noticed that your pictures were filled with family and hopefully some friends. Real life human friends, not virtual friends on Myspace. Julila, its time to end the Myspace Madness.
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out of the choices: madness, mentally ill, or run of the mill stupid, i’m going with mentally ill. i think she needs help…serious help. but unfortunately in the black community, seeking professional help is taboo. i have been reading on so many blogs were people are basically ready to just cast her aside because she is not acting like they “think” she should act. i don’t like her behavior either, but IMO i think she has some very DEEP rooted issues that existed long before this tragedy that she never properly dealt with. so i cannot cast her aside anymore than i can cast aside anyone else who i believe is dealing with internal strife (whether they themselves recognise it or not), because i feel that people can be healed…i believe that the Lord can heal.
I think this is part and parcel of a phenomenon I’ve noticed in recent years, whereas funerals and tragedy have become like social events. I’ve attended funerals for young people with caskets and whatnot in school (or gang) colors, lots of ‘pouring one for those that ain’t here,’ and assorted other tomfoolery. Don’t even get me started on obituaries that sound more like ’shout-outs.’ For people unaccustomed to attention and/or celebrity this might be their only opportunity. We live in a celebrity-obsessed culture where everybody wants their fifteen minutes, and having an Oscar award winning sister is probably quite difficult in that culture.
I hope someone, (Don’t families typically have an attorney/advisor in these type of situations?) would point out the concept of ‘reasonable doubt’ to her. Otherwise she may be part of letting her family’s murderer go free.
Gina,
So I ask you, how’s Julia any different than say little Caylee’s mom?
Something’s just ain’t right! Just because she’s black mother don’t make her innocent. As a matter of fact she’s the one who discovered the bodies
Oh, where to begin?…
This situation is sad. Clearly Julia needs mental health help now and perhaps needed it in the past.
The only thing sadder to me would be if she was more than a victim in this tragedy.
May Jennifer find some peace throughout this madness.
Julia Hudson’s behavior is bewildering. There is no other explanation for it than to say she is mentally disturbed. How else to describe such callousness after everything she has lost? This situation is tragic, any way you look at it.
I have been perplexed to say the least by Julia Hudson’s behavior from the very beginning of this tragedy. I just don’t understand. SHE LOST HER BABY! And she’s posing and cheesing in pictures with her “new man” and celebrities?! WTF? She lost almost her entire family. She clearly has issues. At this point, Myspace would be the furthest thing from my mind or any sane person’s. I really don’t know what else to say.
I agree, talentedtenth, Julia was a H.A.M. before the tragedy, just now we get to SEE it. When you think about it, her son was 7, and reportedly she struck up a relationship with Balfour while he was imprisoned and then brought this criminal into her baby boy’s life after his release. There are other reports that she was seeing him before he went to prison, then she had the baby with another man, and resumed her relationship with him. So make of that what you will, but you sure could assume a lot about how he really felt about her and the child.
I remember back when JHud was on Idol, and she said it was her sister that either tried out, or wanted to try out for the show, and she was the one that made it. Later, when she went on a diet and lost 30 pounds (after she left the show) she mentioned again that her sister was on a diet and she decided to try it, and she lost weight successfully.
Sounds like a lot of simmering hostility/jealousy issues going on there on Julia’s part.
My oldest and only sister died last August, and a few months later my youngest brother died. He and I were only 11 months apart and were nearly twins in how we were raised. I wasn’t over the death of my sister when my brother died, and in both cases the deaths were sudden and extremely shocking.
When you are dealing with that type of grief, there are no “acceptable public displays” in you’re mind. You just go through the motions in your own way. During the days immediately following my siblings deaths, It was as if I was in a stupor. At times, I mentally blocked out the deaths and absoutely couldn’t remember they had occured. Grief can weigh so heavily on your mind that you soul literaly aches with the weight of it all. During these devastating moments, you don’t know whether you’re coming or going.
I can relate to Julia in the fact that when you are in the throws of grief, you walk a tight rope of sanity. Her mind may have completely blocked out the wholeness of this tragedy as a way to cope. I have never considered suicide, but after losing two siblings in less than a year, I finally understand how people can feel so weighed down that it seems like the only option.
Please don’t try to understand her actions because she probably can’t event explain them. Sometimes the pain is to much to feel–even if everyone is watching your every move.
Thank you for posting on this again. It’s incredible she is continuing to post messages like those you have cited on her page that I saw too.
I hear all the comments about we each grieve in our own ways and that is true but this is truly odd and it’s not a good look for how the world may be looking at her at this time when they go to leave thier comments of support and condolences.
To get to her page and to continue to read all of those words she describes and has decribed of herself and her life makes you wonder “what the?”
Sadly, it is reflective of too many teens, 20 somethings and 30 somethings’ myspace pages and facebook pages I have seen, just in passing.
There is a high level of immaturity and irresponsibilty in how they are publically communicating with each other.
Once again, even as a adult, so much of it makes my mouth drop.
Especially the messaging between female to male and male to female back and fourth. It is incredible. Even in playing, our generation could not have gotten away with that in that way.
Most of us hear it on the streets, busses and subways daily and now we are seeing them do it on the internet with each other with the language and crude videos they share.
They really need to clean it up quickly or shut these folks pages down.
LT
Now other thoughts keep popping up…
I would hate to find out that she had anything to do with taking the life of her own son. But too many sick people in this world are parents. We’ve seen it before, and it’s bound to occur again.
It certainly appears that there’s alot to this situation that needs to be clarified.
People grieve differently, but this whole My Space page is bizarre.
Trying to keep my cynical mind in check here, but this is getting to be a bit too much. I really hope someone can sit down with her and talk to her a bit about perceptions and the alluded to differences between fame and infamy.
On one hand, I could understand the feeling of being overwhelmed by being an instant star if this was just a normal person. The combination of extreme loss and sudden fame could very well cause a person to act irrationally.
But, this is someone who has some exposure to the limelight through her sister.
It is just hard to argue that she is not basking in the negative attention. The comments are…well, pretty unreal from my seat in the bleachers.
Trying not to judge, but when you put these pics on the internet and make comments like that, it is hard not to.
