This morning, TMZ Sports released video of former Baltimore Ravens running back, Ray Rice punching his then girlfriend, Janay Palmer in the head and knocking her out. We commented briefly on this when they got married a month later, but at the time, police sources were saying that the altercation between the two was brutal. I encourage you to skip watching the video-many people have said they regret watching.
This was posted over on the WAOD Facebook Fan Page:
Sheena RoyalLadi M Ray Rice should be ashamed for using marriage as a veil of respect and love. And, his wife, then girlfriend, should also be ashamed for marrying her abuser. Get out now, girl! WAOD FanPage
Tonya Robinson Why is everyone so bothered and worried about this woman??? He hit her not once but twice and apparently she IS NOT bothered by it at all because she was his GIRLFRIEND then and she is his WIFE now. Everyone has an opinion about everything today and they rant and rave forever on subjects that have nothing to do with them at all. He hit her not anyone of you and you are all on fire. Why not take that energy and apply it to something positive in your wonderful lives and be done with the one you are so upset with. Quite frankly she has moved on and accepted what happened because she FURTHERED the relationship after, creating an official bond with her abuser. I am going to take a guess and say none of you are in an abusive relationship (I hope), so move on and let their negativity be just that THEIR NEGATIVITY and don't allow it to become yours. Oh and before anyone says I am defending Rice let me stop you and say YOU'RE WRONG as two left feet. No woman should be knocked out by a man but she should want to leave.You don't need to know why Janay stayed. Your condemnation of her decision to marry Ray Rice isn't likely to increase the liklihood that Janay leaves Rice. You calling her names is basically another version of the abuse metted out by Ray Rice. -WAOD Fan Page
If you're a fully grown person, at some point you've interacted with another grown person whose significant other treats them like garbage.
Why they stay is a mystery. I've encountered situations like this on multiple occasions and I'll never receive an answer that is satisfactory to me even if they came up with an explanation. I'm not entitled to an explanation, nor am I obligated to go along with the wild and crazy rides of other people's abusive relationships.
What I do know is that it often takes multiple attempts to leave an abusive relationship and the most dangerous time for women in abusive relationships is when they try to leave. So the only thing you need to know is whether society, in general, or Janay Palmer's network of family and friends, in particular, have created an environment to make sure that she is safe and taken care of when and if she decides to leave.
It's normal to want to know "why"? But resist the urge. Knowing "why" doesnt change the fact that even if Janay Rice never leaves, she doesn't deserve to be beaten.
To those of you who can't spare any compassion towards Janay Palmer Rice without "knowing" why she stayed, I pity you. I hope you reach a point in your personal development where your compassion doesn't require perfection.