Saturday
Aug132016

Before You Go See Nate Parker's "Birth of a Nation"...

This is buzzing over on the WAOD Facebook Fan Page so I'm sharing on the blog as well-

Before you get on the bandwagon for Nate Parker's Birth of a Nation, read about his alleged involvement in a high profile sexual assault at Penn State. I'm unmoved by his interview with Deadline because it was part of a well-crafted campaign by his film distributor. He's only doing this now as to preempt questions during an OSCAR campaign. 

I might have felt otherwise if he had addressed the issue earlier outside the context of a marketing campaign. 

In other words, if they thought no one would make and issue out of it, he would not have said anything.

This appears calculating, controlling and manipulative. 

He shouldn't worry about how this will affect his OSCAR chances. Hollywood doesn't have an issue with rewarding actual or alleged sexual predators. WAOD Fanpage

WAOD Readers Responded with additional disturbing details:

What's interesting is that he's not even proclaiming his innocent by saying he was falsely accused of rape. He just said he was acquitted. There is a difference. In Nate Parker's interviews it's almost as if he's dismissing these questions about the rape case as an after thought. We all know that rape cases are notoriously difficult to prosecute and get a conviction. What probably hurt the young woman's case was that she had previous sexual relations with Nate Parker. Either way, I will not be supporting this film. I'm tired of slave narrative pain porn films. My heart really goes out to the victim. I hope she was able to get some healing. Part of me really hopes she comes forward and is able to share her story and get support. In my gut I believe her. - WAOD Fan Page

Readers provided DISTURBING details from the trial transcript:

 

" At trial, the woman testified she was intoxicated, unconscious through much of the encounter and upset to find she had experienced unwanted sex with Parker — though she acknowledged having willingly engaged in oral sex with him during an encounter the day before. More, she said she was shocked on becoming briefly conscious to find in her mouth the penis of another man, who was later identified as Celestin.

Read a portion of the trial transcript here.

In a phone call taped without the permission of Parker or his roommate, the woman falsely claimed to be pregnant, in what she said was an attempt to get him to identify the third sexual partner in the room that night. The police later monitored a second call during which both Parker and Celestin generally admitted the sexual encounter but insisted it was consensual.

“I’m not try, trying to be mean, but, I felt like you put yourself in that situation, you know what I mean?” said Parker. “I really felt like I didn’t do anything wrong.”

Read a partial transcript of the call here.

At trial, a third man, Tamerlane Kangas, testified that Parker waved him and Celestin to join him when they spied Parker and the woman having sex in the bedroom. While Celestin accepted the invitation, Kangas declined, and left the apartment. He was not charged with any crime. “I didn’t believe that four people at one time was — you know, it didn’t seem right,” he testified." 

S the other guy Tamerlane Kangas had enough sense to not have sex with an unconscious young woman but he didn't? Yeah I'm not buying it....He's gross - WAOD Facebook
 
The fact that the film distribution company is trying to repackage this is ridiculous. No personal responsibility AT. ALL. 
So I'll be skipping "Beyond the Lights" replays. 

 

 

Sunday
May292016

Nayla Kidd is Alive: We're Happy and We Totally Understand

This story is resonating over on the WAOD Facebook Page.  Nayla Kidd was a Columbia University student who went missing three weeks ago.  Her concerned mother traveled from Kentucky to New York City to find her.  Nayla was eventually found. Turns out her dissappearance was not the result of foul play, but based on a desire to escape a life that she did not like and the pressure of being a former high achieving child surrounded by other high achieving students. She was in a science program, but her true desire was to be an artist.  Some reporter from the NY Post tracked Nayla down and made her explain why she disappeared

Lots of people have lots of opinions and once again, we demonstrate how little we know about mental health or how people's brains work. Some people on Twitter are calling Nayla "selfish." Yes she was, but you're also assuming that the messages her brain was sending her while she was in crisis were logical and reasonable. How about some empathy and compassion.

Anywhoo, over on the WAOD Facebook Fan Page, I'm seeing some thoughts from readers that aren't being included in the online conversation in other places so I thought I'd highlight them here:

My response to a reader who thinks Nayla should have told someone where she was going:

 She should have done a lot of things, but she didn't, You are imposing your logic and reasoning on someone who wasn't thinking with logic or reason. She was in crisis and law enforcement did a wellness check. They do this everyday. Its why I pay taxes. I too wondered about the impact on a missing woman who was the victim of foul play, and then I had some empathy and compassion. We can spare it.  The Blogmother

On wanting to disappear:

As always you are right on time....many times when i was younger i wanted to disappear... WAOD Reader.

On the importance of self-acceptance:

Great article. Self acceptance is very hard along with direction of life. Glad she found her purpose and will shine.WAOD Reader

Here's another one:

So I think it's ultra-excellent advice to tell teens and early twenties trying to take control of their lives to contact the police BEFORE they drop off the grid. I'd like to hope a adult child would have a truly adult mentor or minister or somebody that could intercede on their behalf. But if not -- well -- you gotta do what you gotta do.

By the way, some teenagers and early-twenties choose suicide in order to not disappoint parents who can't back off, shut up, and listen. WAOD Reader

 

 

Nayla, we're glad you're alive. You aren't the first "star student" to want to get away from it all. Here's to a long and healthy life that allows Nayla to understand what her mother must have been feeling for the past three weeks.

To other college students wanting to escape their lives, here is one additional step to add after you deactivate your Facebook profile:

In the future if you decide to drop off the grid, after closing your Facebook account, walk into a local police precinct and tell someone you’re an adult, you’re alive, and your don’t want to be found and then bounce. The Blogmother.