Hopefully someone can get to her and talk with her.
Thanks for posting this Gina. I am the mother of three, I fret over my grown child driving to Mississippi…this is beyond my thinking. Posting on myspace the day of your/after child’s furneral? Did not anyone notice that she was on the computer a lot. Those photos take time to upload. This story is starting to spell.
Personally, I think she’s grieving but grieves differently. ALSO, she probably does not have a close relationship with her mom and her brother, which is why she is probably not as shooken up about it. There could be some family issues that we don’t know about that might make her “celebrate” when they are dead and gone. As for her son, I’m not sure about this one, but I’m going to have to say that he was probably being neglected in the home and then eventually killed when he became too much of a “burden”. I hate to draw conclusions, but that’s the only thing I can think of right now. Either way, she’s mentally disturbed.
Oh I meant to say, I don’t believe she killed her son, but can see her husband/fiancee/whatever the hell he is Balfor killing him out of jealousy. And I can see Julia knowing about the murder but she isn’t fazed by it because she choose Balfour over her son. The other two deaths I believe was part of a drug deal gone wrong (although it could be all connected since they were all killed together).
She’s got to be mentally ill. I can’t see a normal person doing what she did under those circumstances.
I’m giving her the benefit of the doubt and saying right now she is going through some mental issues. I’ll say what I always do… “You don’t know what you would do, until you actually go through it.” Ms. Hudson, could be in a state of delusion right now. So caught up with emotion that he mind has blocked it to make it seem like everything is normal and if she is really not talking with someone as she should be, she’ll probably be suffering a complete breakdown a few months down the road. Then she could be a person that just has no emotions. There are people like that. Then there is also the possibility that she is something that no one would want to believe she is. We all grieve in our own ways, so I’m not throwing stones. Honestly, even if it is “inappropriate”, its the last thing the Hudson family needs to hear about in this moment IMO.
Difference with Ms. Hudson and Ms. Anthony… they have some evidence, even if circumstantial, on Ms. Anthony.
Devils Advocate, who’s to say not its not a family relative posting on her page. And they tell he their doing stuff on the page, but she’s not in the state of mind to really ask or consider what is being posted?
@ TD1016,
Well one things for sure, she’s obviously the one posing in those photos. I ‘m sure glad Jennifer wasn’t in those pictures.
I remember reading the questions that she posted on her Myspace. She mentioned that her mother was closer to both Jennifer and Jason. I wonder why there’s no spoke person trying to clean this mess up or at least someone telling her to sit down somewhere!
I was trying to post something earlier while at work. I simply stated that I think Julia is crying out for help, and appear to be in an emotional rut and don’t know where to turn etc. and I hope that someone reaches out to her etc.
For some reason my comment did not go through. Perhaps it’s my ISP at work, I’m giving that the benefit of the doubt, but just in case, whatever difference you may have against me (I don’t know why, but it appears obvious at times), please try to understand. I didn’t come out and say this earlier, but I don’t think it’s right for you or anyone to insinuate anything sinister against Julia regarding this issue. Only Julia knows how she feels, and her level of dealing with pain/hurt this great may be different from ours. I would like your readers to know this.
Thank you.
I think that some people are giving this woman way too much credit. It sounds like she is extremely narcissistic. I think the pictures and comments were so over the top. It seems like she is relishing all the attention despite the horrible reasons why she is getting the attention.
One can only hope that the reasons offered above are proven to exist and not the reason tucked in the back of some of our minds.
LEAVE JULIA ALONE!!!
i am just going to keep julia in prayer. i am blown away still by all that has happened.
@ATTORNEYMOM
AS SOON AS SHE LEAVES MYSPACE ALONE WE WILL!
We are being provoked!
Attorneymom, I REALLY. REALLY. REALLY. am restraining my thoughts on Julia Hudson. You don’t kow how hard the Holy Spirit is wrestling with this keyboard and mouse. I had to get up last night and remove a couple of paragraphs. I’ve written at least three posts that remain unpublished so I really am trying to be compassionate, but it is kind of hard to ignore the story as well.
There is yet another little Black child that is dead and likely as a result of the decisions made by the adults in his life. That makes my blood boil, but I really have tempered my thoughts with about as much compassion as I can.
Gina,
I look at this woman and see someone who is loving the attention. Posing in pictures, labeling herself as “the prettiest one” now that her brother is gone (doesn’t that statement seem a bit callous and dismissive of someone that you supposedly love?), and smiling in all the above pics that you posted has me wrestling with thoughts that I probably shouldn’t have.
I will pass no judgement on this woman, because I don’t know her, and I don’t know how she feels…but I will say this: every one does grieve differently and if this is how she gets through, so be it. But if I lost my mother and my brother and my son in the same day, in the manner that she lost hers…posing for and smiling in pics is the last thing I would be doing (even if Stevie Wonder, Prince, and Jill Scott all showed up at my house and gave a live concert in the backyard)…
I know you are restraining yourself from saying what you really want to say. That is because you have compassion and self control unlike some other bloggers.
Wow…and wow. I cannot believe the lack of judgement on Julia’s part. Wait, actually I can. It’s very scary. Two steps forward, five steps back for some of us. At least I can feel better about myself and my life choices right now. Kinda how I feel when I watch Cheaters.
Julia writes on her Myspace page, ” GUESS IT’S TIME TO UPDATE THIS WHEN I STARTED MY MYSPACE ALL OF THE ABOVE WAS TRUE , NOW BECAUSE I CHOSE TO DO WHAT WAS NATURAL TO ME AND LOVE SOMEONE , IT COST ME MY BEAUTIFUL FAMILY .”
It seems from the above statement that Julia understands that her decision to hook up with “thug” cost her her family.
I think some of you are being a bit harsh in your judgment of Julia Hudson.
http://charactercorner.blogspot.com/2008/10/sandra-rose-sit-your-azz-down.html
@Attorneymom… you really want to go there? That quote you just gave actually gave me half an aneurysm.Don’t come in here talking about LOVE!
