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This commercial for Chipotle ran during the GRAMMYS. I just thought it was really long.

I didn't get it until I watched the "making of" video.

How cool is that? 

Notice, not a single woman or person of color in the behind the scenes video. Happy Friday!

Bowing Out of the Black Community's Reindeer Games:XXL Mag, Vanessa Satten, and Too Short

I'm NOT saying much about this Too Short nonsense on the blog because I really don't want to play the Black community's reindeer games. I gave a quote to the Grio because they asked politely for one, otherwise, I would have said nothing at all. In fact, I told the editor "I'm so over it!" To new readers, read the archives, type in XXL into the search box in the upper right hand corner of the blog, then type in Dunbar Village. Here is the quote I gave in response to XXL publishing a video of Too Short teaching boys how to sexually coerce/ RAPE middle school girls. 

Gina McCauley, founder of the black women's advocacy blog What About Our Daughters, believes that the publishing of this video on XXL.com is part of a misogynist agenda of the media entity. McCauley told theGrio that, "In 2007, my readers had to call on advertisers to pull ads from XXL.com when they referred to a black mother who'd been the victim of a brutal gang rape in West Palm Beach Florida as 'some hooker down in Florida.'" She also noted that demeaning attitudes and sexual violence directed at black women and girls is seen as acceptable by too many blacks.

"People will want to point to XXL as an aberration, but misogyny and sexual violence committed against young black girls is normalized in far too many black communities," McCauley continued in an email. She recalled a prominent case that was recently in the news in which an 11-year-old girl in Cleveland, Texas was gang raped -- then accused by her community of somehow provoking their attackers.

God has me on a whole other path right now, and I can't be bothered. I said, I can't be bothered to even invest the energy in outrage. Any day now, Dr. Boyce Watkins will be penning an editorial about this foolishness being a "teachable" moment.  ESSENCE will be conducting a reader poll and NPR will get a roundtable of bougie Black folks and misogynists  to talk about why this is all young Black girl's fault. We've already got the requisite useless email petition to sociopaths. Check, check, check. I'll file this one right next to the one asking Debra Lee of BET to "rescue The Game."Stop blowing up my email with stupid email petitions which are about as effective as petitioning Satan to shutter Hell. Been there, done that, got the t-shirt. 

It took the bottom dwelling,  side winding, fork tongued, demonnette, psychopath  almost a week, but Vanessa Satten the publisher of XXL magazine finally responded to posting pedophile-esq suggestions from Too Short about how to sexually coerce middle school girls.   From the Grio

 Vanessa Satten, XXL Editor-in-Chief, has responded to theGrio with the statement: "I agree with [angry readers'] perspective. I do not see all content before it goes live. When I saw this video, I was truly offended and thought it crossed the line. I had it taken down immediately. I am disappointed that an employee decided to post it and I am putting internal procedures in place to make sure content like this does not go on the site. The video goes against my value system and represents poor judgment on behalf of the individual who posted it."

 If Ms. Satten were truly outraged, she would have responded immediately. Please don't be fooled Vanessa Satten and everyone who works at XXL HATE Black women and girls. You didn't need their publication of Too Short's techniques for assaulting very young girls to convince you of this.  

My blogging days are numbered and my retirement is imminent, but I thought I would remind you about my cybercrusading philosophy AGAINST asking Black-oriented entertainment vehicles to stop dehumanizing and abusing Black girls.  Would you write a petition to the Klan asking them to treat Black people better? NO, you march against, prosecute, sue and any number of tactics, but you would never treat the Klan as if it had any morality.

Black women will never be safe by asking people to treat us right or trying to make people feel sorry for us. We're not human to them so these people don't feel one bit of guilt about what they are doing. They are embarrassed because the story bled over into the mainstream and Ms Satten wants to keep getting invites to dinner parties in New York.

So no, I will not be launching a campaign against XXL magazine. Read my archives if you want to relive the dream. 