LOVE means NOT doing what is NATURAL. She isn’t an animal in heat. She has free will. It ain’t natural to love a mofo that’s spent half his life in jail. That’s even if Balfour is responsible for this. I wouldn’t be surprised if some other acquaintance of Julia’s is involved.
LOVE is a dayum choice. Its not a virus that infects you. Its not an excuse to place the needs of your child second. It doesn’t justify all of the piss poor decisions we make in life. Her baby isn’t DEAD because of LOVE. her baby is DEAD because of complete and utter selfishness. “Natural” my aorta!!
The fact that she would come out with that wack @$$ statement about “Love” being responsible for this trainwreck that she created is a sop out.
LOVE did make you decide to get pregnant by a crack dealer.
LOVE didn’t make you raise a child in a home where apparently CRACK was being sold.
LOVE didn’t make you hook up with a 16 year old boy when you were a fully grown woman.
LOVE didn’t make you bring a convicted attempted murdere into your home and expose your mama, your brother and your child to your drama.
LOVE didn’t have nothing to do with this.
LOVE will make you deny your flesh and walk away from trouble because now that you have a young child, you are supposed to LOVE your child more than anyone else.
I am sick of these single mothers who hook up with pedophiles and offer up their children on a silver platter.
I am sick of these married mothers who look the other way while their children are abused.
I am sick of these baby daddies that don’t love their children enough to fight for them when they see that the mama has their child in a dangerous situation.
If Julia LOVED a lion, a tiger, or a bear and brought them to live in the house with her child, everybody would be screaming bloody murder if that baby had been mauled.
NO Julia hasn’t begun to understand what LOVE is and what it cost her. She doesn’t seem to be hurting too bad. She got a new man to LOVE before the dirt covering her CHILD’s casket has even settled.
It would seem to me that we are once again refusing to acknowledge that choices have consequences. Every adult in that baby’s life had a choice. They chose to live lives that placed him in imminent peril. He paid the price for their bad choices.
The next time you come in here pleading on Julia’s behalf you remember what that baby felt when the gun was pointed at him. Remember what it felt like when the first bullet went in his body. remember what it felt like when the second and the third went in. Remember what it felt like to possibly see his grandmother blown away.
LOVE? LOVE? LOVE? Please. Now I SAID I was trying to hold my peace about Julia, but if you want to some in here and start a competition, I will raise you Julia’s trail of tears with her son’s trail of blood.
LOVE should have sent her Behind to the police station when Balfour started threatening her life and that of her child. THAT would have been LOVE. Loving her child to inconvenience herself for an afternoon to protect him.
WHEW! I feel better. I have been holding all that in. Thank’s for being my Holy Ghost Attorneymom
@ Gina,
You are welcome. That is what the Holy Ghost is for.
I hope you feel better now. I knew you wanted to get that off of your chest. I will give you some credit. You at least waited until she buried her family before you let her have it unlike some other folks.
Sidebar: Julia must have removed the pictures from her myspace page because I do not see them. The last time she logged onto her page was November 7th. Perhaps she has taken your advice. I am sure she is going to feel much better after reading your comment.
These videos are dedicated to the thug lovers:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ch6VqqyPO08
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PyiFwgbdyv0
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bUtJZrEdOnc
The video that started the madness:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NAQMT9EmnI0
it seems that some of us suffer from the same affliction with which some black men suffer. it seems that we too refuse to tell the truth and stop making excuses when it is time to take responsibility and hold each other accountable.
prior to all of this, the garbage that Julia was spewing on her myspace page was a disgrace. when i read it, i felt ashamed as a black woman that a grown woman and mother would think it acceptable on any level. i hated that she was black and choosing to embody the stereotypes of what it is to be a black woman. i visited her page ONCE and that was plenty. as a result, i cannot speak to what was added after her family tragedy took place. based on Gina’s post, one can only surmise that she added more of the same nonsensical garbage.
based upon WHAT have people decided that she is mentally ill? in that case, so is the rest of the black women on myspace (and other places) showing their whole behinds, literally and figuratively. maybe, so is dl hugley and others that behave irresponsibly and offensively? excuse me?!
when folks are quick to write passes, it makes it impossible to take them seriously when they finally get around to deciding to hold grown folks responsible for their choices and behavior.
this is just as repugnant to me as it would be if we were talking about men behaving so irresponsibly and stupid. i must say, though, at least she seems to have been CONSISTENT.
for those talking about not judging this and that. the truth of the matter is we make judgments ALL day long. when it is time to hold a black woman responsible, why do we start with the no judgment mess? how do we stand and speak out against those holding that same ridiculous position with other situations/circumstances without understanding that we are being hypocrites when we do this?
Gina, your last statement should not, in my opinion, be kept to yourself. it should be said. it is true. tell the truth and shame the devil. at some time or the other, we have ALL been cut by the truth. so do we just not tell it? and still ARGUE when men say we want to be responsible for nothing?
know that my statements do not mean that i have no compassion for the Hudson family. i do. these events are nothing less than horrific. the loss of the baby made me physically ill and sad to my soul when it felt like my prayers went unanswered. i was praying he would not suffer too much for being surrounded by foolish adults. the fruebds of fools shall suffer, how much more the children.
we have all at times exercised poor judgement. horrific consequences could befall us all. it is truly the grace of God that has allowed those of us that have escaped such fates to escape. the truth is the truth is the truth. we should stop refusing to tell it when it suits our purposes, in the interest of integrity, principle, and justice. do we want this irresponsible, it is ALWAYS someone else’s fault business to stop? or do we just not want to be on the receiving end of it with folks trying to force us to accept such nonsense? if we expect decent black men to stand up and tell the truth when the indecent, irresponsibe black males do the most offensive, horrific acts; how do we sit back and refuse to tell it when it is a black woman?
there ARE bad mothers and females that do not even try to represent themselves well. these females should be put on blast and the distinction made that they are not representing black women as a whole.
women trying to excuse the inexcusable…IS NOT A GOOD LOOK.
in all of this, i pray that the Hudson family finds justice, healing and peace.
blessings all,
focusedpurpose
Marvalus and Focused Purpose, I totally agree with you both.
I remember once that I had to appear in court - not because of something I did, but as a victim of and witness to something that happened.
I was ashamed that I even had to come that close to the justice system but some of my family members who were also involved behaved like it was the Oscars before and during. I wanted to spew and this reminds me so much of that.
I will say that the comment on Julia’s myspace page means little. People who are “off” or even predatory must also be clever. The con job relies on that. Just because someone says something doesn’t make it so - actions always trump words. Anyone can watch Dr. Phil and pick up a few appropriate phrases to make you think they are whatever they are trying to convey: empathetic, spiritual, or just plain sane.
For this reason I often advise survivors to be cautious even when dealing with healing professionals. There are wolves out there in sheep’s clothing.
No matter what’s going through Jullia’s mind there’s somebody out there not snitching, once again in the Black community because it’s not ‘cool’.
The killer/killers should be caught by now.
Look…i think her actions are her actions but your grieving (however you grieve) is a very private matter…I don’t get it..when my friend died in that same neighborhood in june…we all (including his boys) grieved…Our myspace pages reflected our grief of a great man…to me she is acting a bit childish and immature. You lost your baby. When my sister was murdered you couldn’t get me out the house..when i smiled I had an eye full of tears..but I guess we are all different but this is some BS to me. WOW.
I try to not be judgmental. Yet I confess that I believe that we “know a tree by the fruit it bears”
Some of her actions and re-actions remind me of people that suffer from the psychological disorder Munchausen by Proxy. I confess I have also wondered if
perhaps she had something more to do with the actual murders than has been previously speculated.
It certainly seems that she has narcissistic tendencies that this tragic event is shedding light upon.
There was a case several years back of a black woman who had a teen aged daughter who was shot and killed. This young lady was a much loved student athlete in their community. The mother seemed to bask in the media attention surrounding the girl’s murder and the subsequent investigation. Only to find out that the mother herself was the murderer.
I truly hope that is NOT the case with Julia Hudson. But you never know…
Brav-a!! *clapping furiously and throwing down her bottled water in aww*
This was, by FAR, the absolutely BEST write up I have YET to read on this tragedy!
I have said from DAY ONE that I believe that Julia Hudson is about two vitamins short of a multi-pack and wondered why no one else seemed to really be speaking on this same thing.
I don’t care if it was a ‘running joke’ that Jason would call himself the prettiest one out of all the siblings. The comment underneath her picture was tacky and made me give her the OFFICIAL side-eye.
I don’t care if everyone grieves differently. The bottom line is it’s just suspect to me that she was conveniently ‘absent’ the day that all of this happened…and that she did act very non-chalant when the press conference aired. I’m sorry but you kill my mother, brother and child, I’d be light-weight insane. Deliver that straight jacket to the crib..do not pass go, but gimme my $200 b/c I’m going to need some meds, STAT!
She looks suspect, suspect, suspect. She still has Balfour as one of her friends on her page. If I truly believed that ‘loving the wrong person cost me the life of my family’ (and I’m paraphrasing there), then believe you me, I would’ve DELETED my Myspace page just to make SURE he was nowhere to be FOUND in my section of the cyber world! But this fool is STILL on your page…and you’re still posting bogus comments and questionable surveys? Please! Oh PLEASE! Somebody PLEASE hire me on to the Chicago PD. The case would be CLOSED and Julia would be sitting in questioning RIGHT NOW, rather than posing up all lovey dovey on her Myspace page.
And if her new ‘boo’ had any sense, he would RUN! Not walk, not skip but RUN to the nearest exit and never look back. There is no way in Hades I’d get involved with a woman who has all ‘that’ going on. Please!
I’m gonna step off my high horse! I am sooo tempted to do a video about this but out of respect for JENNIFER, I probably won’t. I’m laughing at the fact that this girl thinks that she is somehow some type of celebrity. Girl, ain’t nobody (yes, double negatives) sweating YOU! We’re feeling sorry for your FAMILY b/c of your LOSS! So you might as well shrink on back into the shadows of your sister, driving that school bus and living that life. Clearly, we’re not buying it.
The end!
Does anyone remember Susan Smith? The woman whose kids were carjacked by a “black man”. She went on air and did news conferences until the authorities focused in on her. Later to find out she put the car into a lake with her two boys in it all because of a man she was having an affair with. Now im not saying that Julia is guilty all I’m saying is that something is not right. There is a term in DSM IV called Munchausens and I think Julia may have it. She is thriving off the fact that her family was murdered.And I personally think she has something to do with it. She exhibits all of the signs of a person capable of committing these murders. Think about it. She has a famous younger sister who is getting world acclaim. She has been living in the shadows of Jennifer since she was in Dreamgirls. She has had a string of bad luck with men and she is living with her mom, a menial job as a bus driver while her sister is getting the A-list treatment. Jealousy and Envy is what sparked her actions if she did this. If I am wrong then I will apologize but I guarantee you that she is profiting from the media attention and wants to get her fifteen from this tragedy. People are afraid to say it because they would never think a person would do this but her ex-husband honestly had no reason to kill the hudson family. So what him and Julia had an arguement earlier that day. They have had arguments before and married people argue all the time. I just think that William is going to get charged for something that doesn’t have anything to do with him. I hope the FBI does their job and gets the right person for this senseless act.
Gina, I agree with you 100%. I find her behavior odd and inappropriate. Sadly, I’ve felt this way since viewing the press conference. I thought it was strange that neither she nor the father appeared on t.v. the night of the incident to plead for their child’s safe return. The press conference was 24hrs after the fact!! *sigh* I’m trying not to judge Julia because I think she is in deep denial. Sometimes the only way you can get through a loss is to pretend it didn’t happen.
On another ignorant myspace posting note, one of Jennifer’s close friends went on a rant about Beyonce not calling or attending the funeral. Shortly after, his page was made private. Beyonce? Your friend’s family was killed and you are making irrelevant post about Beyonce? Jennifer/The Hudson family doesn’t need any of this right now.
Reesethe, I thought of Susan Smith and all the related stories that have come out since then.
HillerieCamille, I’m sorry to hear of the loss of your siblings.