XXL Magazine calls Dunbar Village Victim "some hooker down in Florida"

Black Women, That Burning Cross on Your Front Lawn Was Brought to You By .......Corporate America

Power Speaks to Power. It's Time Black Women Reclaimed Ours-New Balance, Disney, State Farm Weigh IN

Good luck with that!

Cultural Monoxide Poisoning: Why You Should Thank Chris Brown’s Repulsive Fans

Yesterday on the WAOD Facebook Fan Page, I posted an article called 25 Extremely Upsetting Reactions to Chris Brown at the GRAMMYS that collected 25 women’s reactions to Chris Brown’s performance at the GRAMMYS. Most of these young women were not Black, likely because the person who curated the collection of tweets and Facebook posts was a White male.  In each and every tweet and post from these women, they proclaimed that they wish that Chris Brown would “beat” them.

25 women who didn’t know each other simultaneously proclaiming to the world that they wouldn’t mind if a man beat them to the pulp. These women didn't hatch out of eggs, they had to develop this attitude from somewhere. 

The response on the WAOD Facebook Fan Page was swift- most comments,however, were dejected. Some even went into  how feminism/the women's rights movement “failed.” *eye roll*  As if the fight for equalityand the battled agains misogyny is a NASCAR race that ends with the waving of a checked flag.

 “Well that’s a relief we’re equal now!” 

“What? We aren’t?”

“ We have to keep running the same race... forever? Oh nooooz! ”

Most were laments that these women would express these thoughts publicly.  I feel the exact opposite. 

For the same reason that I occasionally let cyber trolls post in the comments, I think it is important to remind readers on a regular basis that there IS an opposition. There is an enemy. That just because all you do is read blogs and post comments doesn’t mean that the opposition is staying home knitting booties.  That just because you found a group of emancipated women in a virtual world doesn’t mean you don’t have to navigate a larger world filled with people who celebrate, profit from, delight in marginalizing, exploitating, and dehumanizing  women and girls.

About the Chris Brown fans and openly mocking the seriousness of domestic violence - emancipated Black women should thank them. Yes, I said THANK THEM!

I started this blog for selfish reasons. I knew what is coming and I wanted my conscience to be clear.  20 years from now, I’ll know that I tried to do something other than whine and wring my hands. Earth shattering stuff? Maybe not, but it was more than gawking from the sidelines with worry.

Any student of history can see what future awaits for Black women and girls in this country. If you need a crystal ball, look at countries where “emasculated” men demonstrate their manhood but chopping and shooting each other to smithereens and then brutally assaulting the women and children left behind. Or those peace-filled regions of the world where  societies that come up with a million reasons why the men behave the way they behave.... other than, because THEY ARE ALLOWED TO BEHAVE THAT WAY!  Look at societies where the women and girls have no “value.” Ghastly!

Any fool who is looking can see the parallels in far too many Black communities in this country. And we also can see when the elites benefit from the carnage and chaos of these conquered and defeated quarters of society with rampant sexism and misogyny.  Its gory and that’s what your daughters and granddaughters are going to face in THIS country. Heck many of them are already facing these living conditions.  The future is now. 

This weekend while the GRAMMYS were airing, 9 people at a local apartment complex were taken to the hospital. They were sick from carbon monoxide poisoning.  EMS suspects that the recent bout of cold weather caused them to turn on heating elements that were unsafe. The reason 9 people didn’t die from an odorless, colorless  gas is that three of the nine were children.  Because they were so small, the gas impacted them faster and they passed out- just like canaries in a mineshaft.

Some of you appear to hate to be reminded that in the War on Black Women you have a very REAL enemy and there are very real consequences for the attitudes this community has about women and girls. You keep wanting to write these repulsive people off as crazy or stupid.  You try to marginalize threats. I haven’t be talking about theory for almost 5 years.  Yes, many of the atrocities I’ve written about have been the results of the acts of a tiny group of people, but there was a community that nurtured and in far too many cases coddled. The attitudes of these communities towards the treatment of women and girls nurtured the predatory thinking and denied protection to victims. It is happening right now. Somewhere right now, a group of women in real life is trying to convince a woman or girl that it is perfectly permissible for her “man” to beat the living snot out of her. They are trivializing the abuse and providing arguments for why she should stay.  