Could it be that many Blacks won’t allow ourselves to think she could be a huge factor in committing the crime /or a perpetrator because we’ve conditioned ourselves to be suspect of whites immediately? Sometimes without questions. Many of us still are in denial about mental health issues, thinking that the ‘church’ will heal all. So we can’t even hold onto the thoughts that some of us may be not only capable but willing to commit awful crimes/murders.
@ gem 20001,
Now that’s the kind of message that needs to be on full rotation on the air waves!
Oooh Cinco, you better STOP making sense!
I had to write a paper about this in one of my sociology classes. My sociology teacher gave us all different topics and mine was to discuss why it is that blacks have the lowest percentages when it comes to seeking mental help from professionals. What you said was my exact reason. We think that the church can fix all. Now don’t get me wrong…I believe in God and think that He does wonders but sometimes, a lil prozac won’t hurt.
Reesethe…I remember the Susan Smith case VERY well and the DAY that they flashed those two boys’ pictures on the screen, I said “Man, a black man did NOT kill those boys. Her crazy butt did.” (I’m fighting the urge to say a bad word lol). Low and behold…she did it! And I wasn’t surprised.
Hopefully someone at the CPD has some common sense and won’t totally look away where Julia is concerned. I think she had something to do with it and if something else comes up showing otherwise, I’d be shocked. This is the ‘perfect’ situation for her. PERFECT. Your sister is rich and famous, just got engaged, everythings looking lovely for her. Meanwhile, back at the freakin’ ranch, you’re driving a bus. You have a bunch of no good men in your presence…and you live at home with your mom. I smell resentment, hate, jealousy. And what a perfect way to deflect a little attention off of your sister and on to you! Please…I’m waiting. Her 15 SECONDS of fame is slowly ticking away.
I try to not be judgmental. Yet I confess that I believe that we “know a tree by the fruit it bears”
Some of her actions and re-actions remind me of people that suffer from the psychological disorder Munchausen by Proxy. I confess I have also wondered if
perhaps she had something more to do with the actual murders than has been previously speculated.
It certainly seems that she has narcissistic tendencies that this tragic event is shedding light upon.
There was a case several years back of a black woman who had a teen aged daughter who was shot and killed. This young lady was a much loved student athlete in their community. The mother seemed to bask in the media attention surrounding the girl’s murder and the subsequent investigation. Only to find out that the mother herself was the murderer.
I truly hope that is NOT the case with Julia Hudson. But you never know…
I didn’t post anything about the Hudson tragedy because what I thought was not kind and it was a time of grieving.
All I can say now, is I wonder what was being taught in the home. Where is the Hudson father? It is a cycle, yet it can stop with Julia if she seeks some help and realizes this is not healthy, sane behaviour. It has caused pain and death.
@GINA AND ALL,
YEA AMEN!
a few thoughts went through my mind also when the news first broke about this mess.
i wondered what the child was doing home on a school day? was he sick? a teach/wk-day?
then, i found out she was the person who found the bodies was HUUUUUMMMMMM! and does she have a cell phone? why go to the neighbors house to call the police?
then i read that-she said-that she was at work driving a school bus and had come home? a school bus picking up who-taking them where? on a teach/wk-day?
or does she have another job?
in the end, i agree with you gina, when i first-(a few days ago)- read that quote the am pulled from her myspace page above–i said to myself–SELF-that ain’t LOVE!
Amen!
Julia Who?
Who knows why people do what they do? The brain is a mysterious organ. I heard that some folks use less than 2% of it.
Plus, shame went out of style back in the 20th Century, around the 1970s.
knockoutchick I read on a website that Jennifer and Julia’s father died when Jennifer was 15.
I also read that he didn’t raise them, just their Mom.
I have tried to not make a comment about this case but your post today was TOO compelling and I could no longer resist commenting.
There is something completely off about this case and Julia’s peculiar behavior…I know everyone has their own way of grieving but Julia’s behavior is PECULIAR!
Do you find it unusual that Balfour hasn’t been charged in this case??? Is he being held to allow the DA to build a case against him or are they investigating ALL evidence to build a case against others that were involved? Is it unusual to not hear about any leads in this case?
Something ain’t right with this case!!!
Although I was one who defended her in the past, since this last waive of pics hit the internet, I would no longer excuse her behavior as normal responses to grief and mourning.
If she was somehow involved then she’d have to be a total and complete sociopath to kill her entire family, including her mother and her own child, and then bask in the attention afterwards. Even EXTREME ‘Munchausen by Proxy’ as mentioned by MOD 1 would not cover this one. But since there’s been no hint of her involvement mentioned by the CPD then either they’ve already found evidence to exonerate her or they’re building one hell of a case against her as I type, and are simply waiting to lower the boom once all the pieces are in place and the case is tight.
However, if she was not involved at all then I fear that this woman may truly be teetering on the brink of a total and complete mental break down and needs to seek professional help right away. But of course we’d all agree that she needs help regardless.
But ultimately I still believe that there’s still more questions than answers out there right now and maybe time will tell all…and maybe not (i.e. Biggie and Tupac)
I think the fact is that Julia is “damaged beyond repair”.
Alright…I did a little research b/c so many of you were referring to Munchausen and although I’ve heard of it, I never “knew” what it really was.
Now, I could see Munchausen…but why by PROXY?
Let me know. Not arguing with you guys..just curious.
I think she’s either mentally ill or just run-of-the-mill-STUPID! There is something quite wrong when three of your family members die and two being your son and your mother…. and you start posting sh*t on myspace.
Also, the smiling pictures of her before and after the funeral don’t sit right with me either. NOT saying I would KNOW my every move if God FORBID something like this would happen to me or my family members… but doesn’t it seem quite ODD that she would be a website like myspace where information she puts down can be ACCESSED by viturally ANYBODY???
Something isn’t right here, I hope she and other family members make an effort to get through this by seeing a family therapist, this is not a joke, I mean SERIOUSLY! I lost my mother 6 yrs ago and I’m STILL not over it! This woman lost her mother, son, and brother… hopefully she and the rest of her family can not forget it, but move passed it and lead productive lives.
But I believe COUNSELING is essential right now.
i visited early yesterday. i was livid when i read of the inexcusable behavior. i mulled it over all busy day and was cross eyed tired when i commented.
i was trying to say that the FRIENDS of fools shall suffer, how much worse the children?
it didn’t come out that way:-)
blessings,
focusedpurpose
Just saying,
I read a study a while back that said 1 in every 25 people are sociopaths. So the chances of running into a few in life are pretty good.
Not all sociopaths commit murder, but they can inflict some serious damage within families, on jobs, and in relationships.
They can be very intelligent and charming, but lack empathy, shame, guilt and emotional depth. They can’t develop attachments to others and they don’t feel affection or love.
They are really good at mimicking emotions so they manage to “fit in” and go undetected among the general population.
She may have some form of mental disorder as previously suggested by others on this forum.
I believe she may be a person of low intelligence or she may have an undiagnosed mild learning disability (Asperger’s Syndrome perhaps).
Her behaviour is clearly inappropriate and incongruent with her present circumstances which suggests that something is definitely wrong. But then it could simply be the fact that she is behaving this way because she is grieving in her own unique way. Just because her behaviour is distasteful and doesn’t match our expectations doesn’t necessarily mean she is a suspect or she is mentally ill. I would go for “misunderstood”, and “ill-judged”.
I have read all these comments beating around the bush. This is just pathetic. Someone needs to say what should be said. This woman seriously may have been involved.
She did not live with her brother and mother. Her son did. The killer did not know he was going to be there. Why else would they have not just killed him there. Balfour was at the house that morning suddenly. Why?
He obviously had a gun that belonged to Jason which was stolen. We know that his current girlfriend said so, the girl who is having Balfour’s baby. I believe she is telling the truth.
Either he took it months before or Julia did and gave it to him. Was this a woman who wanted to be free, plain and simple. We will find this out. Did she crave the limelight and was she jealous of walking in her sisters shadow? Strong possibility.
Most parents would grieve longer than a week, not flaunt a new boyfriend and post on some website like they are the next STAR in waiting.
I believe that taking the boy was a hint to her that the baby wasnt where she thought he was and had witnessed the murders. Then when she went on tv and pleaded for the boys return, the people that had him, and i believe they were accomplices of Balfour HAD to kill the only witness to the crime.
All indications are he was killed in the suv that day. Who would drive around with a dead body for 2 days. A woman said she saw TWO men throw the gun out the window and Balfour was in prison. Thus, there was more then just him involved.
Also, Julia apparently walked in and saw the body of her mother, but some reports say she told police Jason’s body was in the bedroom, unless I am misreading something. How did she know this?Also if she did not search in the house for the boy how did she know to go directly to the police station and report him missing? This is the part I question over and over. Something is not right. If she is mentally ill as you say, what would keep her from wanting to be rid of the family that she may have thought was holding her back.It is more than obvious this girl craves attention and does not care how she gets it.
What if, god forbid, Jennifer was visiting that week. We would be reading a totally different story. Thank god she wasn’t. I really hope she was not involved, but my gut instinct tells me otherwise.
@Jia
It’s by proxy because she’s seeking to gain attention for herself through others.
Typically Munchausen by Proxy is when the mother abuses the child, makes it seem like an illness or an accident just to gain empathy from others.
But killing the child would serve no purpose for future and continued empathy or attention, so I don’t believe that to be the case here. That’s just my opine.
“Plus, shame went out of style back in the 20th Century, around the 1970s.”
Real talk Goldenah!
Jia,
The ‘proxy’ part comes in when a person seeks attention from the pain or sickness of others, usually a child, but not themselves. Although the ‘pain’ in this case could be described as her own through loss it’s still attributed to the suffering of her child (and her mother…and her brother). But again, I don’t think that is the case here because usually that involves faking or exaggerating illnesses or symptoms of illnesses…not murder.
But her behavior at this point is beyond simply “distasteful” and is symptomatic of some underlying mental problem which may have been present before the incident, or possibly only since this tragedy occurred. I’m a bit scared for her and how she may respond when all the attention fades and she’s left to deal with the reality of what has occurred.
“Plus, shame went out of style back in the 20th Century, around the 1970s.”
So true. So True, but we can bring it back.
@getrealpeople
I think people are holding back because of Jennifer. We haven’t seen nor heard of her since this happened other than those tacky pictures Julia put up.
I personally don’t want to add any additional burdens to her life at this point. The only reason I spoke about Julia is because if she is NOT involved in the murders, she certainly is making it easy for the ones responsible to use her behavior to create “reasonable doubt” and is likely redirecting law enforcement resources towards her when they might be needed elsewhere.
OR she concocted the whole thing. I think people are waiting for the policie to give us their version of events Either way, poor Jennifer.
@ Goldenah! So true!
I also think we excuse negative behavior way too much today. Everyone has a reason for their behavior but that should not excuse them.
Oshun noted that 1 in 25 are sociopaths, could it be the protection of sociopaths that is causing such harm in the black community?
We know that statistics show it is generally a very small percentage of people are truly violent or criminal and that small group commits a significant percentage of crime, much higher than their numbers.
Yet, with shame no longer in fashion, and the drive to “keep it real” and of course…”stop snitching” we allow those who are destroying us to walk freely among the sane and hard working. As in “I can’t send another brotha’ to jail”.
I say this, because I too am wondering… why no suspects? Why aren’t blogs, fans, other news media fixated on finding the killers? Jennifer Hudson is a beloved young star with no drama….prior to this tragedy. She has not been showing up in public drunk, disheleved with no underwear, and so on….like some of her peers.
I do hate the comparisons like many others…yet if Justin Timberlake’s family had been murdered…wouldn’t there be a non stop news cycle about finding the killers????
We have become too complacent with behavior the is deadly wrong.
I believe that it will soon come out that Julia Hudson had something to do with the murders.
@ Knockoutchick,
“I do hate the comparisons like many others…yet if Justin Timberlake’s family had been murdered…wouldn’t there be a non stop news cycle about finding the killers????”
Yes the coverage is quite embarrassing. Heck Nancy Grace is even trying to recycle the “Natalie Holloway”
story. WTF??