These 25 repulsive women are your cultural monoxide monitors. Just because you can’t see the caustic and deadly effects of sexism and misogyny in your life on a daily basis, doesn’t mean that it doesn’t exist and it doesn’t mean that it won’t kill you.  Girls aren’t going to learn self respect and self worth by osmosis.  They aren’t going to learn about appropriate interpersonal relationships with boys via lightening strike. There isn’t a dignity, self respect, and personal boundaries fairy!

Let me repeat: THERE IS NO DIGNITY, SELF RESPECT and PERSONAL BOUNDARIES FAIRY!

All of you expecting girls to get these things magically are ..... FOOLS! 

Women like Chris Brown 25 Repulsive fans have no problem expressing their opinions and normalizing brutality against other women. Chastising and lamenting them isn’t enough. They must be confronted, rebuked, shamed and yes, BEATEN BACK.  Chris Brown will fight for no reason at all. - you have a reason to fight--- the lives of future generations of Black girls.

When was the last time you had a conversation with your daughters (and sons) about violence against women and girls? Probably  not since the year 200(NEVER).  So stop whining. It’s irritating and useless. Yes, y’all got on my nerves with your passivity and helplessness. 

Chris Brown’s repulsive fans have sent you a very clear warning. You need to decide if you’re going to put your daughters and sons in a hypobaric chamber filled with the oxygen of your truth and YOUR VALUES or if you are going to roll up into a ball and die on the floor. If you choose to roll up in a ball and die, please roll to your left so as not to impede the exit of people who want to live.

Because that’s what it comes down to - Chris Brown’s  repulsive fans emitted their poison are you going to plug the leak or let them take out more women and girls?

Whitney Houston Was Supposed to Make a Comeback...Dead at 48.

I always thought Whitney Houston was one record deal, one television show, one miraculous moment away from returning to greatness. Dayum. Dayum Dayum!.

I'm cross posting this from the Facebook fan page. I just heard that she passed on Facebook and I thought it was another social media hoax. But its not. Such a waste. DAYUM!

More than Michael Jackson, Whitney Houston defined by youth. I think I own every album. Know the words to every song. When I hydroplaned and slammed into a highway guardrail, I was listening to the Preacher's Wife soundtrack. 

This is just crazy! 48 years old. 

Terrance Howard: Black Women Are Antiquated, White Women Represent Progress:Your Red Tails Open Thread

Surprise! Sunday post. So you saw the movie, how was it? Red Tails is on pace to be #2 at the box office, with about 20 mil. Over at Shadow and Act, they are praising God that Red Tails saved Black Cinema. I guess we can expect three or four films next year produced by big studios with all-Black casts. *commence holding breath*

Miraculously or suspiciously, this interview of Terrance Howard and David Oyelowo talking about interracial relationships in Red Tails got buried in the lead up to the film.  First, I'm pro marriage freedom. Marry who you like. But when you basically say that marrying or having sex with a White woman symbolizes "freedom" and progress what does that say about having relationships with Black women?  Yeah, he said it. No, sadly, I'm not exaggerating. 

 All of this hullabaloo over "interracial relationships" is a cheap distraction. This issue isn't marriage and relationships, the issue is CASTING. Why did the Red Tails team GO. OUT. Of. THEIR WAY to avoid casting Black women? And for the Black women that were cast, why were they cut? This is an issue about employment opportunities and quite frankly discrimination by a team that were promoting a movie about the immorality of racial discrimination. If racial discrimination against Black pilots was immoral for the US military, why isn't it equally IMMORAL for the director and writers of Red Tails? Why isn't it equally IMMORAL for these two Black actors to justify the discrimination with a ridiculous answer. And to all of the women saying that there are not women in war movies...  

Did you notice the women in the movie? The mother and the wife. And here's the trailer for Pearl Harbor: Did you notice the women in the movie? Mothers, wives, children. And here is the trailer for The Patriot.. notice anything?

Yeah, in other words in addition to being delusional, you're also liars.