Here we have a high profile celebrity plus the Jenkins-Pietrzak murders and the media is digging up old cases? Don’t even get me started on this case:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=27d71wzg-h4
Sometimes I am so ashamed of being a former soldier!!
Folks we are gonna have to continue to use the internet (Youtube, blogging, ect). Until we get the coverage we need we’re gonna have to use it to our advantage.
Things that makes you go hmmm…
Another factual point of view…
Facts that have been released as it relates to Julia Hudson are below:
That Friday was a teacher workday,so there was no school that is why the child was in the home. Julia also lived in the home, all reports from friend and family accounts and neighbors, say that they were a close knit family
Even though school was out that Friday Sunrise Bus Company rents their buses out on nonschool days for charter. The company confirmed that Julia Hudson reported to work that morning and drove a bus for charter. She reported to work around 7am that morning. Estimated time of death for the murders of her mother and brother were place between 845am and 945am. She has a solid and strong alibi, that is why she is not a person of interest or a suspect in the murders. Chicago police will not comment on how or when they realized that Julian King was missing from the home. However, a missing persons report has to be made by a family member in this case it was Julia who made the report. As far as the time difference from his actual disappearance to the time of the press conference that is all a part of the legal process. Under normal circumstances a person would have to be missing for 24hrs before a missing persons report can be filed. In this case their were other aggravating circumstances that led to her being able to report it earlier. In which case an amber alert was issued and the authorities and all media outlets were to alert the public of his disappearance and his alleged abductor. After the amber alert is released if it goes without success after a certain time period, then a family press conference can be arranged. On the local chicago news channels Julia Hudson and Greg King the childs father both appeared in the full length press conference.
I questioned everything too as it related to any potential suspects including Julia.
But after I did my research of the facts that had been released to the media by CPD, I was left back at square one.
I grew up in the very same neighborhood as the Hudsons and all I can say until you walk a sidewalk square in Englewood you can never under estimate what can happen.
I hold a degree in criminal justice/sociology and I am very interested in criminology. So far I think the CPD are at a loss for answers in this case. I am actually suprised that they haven’t pinned these murders on just any random person with past criminal history in the area let alone a person of interest. The CPD is known for bringing charges rather swiftly in low profile cases. So the fact that this case is high profile and no charges have been filed says a lot. It also says to me that Julia Hudson is a red herring in the matter and just a buzz for speculation and thats it at this point. As far as her behaviors and her actions, I have no explanation for that except exotic. As far as the Hudson familys father he was a part of their lives until his death from an illness.
I wouldn’t be shocked either!! Please click on the link below (especially you ATTORNEYMOM). Like there is just something not right about this story. There is a big situation that occured over here in London, (UK)about a 17 month old baby and how the step father physically abused him so much to the point where he broke the baby’s spine, nose,ribs and probably all his bones in his little body and GUESS WHAT all of this was done in front of the mother’s eyes! Infact she even smeared him with chocolate to cover up his bruises! http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/news/article1920933.ece
Another one about a mother who masterminded the Kidnapping of her own daughter by drugging her and tying her up. A sick scam just to get £50.000 (approx.$100.000). http://news.sky.com/skynews/Home/UK-News/Shannon-Matthews-Was-Drugged-And-Tied-Up-Kidnap-Trial-At-Leeds-Crown-Court-Told/Article/200811215149532?lpos=UK_News_News_Your_Way_Region_0&lid=NewsYourWay_ARTICLE_15149532_Shannon_Matthews_Was_Drugged_And_Tied_Up%2C_K
@All
Re: The reason I compared Julia’s actions to those of someone who is afflicted with the syndrome of “Munchausen by Proxy” is the fact that the person uses the sickness/suffering (that often leads to death) usually of their own child, to seek/gain attention. I didn’t mean to imply that is EXACTLY what is going on with her.
Here I am tip toeing around the obvious, when other commenters are boldly “going there” and suggesting what is probably more likely: This woman has more than a few “issues” and if she had any direct involvement she may indeed be Sociopathic.
I do feel compassion for Jennifer, but I also want to see justice done because innocent people lost their lives.
I can’t fathom ANYONE being directly involved in the murder of their own child, but I know that it happens all the time.
Re: Media coverage, or the lack thereof. That is why the vigilance of WAOD and Gina, the crusader of those whose plight is often under covered if at all, is so vital.
There is actually a name for the disproportionate coverage and the media slant in favor of white women. (Let me amend that, pretty young white women, or those perceived as such) It’s called MWWS (missing white woman syndrome) It even has its own Wiki entry. Check it out:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Missing_white_woman_syndrome
I mention this because in the wiki entry it states that anyone outside that category is not likely to receive the kind of coverage of the MWW. If not for his Aunt’s fame, I think this would have been true for little Julian.
The sad fact is: If this case involved ANY other Black Chicagoans other than Jennifer Hudson, it wouldn’t have received near the coverage that it has.
I agree with those of you who say that the investigation is either deliberately slow because they don’t want to reveal their hand, or there is unexplained laxness on the part of the investigators on this case.
Either way, I feel nothing but sadness for Jennifer and her extended family, and nothing but bewilderment at the behavior of her sister.
-Sistercentric (aka Moderator 1)
You know Selena you are right about the comparisons. Britney Spears got more coverage when she shaved her head.
@knockoutchick
“we have become to complacent of behavior that is deadly wrong”
well said!
so many of the habits and thought processes in our community are just brushed over. We must stop being enablers of not only things like crime in our community but poor parenting, mental illness and MEDIOCRITY. We have to stop being afraid of being shunned by the black community for speaking out against traditions of foolishness. Kool-Aid vs Water, Television (yes even noggin) vs books and a “good job” vs an education, these choices don’t make us “blacker” And what the - does “keepin it real” even mean??? This situation is the result of generations of this kind of decision making. Unfortunately it is too late for the Hudsons. What of the rest of us?
knockoutchick: Oshun noted that 1 in 25 are sociopaths, could it be the protection of sociopaths that is causing such harm in the black community?
Hell to the Yeah!
Please look at the news. Look at all the bw being attacked and brutalized of all things! Things should never happen this frequently or this badly!
knockoutchick: Yet, with shame no longer in fashion, and the drive to “keep it real” and of course…”stop snitching” we allow those who are destroying us to walk freely among the sane and hard working. As in “I can’t send another brotha’ to jail”.
Knockoutchick that above is the kind of crazy stupidity and selfishness that will land a black person in hot water when the trouble they don’t want to ’snitch’ to the police on comes knocking at THEIR door.
And that’s when THEY will want the help of others and the community and blah blah blah. How about turning all these dastards and fools into the police from now so that EVEVRYBODY in your neighborhood can be safe instead of just some one, random, lucky person?
Oy!
This will be my last comment regarding this matter. You determined from a few Myspace entries and pictures that this woman is “two sandwiches short of a picnic” and involved in the murders of her son, mother and brother??? Wow. I am flabbergasted by your comments. I would add some of you to my “Sit Your Azz Down” list, but there is not enough room on my blog.
I hope your prayers for the Hudson family are as strong as your stone throwing skills.
London-African-Chick, here is a video for you:
http://www.tmz.com/videos?autoplay=true&mediaKey=ac04735b-e1c6-4ac4-aaa0-b035569eab1f
If Julia reads this blog, please click on the following link and remember that “God still has need of you. Get up!! Get up!!”
http://charactercorner.blogspot.com/search/label/HOLINESS
Who are we to judge…………..
I just keep asking myself, how did Julia know her mother had been shot when she came home? There was reportly a neighbor who called 911. Mothers need to choose carefully what man is put over their children, and are you choosing a man over your children? Which is more important, your child or a new man? Something just aint right. I believe Julia doesn’t want to be alone and has very low self asteem. Look at what she married. I read his arrest report and what could he possibly have had to offer her? You can get sex when you can’t get a meal. WAKE UP BLACK WOMEN!!!!!!!!!!!
thank you for posting this. I had no clue about her extremely disturbing and just plain ole sad behavior. Lord, bless that whole family.
Myspace/Crackspace! It is addictive and just like dope addicts if their moma died they’d still be doing dope probably right before you put her in the ground. I think that’s the deal with myspace. But all the other stuff she is doing and saying….JUST PLAIN DUMB!
As a person who know Julia personally, I am disguished with the comments read on this website and others. To know Julia is to love her. She is a sweet person and has a big heart, which explains how she fell in love in a man like Flex.
Please know that Englewood is a crime strickened area, but it is also our home. We have been raised in this neighborhood and know everyone. Julia and Flex have known each most of their lives going up in their community. She feel in love with the person not his background. When you grow up “in the hood”, most of the people we know as kids commit crimes, sell drugs, become gang members. You don’t distrust them because they are surviving within the Englewood environment. My own brothers were gang members and drug dealers, but they are human beings with good hearts.
As for the comment about her hair at the press conference. Julia’s birthday was the day before the murders. Most women get their hair and nails done for their birthday. Why is she being ridiculed for doing the same? If you don’t know Julia, please keep your comments to yourself!!!
Since Flex had two girlfriends (per his mother), one of which was pregnant… we already know they were separated for awhile. Yes, she went forward with her life and was dating someone before this tragedy happened. Lets examine the fact that Flex was able to move on, but Julia had to lose her family (especially Julian) because he wanted her to be stagnant. Why are people criticizing her for posing with a man she had been dating prior to this tragedy.
I grew up less than a mile away from Julia, but I did not become acquainted with her until she became my daugther’s bus driver. I was going through a divorce and my daughter became very ill. My daughter had several surgeries and this woman (Julia) showed an interest in my child. Julia would spend time with my daughter to give me a break. For a single mother, who spent weeks sleeping in a chair in my daughter’s hospital room, this was a miracle to me. For someone to show an interest in me and my daughter like she did takes great compassion.
Julia has a sweet heart, and no should judge a person without actually knowing them. I don’t usually make a comment on these type of sites, but everyone should know the real Julia Hudson. She is a wonderful person, whom my daughter loves dearly, and she is/was the BEST MOM in the world.
My daughter is having a hard time with this whole ordeal, especially losing Julian. Unless you have been there, how can you tell this woman how she should be grieving her family’s death. Please people…find something more positive to do with your valuable time. JULIA HUDSON NEEDS OUR PRAYERS NOT YOUR NEGATIVE COMMENTS.
Im so agreeing with this article about Julia. Some people will do anything for fame. My gosh my mom is sick now and im like almost dieing with her. Julia needs med or maybe MORE meds. Human beings are social creatures and need social interaction, feedback, and validation of their worth. The emotionally MATURE person doesn’t need to go hunting for these; they gain it naturally from their daily life, especially from their work and from stable relationships and their IQ is high. Unlike immature person, however, has low levels of self-esteem and self-confidence and consequently feels insecure; to counter these feelings of insecurity they will spend a large proportion of their lives creating situations in which they become the centre of attention. It may be that the need for attention is inversely proportional to emotional maturity, therefore anyone indulging in attention-seeking behaviours is telling you how emotionally immature they are.
MAYBE SHE’S GOING THROUGH SOME KIND OF ATTENTION SYNDROM. HOPE JENNIFER GET A GRIP OF HER SISTER…………… OR MAYBE GIVE HER A ROLE IN SOME KIND OF VIDEO LIKE MS.NAUGHTY PROFESSOR. SINCE THIS IS WHAT SHE WANTS…..SICK LADY…
I believe she has a food allergy that makes her fat and crazy.
Honestly, dissociating to the point that she did makes sense. Putting things as competition, etc., is more a way of avoiding reality than any sign of sociopathic behavior. After I (literally) watched my father die (15 minutes), I complete my then-current quarter of school… because it was what had to be done. Grief is not all breast-beating and pain. It is avoidance, temporary denial, false normalization, and any sort of pretenses that you need to convince the world you don’t hurt nearly as much as they think you do… which is half as much as you really do.
That said, I’m sure the judgment on grief was even more horribly biased than it would have been for a man of any color, or any white woman.
And that is bullshit. I may be the millionth person saying so, but I believe my vote counts, too.
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